losing a teammate both military and civil civilian World happens how do you assist and promote healing and growth within a team that is lost a pivotal member what do you do when the emotional toll leaves your guys unfocused and is creating unacceptable risks yeah um you know I’ve talked about this this before and I think obviously and this can happen this part of life is death and people are going to die and you obviously we’re all going to deal they’re all going to face it at some time in a work environment how do you deal with it one of the things that I always say is get back to work right you yes you’re going to mourn yes you’re going to have your Memorial services and then you got to get back to work and I think if you let people if you give them too much time off if you let them sit around um they’re gonna get unfocused they’re going to start thinking about you know they’re gonna start thinking about things that are are not good to think about because we want to yes we want to mourn we want to do the we want to remember but at the same time and I say this all time we don’t want to dwell you don’t want to dwell in the past you want to remember but don’t dwell so I say get back to work going back to what we talked about earlier find out what your next mission is going to be you have more of a reason to achieve your mission because you lost someone one that you lost someone that can’t that can no longer carry on with their mission so for them carry on with your mission go forward don’t dwell in the past anybody that you lost that you cared about what would they want you to do would they want you to sit around and and sulk and look at the ground no they’d want you to get your gear get your mind set straight and get back after it so that’s what I recommend I think that’s that’s exactly right and I think getting to work uh the reason that’s important is is if these people if that person died you know and for the guys that we lost like if we just if we just gave up and walked away that means they died in vain for nothing and and we’re not going to do that we’re going to we’re going to double a triple quadruple down on that mission to make sure that we win that their sacrifices weren’t weren’t advain and I think that’s helping the team understand uh what you’re accomplishing and why they’re doing what they’re doing is is incredibly important and we wrote about that in extreme ownership and talk about it all the time that understanding why and briefing the team and helping them understand why is critical but yeah focus on accomplishing that mission is uh is what you got to do I think the other thing too is you know do everything you can to take care of that that that person and their family uh take care of their family and and help them out and you know that’s an obligation that never goes away that you’re always going to have uh and that’s extremely important and uh something that’s uh that’s helped me through you know those difficult losses is by serving others and look trying to look out for others uh and I got to do that even more than I do
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