how did you deal with losses in jiu-jitsu jiu-jitsu day today um losses assuming in a tournament right i just had my first tournament and got the floor wiped with me yeah welcome to jiu jitsu and the uh the obvious thing is you got beat good you learned i think we’ve i think we think we’ve gone through that one and then really you know how did you get beat what areas were you weak in then you analyze and improve in those areas and that’s jiu-jitsu right don’t dwell in in don’t dwell in your loss but learn from it and move forward and actually speaking of dave burke i was talking to dave burke and he was explaining to me his psychological current status in jiu jitsu so he’s however he’s he’s basically my age i’m 46 he might be 45 or something like that but he’s been basically a master of kind of everything he’s done you know what i mean i mean he’s like like factually yeah if you look at his life he’s been top gun top gun instructor he was telling me that during operation southern watch which was pre you know post first gulf war pre-911 he was the he was one of the very very very few guys that actually dropped a live bomb yeah and you know back in the day when no one had any experience he was a guy that had really really done it and and then he was talking on top gun instructor you’re just and then f35 f22 just all that stuff that he’s done and he was he was telling me that like if he thinks about it he gets a little bit bummed out because he’s just starting jiu-jitsu right now obviously it’s in his head yeah and he’s thinking oh well i’m never gonna reach the highest level that i should or could if i had started younger and so he if he it’s almost like if he thinks about that too much it’s almost like well but i’m just not gonna do it you know what i mean immediately was like of course i know that i’m gonna do it and i’m gonna be as good as i can but you know that that’s that’s also the way life is right yeah just like when you how do you deal with losing in life you learn from your mistakes you move on you don’t dwell it’s the same thing as jiu-jitsu you study your weaknesses you figure out what you can do you fix those problems you move forward you don’t dwell in the past that’s it yeah those got beat good yeah actually put it into perspective even more well okay so this is just an assumption i know i just had my first tournament i’m assuming white belt maybe blue belt okay i’m assuming yep you know it just doesn’t seem like at brown belt or something yeah you’re not asking for this question or you’re not in your first tournament yeah typically but um you never know but you wouldn’t have this in your mind where like how do you deal with loss you you won’t have that in your mind it’s a brown belt like you know you know it’s a little bit more clear anyway so unless you this has like scarred you for life i lost and i’ll never compete ever again kind of thing um i think this is this is a good way to think of it where you know how it’s like i don’t know your first girlfriend in like junior high or something dumped you like at the time it seems like dang i got dumped or whatever and then when you’re an adult you’re like oh my gosh same thing in jiu-jitsu so like when you’re a white belt and you lost your first you know as a white belt and you’re you know i don’t know a blue belt purple belt brown belt black but whatever and you’re thinking about your first tournament you’re like oh my gosh who cares it doesn’t matter at all and really when you kind of put into perspective unless you want to dedicate your life to competing the tournaments don’t really mean anything it’s just fun and if you take the fun out of it by putting everything on that one tournament that you’re currently doing probably you won’t want to do it and you’ll kind of think that that’s kind of what competing is about it’s not so if you’re if you lose your first tournament my first match in my first tournament i lost i didn’t get the floor wiped with me but that’s a common thing yeah you think back on it and not only do you well i think you’ll always remember the first one but um as far as like whether you want or lost it doesn’t matter at all totally doesn’t matter at all and you’ll find that the more you compete the less it’ll matter and then due to competition really unless you’re like really dedicating your your life to being a you know a good competitor um jiu-jitsu competitions you’re going to win some and you’re going to learn you’ll do some you’re going to win them you’re going to learn yeah and you learn and you learn oh my gosh that doesn’t work if i don’t time it correctly or dang that doesn’t work because that’s not a real submission i only do it to smaller guys and they tap because it’s uncomfortable kind of thing but in zeronim it doesn’t you learn these kind of things you know but it’s not even going to matter like dealing with the loss it’s not even going to be a factor because you’re just going to know that’s just part of it and really who cares when you’re kind of just starting out you know like if you ask like a top level black belt competitor you know did you win ask quailer okay hoiler right he tells the story about him and hoyce went into their first competition their dad said if you win i’ll give you 10 bucks if you lose i’ll give you 20 so it takes the pressure off like it’s not that big of a deal you know if you lose boom you know it’s all good that’s what that was for and hoiler lost hoist one hoiler lost he got the 20 bucks and he’s like sure i would have you know had hoiler one of the greatest legendary guys lost his first one yeah puts it in perspective okay it doesn’t matter at all you got 20 dollars you’re not always going to get the 20 bucks but just say it yeah it doesn’t matter it won’t matter and you’re gonna think same thing like high school like the stuff that happens in high school when it happens it seems like it’s a big deal but then when you’re an adult you’re like uh nothing happens as an adult cool it’s a cool memory but you know could have been better
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