I’m a huge fan of the podcast and I’d like your advice when I was younger I joined the National Guard in an attempt to do something with my life and get out of depression I lost my discipline and goals after basic training and continued in depression and disorganization I had the opportunity to go to fight to flight school but instead tested positive on a drug test and I was given a general discharge I of course take full responsibility and feel like an idiot how would you recommend moving past this failure what would you have done if your seal career ended with a mistake well if my seal career had ended with a mistake I would have figured out what my next mission was going to be that’s that’s what I would have done I mean I would have said okay I like that job I failed at it what can I learn from that and what can I do next differently to make sure I don’t make that mistake again I’m gonna learn from the past but I’m not gonna dwell on it mmm there’s no point in dwelling on it the only point in dwelling on just to learn from it so that’s what I would do here and then I would take what I learned from my experiences of where I failed and I would also take the positive things that I learned because you even that even that failure is a positive even that failures are positive cuz you realize you realize the value of the opportunity that you had and you blew it and you’re like okay I’m never to let that happen to get a lesson learned I’m actually stoked I get to learn that lesson because it’s gonna be more opportunities that come up in life and you got to make sure that you don’t disregard those opportunities when they come up and so I would have taken those lessons learned take that take that failure and turn it into something positive and made good things happen when I figure out what my new mission a new career was gonna be pretty straightforward mmm you can you can do so much good and you know that’s going back to this story that I told about Jeff in the beginning of this podcast one of the wording some of the wording that I struggled with in the kids story and again it’s on it’s the work a podcast one of the things that I struggled with in telling the story was I ended up saying Jeff had gone too far and he couldn’t correct himself yeah he had gone too far and he couldn’t come back and that’s a real hard thing to tell a person and it’s a real hard thing to tell a kid and the reason why I left it that way the reason why I kept it like listen you can make mistakes that you can’t come back from especially as a kid you can make mistakes that you can’t come back from they’re pretty rare right there’s not too many mistakes that are so Grievous that you can’t recover from them like this guy hey man he made a mistake failed a drug test given a general discharge that sucks mmm guess what he can do all kinds of good in the world he can make up for that ten volt he can start a business make money he can create a family he can raise great kids and there’s so many things that he can make sure his kids understand that and know that and learn from it and he can make sure some other neighborhood kids and high school kids and grade school kids he can make such an impact on the world by learning from that mistake so it’s very it’s a harsh thing to say like hey there’s some things you can’t now what this guy can’t recover from and this is what this is the fact that you have to face and this is why I told it this way in the kid story he didn’t understand when he made that mistake he didn’t understand that there’s some mistakes you cannot recover from he can’t be a pilot now hmm it’s not going to happen zero chance of him being a military pilot that’s the way it works so if I would have had the opportunity to tell him when he was 13 years old hey listen bro I get it you’re gonna step outside the box sometimes but there’s some mistakes that you can make that you’ll never be able to recover from so think about what you’re doing before you do them you need to think about what you’re doing before you do them and if I were to have the opportunity to tell him that when he was 13 years old he might have had a better decision-making process when he got older that’s why I left it that way for the kids so that they recognize that there are some things that you do as a person as a kid that you cannot recover from you cannot recover from them now that being said when you take this and you put it in perspective as an adult C n as an adult you have much broader world to be a part of and just because he’s not gonna be a pilot a military pilot by the way just because he’s not gonna be a military pilot there’s all kinds of other opportunities out there and you can explain that to an adult but it’s hard to explain that to a kid so what other opportunities I mean even if especially like oh you want to be a pilot cool you can become a civilian pilot and you can you know you can fly you can make things happen that way but what we’re not gonna do and what I would not do is dwell on the past and dwell on what thought made the big missed opportunity is because guess what that’s an that’s a missed opportunity that there’s all kinds of people in the world would love for that to be their biggest mistake that they’ve made that’s their that’s it they would love there’s someone sitting in prison right now that’s like man I wish all I did was get it fail a drug test and I couldn’t learn my lesson instead I’m sitting here in prison or I got injured mmm really bad cuz I did something that I shouldn’t have done or I made a bad decision or I got someone that I’d care about hurt or injured because I took him in a car when I was drunk like those are the kind of mistake this mistake sure it’s a bummer guess what there are infinitely infinitely worse mistakes that he could have made infinitely worse hmm so you’re all right then you’re okay learn from it don’t dwell on it move on and go go do something really positive in the world
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