i was hoping to get your thoughts on bullying if your child is being bullied what would you tell him or her this is i guess it’s a little bit of a softball for me to throw this question out because you know what i’m going to say get your kid a jiu jitsu you can jujitsu immediately um get them in there and let them start to learn what it’s like to deal with people physically and it will build up their confidence and it won’t be a false confidence it’ll be a real confidence because they will know how to handle themselves they will have people that are trying to take them down to the ground and trying to choke them and they will learn to stop that from happening and they will learn to do it to other people when warranted yeah so that’s how you prevent bullying in my opinion you also get him to start doing pull-ups push-ups dips you get him to do a little bit of boxing maybe even a little muay thai i’ll tell you at our gym over the years we’ve probably had half a dozen kids that have come in specifically because they were getting bullied at school and every one of those cases within three months four months maybe six months at the outset the parents are coming to me and saying he’s not getting bullied anymore and there sometimes there’s that that that incident where i’ve had a few students that have you know these are kids are you know 10 years old getting picked on getting picked on getting picked on and all of a sudden they start training jiu jitsu and then one day they choke out the bully and they never get picked on again and they’re confident and they’re not jerks about it they become defenders because they know what it’s like to be bullied so they don’t like to see other people get bullied so i would say you know get your kids into jiu jitsu if they’re getting bullied and it will not only teach them to prevent themselves from being bullied it will prevent them from becoming a bully yeah because they’ll recognize what it’s like and what the power of physical intimidation is yeah and they will not like it yeah yeah and and i would say would help them not become a bully because a lot of stuff that goes on at home you know everyone’s different everyone’s family is different but a lot of times bullies people kids that become bullies they’re bullied at home so being a bully is just a result of something else you know so yeah jiu-jitsu because it helps your your confidence and your security as a kid so you will feel less insecure if you’re an insecure kid so that alone is really powerful even if you are prone to becoming a bully and this is kind of this is kind of well known i think it’s pretty well known that usually when you’re bullied like when someone’s bullying someone else even adults it’s not necessarily about beating them up and picking on them beating them up it’s it’s less about the physical part of it and more about just the mental power it’s the power trip so when you learn jiu jitsu and man i’m telling you i i wasn’t really bullied or nothing like that but when you start to know jiu-jitsu you have it in your head it’s it’s almost like you can’t help but just radiate that kind of secure confidence so when if you like if you’re if you roll in and you know jujitsu now and a bully tries to bully you he will gather immediately and there’s programs like specific programs having to do with jiu-jitsu you know bully proof and all these stuff and just generally speaking you learn this in jiu jitsu where you just basically you just stand your ground and you basically you can there’s all these different ways to do it but you call out the bully like are you are you trying to fight me right now and just standing up to him will usually stop the bullying because if they bully you and you’re like oh oh and i’ll tell you even though a majority of the bullying is verbal or mental or psychological yeah it’s all on the premise all the bullying is built on the premise most of the time that i can physically beat you up so therefore you can’t do anything yeah occasionally you’ll get some young scrappy little loudmouth kid that just bullies people just on the fact that they just don’t care right right that’s a rare that’s a rare breed most bullies they feel like they can physically win and therefore they can mentally abuse people yeah and once that once the once the victim realizes you know what i can actually take this person out the whole dynamic changes yeah yeah and just that that first stage of standing up to him just even verbally that’s in the bully’s mind that’s a little indicator you sh i can’t i’m only this guy but some beliefs they might be like hey size advantage this guy’s just feeling a little triumphant today and he’s going to try to stand up to me and then they’ll they’ll push it and then when you know the jiu jitsu yeah it man you can deal with bullies really easy as a kid double leg take down mount yeah slap to the faces man make a joke i wish i knew it when when i was a little kid it teaches you perfectly where to be and where not to be where you just control the fight okay it can be big and oh man oh i wish i started when i wish he was around when i was young
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