so a very specific example then um my son he’s three i would love for him to get into brazilian jiu jitsu just like me which i also got into thanks to you two gentlemen thank you very much uh so how do i encourage him without pushing him without you know just getting him into it really you have to make it fun you have to make it fun and it is much better for it to be fun once a week then for them to hate it three times a week the kid that hates it three times a week and you think i’m doing him a favor or i’m doing her a favor cause i got her in there whether she likes it or not she’s three years old bro the best possible thing you can do is not make them train jiu-jitsu right now it’s make them enjoy jiu-jitsu right now i did not do this well with my kids i didn’t it’s horrible when my when my especially my daughters my daughter when they were very young it was jujitsu jiu jitsu we were doing they were doing jiu jitsu six days a week they were like six and that was that was that was part of it let me tell you what i did that’s worse what what’s worse is i was like okay you’re also going to compete because competing makes you better and it gets worse because then it was oh when i take you to compete since i’m the coach i’m going to put you in a higher weight class i’m gonna put you against uh older kids and you know what if you lose look if you lose it doesn’t matter because you’re gonna be tougher so go out there do your best if you lose don’t worry about it it’s going to make you tougher so my daughters go to compete in jiu jitsu tournament jiu jitsu tournament jiu jitsu tournament what happens to him they get beat they get beat by someone that’s older they get beat by someone that’s heavier is that fun that sucks what do i think what does idiot think oh you’re getting tougher and so by the time they were 10 it was like i don’t want to do any of this crap anymore and it got to a point where i was like okay look this is ridiculous um i i realized the mistake that i made and i just had to back off and and luckily my son made it through that time period where he he kept training all the time and and became very good at jiu jitsu and and wrestling but with the girls i i didn’t do it right so find a good school where the jiu jitsu is fun don’t force it down their throat let me tell you one more really quick story my son had a friend who was like you know his running mate and when he was six years old i said yeah we’ll bring your son to jiu jitsu let him try it he tried it at six years old he didn’t like he tried it one time i liked it got choked into crying he tried it at age seven hey we’ll try it again didn’t like it hated it tried it at age eight didn’t like it hated it age nine his dad trained his dad had started training his he kind of got to look at like oh that’s pretty cool by the time he was nine and he tried it he liked it and he liked it because he liked it and he was then old enough to make a decision and want to train and started training hard and he got good really quick it it wasn’t like oh he missed those four years of training they didn’t make a big difference is my point they don’t make a big difference so the most important thing you can do as a parent is make it fun for your kids make working out fun make jiu jitsu fun make school fun make these things enjoyable make let them win you know put them in positions where they’re going to win and i’m not saying every time because you do have to learn how to lose let them learn to lose when they occasionally let them learn to lose when they get a little older but make it fun for them that’s the key
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