how do you handle it when someone up the chain of command beat raise trust mmm like what is this like lying they lied you or this could be this is a huge this is a huge spectrum okay then so for number one you just learned right you just learn something about someone’s character who now kind of know better what you’re dealing with now if this is a major situation you might have to immediately confront it and or go above them in the chain of command I mean if there’s lives at risk if there’s something morally wrong that is happening if there’s something illegal that’s happening that now you’re going to get wrapped into and that’s another decision you got to make if you’re not gonna be wrapped into it then its decision you got to make if you want to ruin this person’s life whatever that’s that’s a different decision that’s not this question we’d have to deal with that the separate question are innocent people being hurt so if if it’s something like that lives at risk you know something morally wrong is happening something illegal is happening innocent people being hurt then you’re probably going to have to say something you’re gonna have to say something mm-hmm now I will tell you this before you say something make sure all your ducks in a row make sure you have evidence don’t go off half-cocked be ready because people that are deceitful like this they they prepare they are ready for battle to protect themselves and they don’t care what happens to other people so you got to watch out for that now if it’s something really if it’s something minor you know if it’s something minor then that’s something that you log down and in the brain right and something that you log down in the brain and um but it allows you to see person’s character and that means again it’s a minor infraction but it also means you got to watch yourself and you got to watch them a little bit more closely mm-hmm you got to be careful because people like that they think they’re smarter than everyone else they think that they’re getting away with lies so they think they’re smarter there’s like a little hint of sociopath in there that they can get away with these lies and so you got to watch them you got to watch them carefully in in like I said it kind of goes back to that previous question because you don’t want to be a person that comes across as dishonest yourself and if people don’t think they can trust what you’re saying they’re not going to trust you with other things so if you know I’m not giving you good feedback because I’m too nice hmm you’re not going to start your you’re not going to respect my opinion anymore right so you know when you’re when you’re dealing with someone if someone comes to you instead of again this is honesty versus dishonesty if you come to me and say hey what do you think of this plan I’m not gonna say I think that’s a stupid plan I might say I don’t know if that’s how I do it I might try this approach right you’re just gonna be diplomatic if you if I’m not gonna say to you I I don’t think you’re smart enough to figure this out I want to move you to a different division because I don’t think you’re smart enough to have solved this problem I’m not gonna say that I’m gonna say you know what I need you on this other project over here that I think you’re gonna be really knock this thing out of the park mmm no you’re gonna know deep inside but it’s called tact and that’s what you have to use but back to the honesty or when person betrays your trust you’ve learned you’ve learned about their character if it’s a big thing you’re gonna have to talk about you’re gonna have to tell somebody yeah it’s a little thing you got to watch right
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