how do you deal with being evaluated specifically by different people with different opinions and motives oh how do you deal with being evaluated well I can tell you right now nobody likes being evaluated right nobody hmm now you might get somebody that says oh I love being coach cinch and there are some people that are pretty positive about that and as a matter of fact I have clients where they want to be coached right but most people especially in a normal environment like if you go out new hire someone to coach you okay but most people in a normal environment they don’t like being evaluated they don’t like being judged yeah always judging so the first thing you have to do when it comes to being evaluated is get that in your head that you like everybody else has defense mechanisms and they’re gonna flare up as soon as somebody says something critical of you as soon as somebody goes to evaluate you your defense mechanisms are going to go up and then once that happens once you feel those defense mechanisms go up you got to put your ego in check mm-hmm you got to put your ego in check and then once you do that you gotta listen listen I know it sounds crazy listen to what they’re saying don’t even don’t even think of a response say to yourself you know what I’m not even gonna respond I’m only going to listen to what they’re saying yeah but in two kind of em you’re already you can’t even take it no no I can’t take it oh I’m saying but I think because people will quote-unquote do that but they won’t really do it as far as just I’m not gonna say anything I’m just gonna listen yeah there that that’s actually like that’s actually like it that’s actually how they set it up to look I’m not saying exact exactly what I’m talking about that you don’t or they’ll all body language you know the kind where they’re like you know they’ll do that kind of stuff don’t do that don’t do that so so you’re right you got to listen and not just listen but truly listen not listen just with your ears but listen with your mind and your brain and with an open mind an open mind and then think about what people are saying and then see it is important to see it from their perspective because if you just see it from your perspective you’re not even seeing what the criticism really is you’re only seeing the defence of the criticism so actually get in their mind and say wow what does this look like from their perspective why would they be taking the effort and the risk and the challenge of trying to present this problem to me if it wasn’t important mm-hmm are they just doing it just to make me mad no they’re trying to help you and you know what just like just like a joke you know they say like every joke has some little truth to it every little criticism even if the person is your archrival their criticism is built on something so what is that reality that you can take away from it even though you got to take it with a grain of salt especially if the person like it says here if the person has different opinions and motifs well of course they have different opinions you want people with different opinions maybe they have different motives so maybe you think they’re trying to usurp your authority or something like that so maybe you got to take it with a grain of salt but find the grain of truth in there too and find what it is from their perspective what the problem is and learn from it and one of the most beautiful things about this is you take the criticism and you make adjustments you know how do I deal with about being evaluated I try and accept the evaluation and make adjustments to improve myself as a human hmm that’s how I deal with being evaluated and I’m not saying I deal with it anybody better than anybody else because everybody gets defensive myself included hmm you know we had a little conversation when we started tonight right sure you said I repeated some stuff on the last pot allegedly and you know and then we talked through it and then I said you know and you know I noticed that your camera work was a little bit off and you know it was just to put my point was is to prove how defensive we all get and we all get and you know what I did I said you know what I noticed that too you know as far as me repeating there was a couple little sections and it was because we pulled from multiple different books and they had a little bit of overlap and looking back on it probably shouldn’t have but at that time I thought you know what this is emphasizing really important points yeah but still people don’t want to hear the same thing over and over again so I probably shouldn’t have done that so guess what criticism accepted and on I will adapt adjust and I will make improvements to my game based on your criticism of my technique my skill and my life
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