I have a question about leadership I’m a firefighter and some of the guys on my department have been pushing me to step up and put in for an opera officer’s position and I’m honored but when we’re one when we were going to a call I was presented with an opportunity to lead and passed it up I don’t know what I was thinking I can’t believe I did that did I just lose credibility if I did is there a was to get back that back away right that’s what he meant yeah if I did is there a way to get that back Thanks okay so first of all this is just a general rule if you want to lead always be ready to lead right be ready to step up make sure you’re not stepping on people’s toes as always but be ready to lead and the way you do that is you think about you what you do in certain situations you should always be thinking about that you’d be thinking even if you were a trooper or a follower in a certain situation you should think okay how would I leave what would I do right now what moves where I make what would I do if a contingency happened right now and what are the possible contingencies that I could be looking at what are they and if you’re thinking that as a as a frontline guy win the opportunity pops up then just jump on it boom there you go then when it does happen of course you got to stay detached because you want to make sure that you don’t leave too far you don’t overstep your bounds and step on toe so you got to be careful that so you need to live with that mindset and that will make you such a a better leader when the moment does come if you’re always thinking about if you’re always watching like you talked about earlier I’m watching the leader I’m seeing what they’re doing I’m seeing what I might do differently I’m still supporting them I’m supporting you if you’re in charge I’m supporting you but I’m thinking I might I might do this and then you watch what would my what would the results of my decision have been compared to what they did so you you can be thinking like leader even though you might not necessarily be in a leadership position hmm so live with that mindset that’s what you need to do now as far as you passing up the opportunity to lead which guess you’re admitting wasn’t error first of all say there’s a probably it’s probably not quite as obvious to everyone else as it is to you in your mind you’re thinking oh man I blew it this was my chance and problem no I bet the guys went back from that call and didn’t even think about it didn’t even think about it again most likely unless it was just some flake right now I don’t want to lead I’m not ready if you did that well then yeah people are gonna but if you just said if you just kind of backed away from a moment and people people might have realized it but anyways regardless of that you probably guess what I’m gonna say then what you gonna do is I want it right you gotta own it mm-hm so when the opportunity presents itself to explain what happened and what went wrong and what you did wrong right not making excuses but explain where you were weak you know so you say hey guys you know hey remember that last call I should have stepped up and I had the didn’t have the wrong mindset I wasn’t ready to lead and I let not only that let you guys down I let myself down and I’m not gonna let that happen again from now on I’m gonna have leadership in the front of my mind that’s what I’m gonna do I’m gonna be thinking about what needs to get done I’m gonna be thinking about contingencies and how I’m gonna lead and I promise the next time this opportunity comes up I’m gonna be ready to lead so I’m sorry for letting you guys down won’t happen again okay that’s that’s it boom mm-hmm get the mindset live and think as a leader regardless of what position you’re actually in and then when they call you and the opportunity presents itself step up and lead obviously that’s your default mindset now it is truly was it always like that and even before it’s that story that I’ve told over and over again about being on an oil rig and coming up and guys not know where to go everyone freezing and and me going okay I’m just step back and look around and make a call and when I did that that was it hmm and so I I when it clicked it clicked or I would I guess I was thinking about it beforehand because I was you know observing my leaders and thinking about what they were doing and what I would do differently in a certain situation yeah yeah that’s crazy because even in everyday life which is what I represent everyday life but you know how your wife or girl whatever it’s like hey you know what’s the dinner situation Oh what do you want oh I don’t care whatever you want you know that’s a time where I always feel this what this guy just asked you know I mean obviously it’s nothing compared to his situation but like hey well you know what do you think for dinner kind of thing and I’m like hey I don’t I don’t care and that’s really how I feel I don’t care I’m kind of down for whatever and the thing but that’s not why that’s not why she’s asking me she wants me she wants me to make that decision she want you to step up and lead step up and be like this is what we’re having for dinner I’m gonna go get her I’m gonna make it or whatever that’s what she wants and there’s no that situation comes up on it that’s a good like you know the old that the Jo actually that’s kind of like a joke you know when you ask the girl when a girl says or when you have to go hey what do you want to eat and she don’t I don’t care whatever and then you say okay we’re gonna go eat hearing today and I really like of course see ya you gotta yeah I feel like this guy when I do that though that’s the point there so from now on you’re gonna step up and lead I’m gonna do it yes but I want it to be my default is why you know like yours is like your default like oh this what we’re doing okay you know what I wish that was true with her when it did come to dinner actually you know it kind of is true cuz I only go to like three places to eat yes and I go to one eighty percent of the time yeah thanks or the other twenty percent of the time so she says where you want to go I’m going to say that my restaurant yeah we’re gonna Raglan’s and Obie does she like Raglan’s though she does oh yes easier yeah but and if she doesn’t feel like it then she’ll be like I don’t really want to go there okay cool now it’s on you I gave you my vote right no you don’t want to do that but I think you’ve still got to do it you still got to make a decision you gotta like cuz in a way I’m in the same boat as your second scenario they’re like if she’s not in there so I like then I just gonna name my secondary restaurant all right there you go maybe she’ll say yes maybe she’ll say no well that got to be my default now though all right step up and lead yeah you know what I mean what I got to do I got to prepare I got to prepare myself well yeah I gotta have like five options just ready to go on deck that’s what I have three so that’s not yeah and they all come in the same order I must be really boring hey you focus on what’s important that’s good well whenever my wife says uh you know don’t you ever want to try anything new no yeah and I don’t I don’t yeah speaking of which darling you’re my girl anything yeah I’m at my happy the same thing very happy yes that’s actually that I’m gonna use that there but what do you do when the team wants to try something new all right let’s rock all right let’s do that all right good tips
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