should someone always be detached okay straightforward question the answer is no someone shouldn’t always be detached because otherwise you aren’t enjoying anything in your life so don’t always be attached detached no but at the same time that being said you should be aware all the time if you are getting sucked into the emotional vortex right you’ve got to be aware of that once you have that awareness you don’t need to be attached all the time at all you can I’m not always detached at all but but I’ve got clear warning signs when things start going sideways and I start going down some vortex I know immediately I just detach so it’s really easy it’s but it’s a does take practice and eventually you realize that you know when you’re feeling overwhelmed when you’re feeling emotional and you’re feeling angry or you’re feeling frustrated when you start feeling those things and you’ve sent them really quickly and you recognize them you just detach boom you’re done yeah so that’s what you got to do is start recognizing those red flags so that you can enjoy the good things and when something starts getting crazy you can detach yes so it’s like an overall skill of being able to control when to detach and when you don’t have to being able to identify yeah when you need to detach yeah then being able to detach then you’re good yeah so it’s like it’s a matter of being capable of making an accurate beneficial choice yes but the identification is the hard part yes people what happens to people when they talk to me is they go they after the fact they realize I lost my temper and I did this yeah okay you didn’t detach in time and that’s why you ended up there yeah so or I said some things to my you know my ex-girlfriend that I shouldn’t have said because I got too emotional exactly you didn’t detach in time yeah you got crazy and emotional so the skill that you’re missing is identifying when you’re starting to get too emotional whatever that emotion might be once you identify boom detach yeah control then you take control yeah and make tactical moves yeah not emotional move that’s ultimately the art you know the move you know how like jiu-jitsu guys if they never take no you know what the moves when you’re emotionally detach the moves actually aren’t that hard they’re actually usually pretty obvious mmm like you’re you’re in a fight with your girlfriend and and you’re starting to go down the wrong lane as soon as you did that you go oh I know what I need to do yeah I should say I’m sorry and tell her that we can go to the restaurant that she wants to go to or whatever you know I mean the moves are not actually that hard we never make good moves when we’re being emotional instead we just go no I don’t want to go to that restaurant we went there three weeks Turo I don’t care if I said that to you you deserve me to say that to you yeah yeah yeah you go down the wrong path but what if somebody’s like detached the whole time even when problems don’t arise you know like that then we don’t have a relationship right that’s what I mean that’s that’s what I’m saying so not being detached all all the time that’s what that’s the answer the question right so let’s leave reiterated it for everyone yeah Matthew hey I want to learn you get to I want to learn to mess people up bro that’s not really what it is jujitsu is having the skills to quote mess people up but what you learn ultimately is you put yourself in a position where you can make that decision isn’t I’m the mess I’m gonna or not you know and controls you Jitsu so that’s really what most people that start with the vision of I want to build a mess people up most people continue that that do continue on the journey of jiu jitsu arrive at a point where they realize that they don’t want to abuse this power that they have yeah most people yeah there is a small percentage of people that don’t that are bullies yeah bullies when they started they become more effective bullies yeah more fearful more more fear in posing bullies yeah which sucks yeah but you did to his power that’s where you gotta have some of it yeah agree but compared to like a I don’t know anything where it’s like striking based or whatever it’s like you it like I’ve said this where I’m not gonna go deep in it but you go from zero to ten when you throw a strike Tanner no you can’t just throw a light one and be like okay are we no you just lapped me in the face wrinkled oh you brought it to ten when you knocked him out or not it was funny because like I see I see my kids and and what you’re talking about can happen very easily when other people are in the group with my kids I mean because they’ve been training jiu-jitsu so even like against any normal kid there’s no factor yeah like I seem you know my son will be wrestling around with some kid it’s no factor yeah and it’s you know it’s kind of cool yeah kind of cool yeah it’s real cool yeah I think little you know my kids aren’t like jujitsu like there’s kids out there that are sick competitive jujitsu all the time yeah right yeah that that’s not what I’m talking about like just knowing jujitsu a hundred percent correct yes and but when I see kids doing jujitsu especially like I’m not saying in necessarily even in a tournament I’m just saying in jujitsu in class they’re gonna at the beach or whatever when I see like man I wish I could have done just a locator you don’t fun that would be yeah man yeah make up for it now that’s right
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