I’m having issues playing the game quote/unquote at work I’m quiet and friendly but I prefer to work hard rather rather than stand out and talk I found I have trouble forming more personal connections with my boss and coworkers what are your tips so look when I talk about playing the game I’m not talking about the fact that you have to change your entire personality profile to start to connect with people that’s not what I’m saying don’t have to go from being someone that’s what they say quiet and friendly you don’t have to become some chatty extrovert running around making small talk with anybody and on top of that there’s a little bit of a statement here that says you know I’d rather work hard as if there’s these are mutually exclusive things which they are certainly not so this being forming relationships with people and playing the game does not interfere with your work at all I’m not saying that you sit around and talk when there’s work to be done but there’s gonna be natural breaks in whatever you’re doing there’s gonna be moments where skip the action pauses and you get a chance to connect with somebody so that’s fine so so what are some tips that how would you do this so I thought about this of you wanna start with something small right but you want to engage this is the key point I don’t just want to throw something at you I want to talk at you and besides when it’s much easier just to let someone talk about themselves so the one I’m what my advice in this particular question is is to tell them something about yourself like something minor about yourself but then that kind of ties into something that you can ask them mm-hmm and then they can talk to you because most people like to talk about themselves so you ask them a question about themselves and then you go so you know something something maybe something slightly related to work so it’s not just some random statement that you’re making you know you’d say you know what we did it yesterday at work you’re reminded me of something right reminded me of something else and then maybe it reminded me of a movie ma you know what we were doing yesterday reminded me of this movie every scene that movie mm-hmm and at least you’re gonna get well no cuz I don’t watch a lot of movies or no I haven’t seen that movie or oh I’ve seen that we leave it’s a popular movie but chances are they’re seeing it you know what I mean and all of a sudden you’ve got a little bit of a conversation going and that’s all we’re looking for we’re not looking to turn into like chatty catty mm-hm we’re just trying to build build relationships with people so you know who they are so that they know who you are that’s what we’re talking about nothing crazy start small build from there mm-hmm yeah pretty straightforward yeah in and through that building process what I kind of found is one and I guess maybe this is a little tactical thing you can kind of throw out whenever but you know and you know when people give you advice or they tell you something about themselves that’s something I don’t know whatever whatever the story is right and maybe some strategy they used to do X Y Z it can be super small if you let them know that you remembered like in the future later on when you zoom again you say I remembered what you said last week you know tie-in this yeah and just say oh it can be the smallest a purple belt jujitsu mental jujitsu I like it it give me the smallest thing and it just makes you feel good so that of that person will just essentially feel more open with you they’re like oh my gosh this guy really pays attention to me oh yeah makes him feel valuable all that stuff just on that small level you know so as far as building little patience I’d say that’s a cool thing to kind of remember to do if you can’t that’s it that’s a cool kind of thing to remember too
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