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Nine in 10 young people in the UK believe that their life is lacking purpose and a lot of people are turning back to religion. There is something going on. >> This is about the most important thing that anyone could ever find out about their life and God has made us for a purpose and the purpose flows from that meaning. >> I kind of reject that cuz this is a perfect example of a solution being provided without explaining exactly why it provides a solution and that's what people are doing in religious traditions. I hard disagree. For me, finding meaning and purpose is like a very practical thing. >> And that's what I want to talk about today. >> We are joined by an atheist, Christian, and spiritual thinker >> to find an answer to the purpose crisis millions are facing today. >> One of the reasons that I'm a Christian is because it's the best explanation for the way things are. >> But if Christianity were true, we would not expect the kind of suffering that is present in the world. >> So, I'm very curious. What if I died from cancer at 1 years old? >> So, someone violated God's commands and that had an impact on the world. So children get cancer because a few million years ago someone ate a fruit. If you want religion to provide existential comfort for people who are suffering, you have to do more in the face of children dying of cancer than some reference to mythical human beings. >> But if your worldview does not have a way of making sense or moral intuitions about suffering, it's not an adequate worldview. >> What I would say a science and spirituality can really add is it's effective in terms of reducing suicidality, improving resilience, giving them a reason to wake up in the morning. And we'll get into that. And Alex, if someone's listening now and they feel lost in their life, is there any advice that you could give them? >> So, as an atheist, I'm offering a psychological explanation. So, I would recommend that they >> You're spot on, Alex. So, the first thing to understand is it is an internal feeling. And we found in our study that
if you your sense of purpose increases by 68%. [Music] >> Ole, Greg, Alex. The reason I wanted to speak to all three of you today is to discuss meaning and purpose. And there's some stats that I wanted to share that kind of frame the discussion. Three in five young Americans believe that their life lacks purpose. Nine in 10 young people in the UK believe that their life is lacking purpose. And when I look across other stats as it relates to things like mental health, 59% of Brits said they lived a meaningful life compared to just 25% who said they did not. In an October 21 survey, 34% of men in the UK said life had no meaning compared to 18% of women and 50% of the same group who said that their lives lack purpose and meaning said that their poor mental health was linked to not knowing what to do with their life. Mhm. >> And to give some further stats which I found really interesting around the rise of religiosity, in the UK, a belief in God amongst 18 to 24 year olds has risen from 18% in 2021 to 37% in 2025 according to Yuggov. And in the UK, monthly church attendance has risen from 4% up to 15% in 2025. There is something going on >> and that's what I want to talk about today. But before we do that, I'd love to understand the perspective that all of you bring to this conversation. So if I start with yourself, Alec, >> you know, it's it's interesting you mentioned a lot about mental health. I'm a psychiatrist. So for me, finding meaning and purpose is like a very practical thing. So literally, a patient will come into my office. They'll say, "I have no reason to live. There's there's no nothing worth it in life. I am suicidal. I want to kill myself." So I have a job as a clinician to like fix that problem in a very like practical way. So, I've got, you know, a couple of weeks, hopefully 15, 20 weeks to teach them how to find purpose. And so, usually the way that I approach that is there's there's a lot of sort of evidence-based scientific approaches to finding purpose. I think those tend to work really well, but I'm I'm sure, as my philosopher colleagues will will point out and tear me apart, you know,
science has a lot of shortcomings. And so then what I I tend to find works incredibly well is adding a certain degree of spiritual practice to that. And usually when we put those two things together, things work. And the the real proof point for me was when I started streaming, 10,000 people reached out to me in one month asking, hey, like do you have room in your private practice? And so I started to think about, okay, if this is a methodology, then can it be taught? So, I started this coaching program and what we found in our pilot study of,453 people is that if you stick with the program for about 20 weeks, your sense of purpose increases by 68%. I'd love to hear from my colleagues, but I I think, you know, if someone asks me, "What is the meaning of life?" I I don't know, but if someone says, "I have no meaning. Can you help me with that?" The answer is absolutely yes. >> And I want to attempt to just define two terms that you said there. One is purpose. And it doesn't have to be a perfect definition but roughly what you mean by that. And then you said you introduced spiritual practice. What did you mean by that? >> So what I think about is purpose is using something called factor analysis. So if you ask someone do you have direction in life? Do you have purpose in life? Is there meaning in life? All three of those things cluster together to some. Even being in control correlates with that. So if you were in control of your life, your sense of purpose will increase. So there are a lot of these like words that we use but all of these words tie back to some internal sense of what is happening in your life. So that's how I would uh describe purpose >> in terms of spiritual practices. What my experience is is that if you look at human beings who say they have purpose and human beings who don't have purpose, their lived experiences in life are different. So when I work with survivors of trauma, they have certain experiences like literally we can scientifically sort of measure this. You have a particular experience which destroys your sense of meaning in the world. I had a patient once who was attacked in a bathroom for about 5 minutes. And in 5 minutes this person had a sense of what
they were doing in life, was dating, was doing well in college, had loving parents, and in five minutes their compass for navigating the world was shattered. So if we sort of think about experience can lead to a loss of purpose, experience can also lead to a gain in purpose. Now the spiritual tradition that I come from is all about particular practices that evoke certain subjective experiences and as people have those experiences their sense of purpose increases and this is where I think there's a major shortcoming of science. So science can tell you what you should do, but it doesn't create experiences in and of itself, right? So we can scientifically understand that the highest risk factor for pornography addiction is having no meaning in life. But even if we know that, that doesn't help us like fix the problem. Then there's always a question of how like so we can discover something with science, but then there's a question of how do we actually like move from point A to point B? And that's where I find spiritual practice is incredibly helpful. Mhm. >> Would you classify yourself as religious >> or or >> Yes, I think so. >> Greg, >> y >> what is the perspective you bring to this conversation and what's the the lived experience, the academia that um lends itself to that perspective? >> Yeah, there's a whole bunch of that fitting in and I relate to a lot what you're saying uh Alo about people's challenges. Now what's interesting to me about this whole discussion since I'm a Christian uh and I understand the world from a theistic perspective because I think it's the best explanation for the way things are >> just to give a definition to that um theistic what does that mean >> a personal god >> a god >> there is a personal god who is involved with the world he made the world and he still maintains activity as opposed to theistic which just wound up the clock and let it go okay so my view is god is still involved olved in fact so involved that he actually came to earth in the person of Jesus of Nazareth to create a
rescue plan. Now, what's interesting to me about this broader question, we can get into more details too, is that it's not if there is a God who made the world for a purpose with meaning, people can participate in that meaning and purpose even if they don't know God. They're not they won't be experiencing what they were made for, which is to be in friendship with him with the plan that he's made for their flourishing, but they still can flourish in some measure in so far as they touch on these objective features. But in so far as we are able even without belief in God to kind of get in that groove the things that God made us for the purposes that he intends in light of being made like him in some way in his image there's going to be a measure of satisfaction but what they'll be missing is is the ultimate and that is that friendship with God and being restored in that. Alex. >> Yes sir. >> Same question for you about your what you bring to this uh conversation in terms of your perspective, your experience and maybe some of your sort of personal journey. Well, for for my own part, I was quite swept up in the new atheism movement, uh, which was a mid2000s publishing phenomenon with the likes of the Dawkins and the Hitchens of the world, saying that religion is evil and terrible. And I think promising an alternative, a kind of secular humanist utopia, that if you'll only throw off these oppressive religious systems, you will regain your spiritual autonomy and be able to assert yourself and the intrinsic meaning that you have within yourself. People tried that and it didn't seem to work. And I think that's because the new atheist movement was quite philosophically shallow. It didn't seriously engage with the existential component of religious belief and why it exists in the first place. And I think that is why it exists. I think humans are in a strange predicament due to the mystery of consciousness. We find ourselves possibly uniquely amongst other animals in the position of being mortal, being physically embodied, being in a world, but also knowing those things. It's one thing to experience the world. It's one thing to be it's another thing to be aware that you're experiencing it. Uh Josh Rasmusen once
said there's a difference between noticing a tree and noticing that you've noticed a tree. We have this sort of second order abstraction that we can do. So, we know that death is coming, for example, and death makes a mockery of everything that we do. Seems to just obliterate any sense of purpose or meaning because anything that we're building will ultimately, as far as we're concerned, be gone. And that may well be unique to human beings. And so I'm not the first to suggest that the principal motivating factor behind meaning infused activities that humans do is an engagement in death denial or some kind of immortality project. People literally for fear of as a result of the knowledge that this will all come to an end engage in what we might call immortality projects. They engage in things which will outlast themselves which give them a sense of escaping this death. The most obvious example is in religious traditions which literally promise immortality for your own soul. But if you look just practically at where people subjectively report finding meaning, they find it in their children. They might find it in their job, but they're unlikely to find it in their job if they're doing something they don't really care about. They'll find it in their job. Maybe they're a maybe they're like a barrista and they find a lot of meaning in bringing justice into the world because they're participating in a system which they believe will outlast them and is bigger than them. So when people talk about meaning, we talk about transcendence, you know, something being above and beyond their own sort of material uh situation. And I think religion is the is is the the archetypal example of this and I think it's why it evolves in the first place. There is this idea that we are living in a meaning crisis that has cropped up maybe in the past 100 years or so or maybe in the last few hundred years or so as a response to the enlightenment and the decline of religion. I think that's far too easy. I think that's way too easy. I think that if there is such thing as a meaning crisis, it is literally the human condition and the reason why these projects were invented in the first place. I think literally speaking what
people are doing in religious traditions is realizing the finitude of their existence and therefore trying to commune with something. >> Can I add a >> less finite of course >> we have this hunger and I I have no reason to believe that any naturalistic explanation can explain the consciousness's hunger for meaning and significant because that's all propositional. It's not molecules in motion. >> What's naturalistic mean? Naturalistic just means nature and that's all there is basically. So you have uh molecules in motion largely governed by natural law. There is no outside transcendent anything. There's no immaterial anything certainly not an immaterial god that has started the process and sustains the process and gives life meaning. There either is meaning objectively or not. Okay? If not then it's up to us. For example, a moment ago you said that if there is a creator God who brings us into existence, then you are designed and you are given purpose by God. And I think we need to investigate this a bit further. >> Mhm. >> Because for example, a quite sort of boring and overdone debate at the moment is the extent to which we are engaged in the production of potentially artificially conscious agents with artificial intelligence technologies. And there's all this discussion about whether or not these things can be conscious like you know whatever. Let's just suppose for a moment that they were. Let's suppose that I created an artificially intelligent machine and I gave it a purpose and that purpose was to produce paper clips. And because of the development of artificial intelligence technology, it became conscious in a recognizable sense. It had an interior sense of self. It sort of had say feelings or emotions about the world. But it is just an AI robot whose entire purpose in life is to make paper clips. >> Now I could say that because that AI was designed by a creator with a purpose that was explicitly given to it that that life is meaningful. But I think it would seem to most people that a life whose meaning consists in creating paper
clips is not sufficient is not enough to address what people really want. It's not just some kind of purpose. It's not just even some kind of purpose which is given to you by an authoritative creative source. It's something which is further than that. Yeah. But if I can just relate this to the question, >> the problem that arises is that you have to answer the question of why God infuses life with the meaning that he gives it. >> Mhm. It's either something which he has sort of arbitrarily plucked up and and chosen to create in which case we have this problem of arbitrariness or no or in fact there is some reason why God had to give us a particular kind of meaning that's endemic >> to the human condition that he had no choice but for that meaning that more important kind of meaning to be given to human life but if he was beholden to that if he had to give us a particular kind of meaning it seems like there's a standard of meaning which exists outside of God. So I'm not sure in other words the mechanism by which being created by someone who says this is your purpose would be fulfilling in the way that people want it to be. The reason the paperclip illustration doesn't match is because it seems to me that you're subtly taking the thing that's conscious that makes paper clips and comparing it to a human being. And for human beings who seem to have a different purpose, I would argue be consigned to make paper clips, well that's dehumanizing to them. But if you have, just to follow your illustration, if you have a creator that makes something for a reason that the creator has in mind, then it's fulfilling its purpose perfectly. You know, for a human being, that's not going to be satisfying making paper clips. And a lot of people who are making paper clips are not satisfied with it. Okay? I don't think it's arbitrary if God is making something for a purpose. If God decides that he wants to make creatures to be in friendship with him because this reflects his loving character and that purpose is to be in friendship with him. I don't see how that is somehow negligible or arbitrary at all. I guess you could have said that God could have done otherwise, but his love and desire for communion is
seem to me an adequate explanation for that. This is fascinating. Um, so my first question is what's the point of this conversation? >> Yeah. So I think that the ultimate answer that we're looking for is it appears that the numbers around purpose and meaning are fluctuating at this moment in time. a lot of people are turning back to religion as as Alex is we were just chatting about a second ago and I guess there's two questions which is one understanding why that's happening why there's this fluctuation why we're seeing a mental health crisis around purpose and meaning and the second is to try and figure out if there's a truth one can arrive at if there's an objective truth that exists. >> So for y'all I'm curious when y'all show up here like what is the purpose for y'all showing up? literally trying to discover like it's the stated purpose, right? It's literally just artificially given purpose by being designed in a particular way. We're going to get together and we're going to have a conversation and see if we can figure out this this meaning stuff, right? And by the way, like we're not going to solve that problem. I think it's worth pointing out that like these conversations have to be exploratory and subjective. If anybody thinks that the four of us sat at this table are going to solve the meaning crisis and give people a five-step guide to finding meaning in their life and that will be the sort of case closed, then they're delusional. >> I I don't know if I I agree that we can't find an answer, but we'll talk about >> Well, this is what I wanted to speak to. It it um obviously we're talking about this broader issue of meaning and purpose. All right? And as I mentioned earlier, there either is an objective one or it's only subjective. Okay? If it is an objective one, this is about the most important thing that anyone could ever find out about their life if they were created for a reason. In my view, the reason I'm here is because I'm convinced that that's the case and I'm willing to give reasons why. Okay? But I don't think I I'm sympathetic to the concern that you can't sit around a table and in two or three hours solve the problem for
any individual because people going through the process of trying to figure these things out. It takes a long time as they put the pieces together. But I think there's a lot of people in the world that think they have put it together and they've come to conclusions about ultimate meaning and purpose and they don't come to my own conclusions. But many have. So what I would hate to do is to leave people with the feeling like we can all search and the glory is in the search but if you think you found the answer then you haven't. Of course this to me is a nealistic enterprise. Then I think it's possible to come to conclusions. Yes, >> I think so too to be clear. But I think what I'm what I'm trying to say is this will be something that one will experience for themselves and will discover for themselves in their own life. It's not going to be something that you know there's that old um is it Lynchi the the the sort of the Buddhist Coan that says if you meet the Buddha kill him. The idea being that you know if you think that the kind of enlightenment which is necessary to spiritual fulfillment can be found through some kind of guru um you're missing the mark. It's something that you need to do for yourself. But isn't that statement itself meant to be a truth about spirituality that you can actually count on or >> can I jump in? >> I just want to make sure I understand y'all's point. So, so you're saying that the search for purpose first of all is never going to go away like is a human condition, right? Yes. Like like so as humanity humanity will never find its purpose. >> I can tell you why if you like. >> No. No. I I don't even know why yet. >> I think I think individuals can but humanity >> that's yeah I'm just making sure I understand. Right. So an individual can find their purpose but as humanity it's never going to be solved. And then you said something about purpose being tied to opposing to death in some way. So transcending death that human beings basically look for purpose because death is inevitable and if we can find purpose then we can give our life meaning. But if death if we die and I don't leave
something behind. Can you talk a little bit about that? This is essentially a version of Ernest Becker's denial of death hypothesis which famously suggests that the motivation for a great deal of human behavior is at least human behavior outside of immediate sensory concerns like eating and stuff like that. Anything that humans engage in on a societal level, on an abstract level is ultimately motivated by an apprehension of death. I think that's probably too simple, but it's definitely a contributing factor. I I think that for example, put it this way, right? Here's an example that comes from I think his name is Sheffller and he has this interesting thought experiment. Suppose I don't know maybe you're engaged in in writing a book. Suppose you discovered and this probably won't be the case for you because you believe in an afterlife, but suppose that you're an atheist for a moment. Suppose it were the case that you discovered that after you die, a meteor is going to come and wipe out all life on Earth. Everybody's going to die almost instantly after you do, but you'll be dead. So, you will live your entire life as it was anyway. Okay. And suppose the rest of the world doesn't even know this is going to happen, but you're told this is going to be the case. Would that motivate you to write your book more or less? Most people say that it would seem a bit pointless now. I What's the point now in writing this book? What's the point in in having children if they're going to die 30 days after I'm after I'm gone? What what's the point in in doing any of these things? What will they still do? They'll still do the sensory stuff. They'll still eat. They'll still have sex. They'll still sleep. This kind of stuff. But the the typically meaning uh laden activities of life they would certainly be demotivated to do. And it's an interesting thought experiment to give us some insight as to the fact that well maybe this means that at least in part the motivation for these actions in the first place is that they will extend beyond our death. >> I agree with so much of what I'll say and I also like hard disagree with some of the fundamentals. So let's say you have this example of like I'm write a book and then the world is going to end 30 days later and and so you say because
a lot of what you're talking about is like what people say right so you'll say like okay so like people would say that this is a waste of time and I'm not going to do it if the world ends in 30 days >> and you're also saying people is a is an everlasting thing are struggling with purpose right you're saying both of these things >> so here's my question to you if you tell someone, you know, you're writing this book. Let's say you you you write it and then you die cuz we'll simplify the example. And then 30 days later, the world ends. Let's take two people. One who says, "I'm a write it anyway." >> And one who says, "There's no point." >> Which one of those two people do you think has a greater sense of purpose? >> Probably the former. >> Absolutely. So, this is the key thing. Purpose is absolutely because I I love that you're asking about mechanisms and I think maybe that's what I can provide. I I think that's that's actually the answer, right? So, it's not that people believe and I think you're right that the reason that this is a perennial problem is because most people do not live a life where they understand how purpose works. >> Mhm. >> And and what I think is really fascinating about sort of like this scientific clinical approach, like if you ask me, can I help people find meaning and purpose? I don't know. But if you ask me, can I help a person? The answer is absolutely. And we have like particular scientific things and this is where it's it's really counterintuitive. So a big part of like finding purpose is doing particular things and if you do those things the likelihood that you will increase your sense of purpose in life which is another thing that's very counterintuitive to people. Purpose is not binary. It's quantifiable. It's like a scale. So if I were to ask the three of y'all right maybe let's like let's do this not thought experiment but this practical experiment. Do you know your purpose in life? Like how confident are you that you're doing what you're supposed to be doing in life? >> How confident am I about the God part or that I'm doing the things that are appropriate? >> That how confident are you that you're
doing what God wants you to do? >> Well, in that general sense, extremely confident or else I wouldn't be doing it. >> Perfect. Right. So, Stephen, what about you, bro? >> About five out of 10. >> I knew it. Okay. Right. So, Alex, >> I don't want to be difficult, but I kind of reject the grammar of the question. >> Awesome. Reject away, bro. I think it's what a logician would call an exponable statement, something which needs to be broken down. You asked, "Do I know my own purpose?" That assumes that there is a purpose to know. It it's a bit like the comparison I would give is if I asked you the question, the classic example in logic is is uh is the king of France bold? Yes or no? >> I can I can rephrase my question if you have problems with my question. >> So, do you have a lived experience of something called purpose? Oh, well, look, I think purpose is having some kind of reason to act or be. Yeah. And I certainly subjectively am motivated to do things. I think everybody is. Otherwise, you literally wouldn't be able to do anything. Um, but it's a bit foggy to me what psychologically speaking, on a personal level that fundamental motivation actually is. >> Wouldn't purpose be more the the goal rather than the reason to act, what you're trying to accomplish? >> It's a semantic thing, but that's why it depends what you mean by the word. >> I'm I'm with you. I'm I'm with you. So, so, so and I I don't know what I mean with the word purpose, which is part of this challenge, but okay. So, so like I'm just wondering, so like when you So, a lot of people are motivated to act. Everyone is motivated to act every day, right? I get out of bed, I need to take a dump. Like, but my guess >> is that if we were to administer a scientifically validated instrument that measures your subjective sense of purpose, direction in life >> that that would be north of five out of 10. >> Okay. >> Do you think that's fair or is is that something that you don't >> maybe? Yeah. I don't know what >> like do you do you when you wake up, do
you feel like you're know you know what you want to do and what's going on and you're like doing good work? Like I'm asking about the subjective >> not on a grand sense. I'm quite agnostic. I mean I'm sort of >> I'm not talking about it. Okay. Maybe >> it depend. I I really don't know what you mean. >> No. Perfect. Okay. So so so not on a grand sense but on some other sense. >> Sure. Okay. Great. >> So I think that this is like this is I I think this is beautiful because I think what we have here is like not on a grand sense. So I think on a grand sense you're there, right? But you're absolutely motivated by particular things. So I think this is the first thing about purpose. Can I a clarification real quickly? Yeah. On a grand sense, yes. But there are distinctions that you were referring to a few moments ago, right? There are a lot of things that are dissatisfying my life. But in terms of being on the right course, that's part of what life is. Being on the right course, lots of crazy stuff that's happening in between. >> Cool. So like like the first thing that I've kind of noticed in my work is that I don't know whether a grander purpose exists or not. I I think that's a lovely discussion that I want to continue to have with you, but I I I'm sort of here's where I'm sort of coming from in this discussion. >> Stephen started this out with some really scary statistics that we're seeing, right? There's a mental health crisis. I think a lot of what we're seeing is is while it may be perennial, I think it's like seems more acute right now. Maybe that's because of the atheist materialism, whatever. I'm I'm not quite sure, but this is a problem. So, just sharing where I'm coming from. My hope is that someone who is watching this will have moved forward some vague percentage points. I'm shooting for about 20% in their personal quest for purpose. >> And I think a big part of what I'm going to try to contribute here today is my understanding of like how to do that. That this is a quantifiable thing that we can sort of see at this table. >> People are sort of like at different places. And so the first thing that I kind of
want to point out is I don't know whether there's purpose or not, but as a human condition, there is something that each of us feel or experience that gives us an answer, right? So you're like at 10, but what that means is that you something is going on in your mind, something is going on in your heart, something is going on in your body where you wake up and you feel like you have purpose. Steven wakes up and he's like at a five out of 10. So, he's getting some signals in that area. Some signals are not in that area. You have some signals in that direction, too. You know why you're showing up at this podcast. You you've got a book that you're working on. Awesome. Can't wait to read it. And >> but on a grander sense, you're like, I don't know about this like objective stuff or whatever. So, this is sort of like this quantifiable thing. >> And you >> um I'm going to let you all guess. >> Where would you put me out? >> I don't like to psychize people. >> It's okay if you don't like to, will you? >> I mean, I don't I just met you. I don't I don't know. I have no idea what what sense of meaning you you have in your life. >> Mhm. >> Okay. I mean, for me, I I'm just motivated to try and find out. >> So, I think I think the audience can guess, too. >> Yeah. I would say you're pretty high. That's why you're here. That's why you're articulating your ideas. >> Probably probably closer to 10 than five. >> Mhm. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Right. So, so it's like it's okay if you don't want to do that because I'm guessing that there are certain things in your intellect that tell you. So, do you have a subjective instinct? >> No, I just don't know you that well. I I I mean, I don't know. Okay. And also, it depends what you mean, right? Because you'll say that you have a if you say that you're a 10, like we you have this this there's this you use the phrase earlier sense a sense of meaning in life. because you're talking about this from an empirical standpoint of whether
people report having a sense of meaning. Whereas I think that Greg is probably talking about literally speaking whether there is actually in fact a real meaning whether or not people sense it or not. You could say that you have a 10 out of 10 and Greg could say well that's it's great that you feel that way but it's misguided because the purpose that you have identified in your life is the wrong one. And so to me the important question is not so much whether you subjectively report feeling like you have purpose in life but whether that purpose is grounded in something real and true. >> Yeah. So I think that your answer right now is the reason why you think some of these questions are unanswerable. >> Mhm. >> So I think if you adopt that frame you'll never know. But >> I don't think they're unanswerable. >> Okay. Let let me let me just finish. Okay. So my first uh experience of this right is that first of all there is a subjective barometer like how do we know whether we have purpose maybe we listen to other people but there is some sort of internal sense of this and this is where the science becomes really important because if you look at people who have like a history of trauma or something what you tend to find is that there are certain like neurobiological things that can happen to you that will literally affect the parts of your brain that are able to detect purpose. So this is sort of like a subjective experience and I think the way that and I I love your emphasis on mechanism and I think this is what in my opinion science and spirituality can really add is they add the how right they they add like why is it that one person has purpose and another person doesn't have purpose. So first thing is that in my experience in the way that I operate, I'm not saying it's correct. It's just it's effective in terms of helping people move the needle on reducing suicidality, uh improving resilience, giving them a reason to wake up in the morning. Like it tends to work. Um and it's not just me, it's that there's a bunch of, you know, methodologies that we have in psychotherapy and stuff like that that accomplish these kinds of things that there's some internal sense of purpose.
Now what I think uh surprises a lot of people is that there are two ways that you increase that sense of purpose. The first is a bucket of things that are kind of counter counterintuitive. And this is where we also have to understand that purpose correlates with certain other things in life. So if I feel like I am in control of my life then my sense of purpose will increase. Those two things are correlated. It's not clear whether it's one thing that manifests in two ways or it's probably two discreet things because there's some subtlety there. But just as a very simple example, if you take someone who feels out of control in life and you help them get control of their life, and there's a really great example of this, which is something called passive challenges versus active challenges. So, there's a fascinating research on anxiety that shows that if you're someone in life whose life is happening to you, like you wake up one day and then like your your boss wants you to come in for work and you have to pay rent at the end of the month and like you're you're logging on to Tinder and people aren't responding to you. Life is controlling the direction that you move. And people feel overwhelmed by this and they want freedom. They want control. What they end up doing is they they they wish that they didn't have these things. So they run away from these problems. So passive challenges are challenges that life imposes upon you that you didn't sign up for. Then there's something really fascinating which is your sense of control in life does not correlate just with the passive challenges. It correlates with the ratio of passive challenges to active challenges. Active challenges are things that you choose to do that are difficult. So this is really fascinating. But if if you're getting bodied by life in three different directions, the solution to that is not run away from those problems. It's actually to wake up and start to push yourself in a particular direction. I want to do this instead. If you want to learn how to like read uh, you know, learn philosophy, you know, start studying philosophical texts, you know, like is you start to take on more, which is very counterintuitive because when
most people feel feel overwhelmed, they don't feel like they can do more. The exact solution is to take on more active challenges. then you have some sense of control in life. And once your ratio of active challenges to passive challenges is more evened out, this does something really cool. It gives you a sense that I'm no longer out of control. >> Mhm. >> Once you feel like you're no longer out of control, this is the really cool thing. Then your capacity to deal with the stuff that life throws at you actually improves. Mhm. >> So there's this, this is just one example of like one scientific neurobiological principle that has some psychology associated with where you can do particular things >> to give yourself a sense of direction in life. >> Now some of the stuff around worship and spiritual practice that can do it too. Um but I think that usually what I tend to see is that you know if someone is lost in life you can sort of answer it by these big questions. you can sort of think about this sort of transcendental purpose which I'm I'm happy to talk about. But I think there's a lot of like little stuff that you can do. >> Yeah. >> And as you implement these things, the sense of purpose in your life, your internal lived experience of feeling out of out of control will change. >> Let let me offer a few thoughts if I could. One I want to speak to something that you've said, Alex, um that I just want to offer a caution about. When we talk about motivation, the motivation for something, we sometimes confuse that with justification. So someone might say to me as an atheist, for example, well, you're a Christian because you were born in America. If you were born in Saudi Arabia, you wouldn't be a Christian. You'd be a Muslim. Of course, that's irrelevant to the question whether Islam or Christianity or some other religion is true. It doesn't speak to that. It speaks to psychology. Okay? And the fact is, if the atheist was born in Saudi Arabia, he wouldn't be an atheist either. likely the key question isn't what motivates people for example to think about purpose death maybe a fear of death that might be a motivation the question is whether the place they land
in answering the question has any objective truth to it or not it could be that there is a god and that there is an afterlife and facing death does give comfort to that uh I should say when facing death you have comfort because there is a god and there's something that you're going to it's closer communion with him Okay, just because you're motivated by death doesn't mean that your belief about the afterlife is somehow an error. >> I just wanted to just to add something in here. So, I I think part of the reason I've also convened um you guys to have this conversation today is because I've got several people in my life that are I can I can literally lay out the personas, but I've got one particular friend who's 35 between 35 and 40 years old, living in Dubai, living in a a glass box um freelancer. So he wakes up in the morning, his bed is there, he then works there, then goes back to bed. He's single, no kids in his life at the moment, he said to me that he can't get out of bed anymore, he feels stuck. And then about 6 months after, out of the blue, it turns out, without telling any of us, and we're his best friends, he's flown to America. He's been baptized. He's a Christian. Suddenly, his life has purpose and meaning again. He's a completely different person. And this individual, never, ever, he would be the last person that you'd think would be religious. got another friend, female, just over 30 years old, doesn't have kids, freelance, works at home. Um, when I asked her what her meaning and purpose in life, she said to me she wants to get to having 200 plants, plants she can water. She names all of them. >> She then told me a week after she's in therapy because she feels lost and stuck in life. And so much of the central point why I've been motivated to have this conversation is it appears to me and I haven't nailed this hypothesis yet that freedom, independence, be your own boss. The decline in people having children, the glamorization of um as you said at the very beginning like you know do it yourself, do it your way is failing people in some way >> and that actually the push for independence was in some way some kind of light. I actually also went through the same new atheist >> baptism that you went through and I read
all those books at 18 years old and two years I was I was debating dog walkers on the street about God. I was so such a staunch atheist but I now find myself in a position where >> I'm almost back to being curious again >> because it feels like independence wasn't the answer. >> Just wanted to refrain curious I think. Yeah. I mean I think people need tasks. I think that purpose is intimately tied up with the idea of of task to fulfill. It's why people tend to find meaning in projects which are not completed yet. In fact, Pascal writes quite compellingly about this when he writes about boredom and he imagines a a gambler, someone who who enjoys gambling and says, well, why is this person gambling? Because they're doing this thing with the with the chance of winning some money. Okay, so why don't you just give them the money? just take the gambler and give him all the money that he could possibly receive without playing the game and he won't be very fulfilled even though he's getting ostensibly what he was trying to get. No, no, that wouldn't be fulfilling because he enjoys the the gambling. Okay, says Pascal. Then let him play the game, but make it such that he'll never actually win the money, but he he gets to keep playing the game and he's not going to be very fulfilled by that either. That's also going to be completely pointless. And so Pascal noticed that what you kind of need to avoid boredom and I suppose to to imbue your life with with purpose at least in this analogy is some kind of task to fulfill that you haven't fulfilled yet that you don't know if you're going to fulfill that you believe will bring you fulfillment when you get it but you haven't got it yet. It's why I think religion does it really well because it's the definition of something which you don't have now which you can strive for which when you get you believe will be uh will be fulfilling. >> So so so I I love these examples because actually we know exactly what's going on in that thought experiment. Right? So now there have been there's so many advances in neuroscience that we understand why people gamble. Right? So, we understand that giving someone money will satisfy a gambler in one of two cases. And I've seen this. I've worked
with people who are professional poker players. Some people there, what we describe motivation is actually like a dozen different things going on in your brain. So, if you were a professional poker player and poker and I've literally worked with professional poker players who had no meaning in life. It's so funny. I'm thinking about a particular person and then you know achieved a certain financial goal. That's why they play poker. So if your motivation is that I'm playing poker because I'm I have a skill that I'm using to get money. >> Yeah. >> If that is your internal motivation, that is going to come from certain circuits in your brain. It's going to come from places like your frontal lobe. Now, as Pascal pointed out, if you give the average person who gamles money, what are they going to do with it? They're going to gamble more, right? So that means that the their motivation is coming from something more closer to the nucleus incumbent, a random reinforcement schedule. Maybe they're trying to suppress amydala emotions. So we actually can like look at that example and we can understand why each of those things happens. And then the most beautiful thing is that there is absolutely a scenario where someone can gamble and never win and they can absolutely have purpose. So this is where I know that sounds insane but if you look at some of these things from the Zen tradition, right? So these are practices that have no purpose to act with no meaning whatsoever. And the beautiful thing about that is as you explore that sort of angle and there's sort of a neuroscience perspective to this as well is that if you really think about it you're saying okay so people invest in this purpose or in this purpose-seeking thing like religion with the idea that I'll find payoff at the end. Is that what you were saying earlier? >> I'm saying something a bit different. I what I was going to go on to say is to is to point out that and bear in mind this comes from a part of of Pascal's pon which is titled man without god. You know he goes on to discuss man with god. Um but I look at the development of the human species and our particular
proclivities. Lewis makes this argument from desire that you mentioned. Why do we have a desire for food? Well because there is actually food to have. The evolutionary biologist says the reason that we develop hunger is because those who didn't died. And if you don't have some sense of hunger, you're not going to seek out food and you will die. And so it just so happens that those who develop this feeling of hunger will be more likely to survive. And therefore hunger is a part of our human condition. Well, such is meaning. If you have two isolated communities, one of whom says, "I just don't care. Whatever, man. No interest in having children, no interested in building societies, legal systems, constitutions, whatever the case. Moral systems, none of they just don't care. nihilists, they're not even gonna have children. That society will die out. Another society which just so happens to perhaps delusion like in a in an exercise of delusion just develop this inexplicable feeling. >> And of course, this evolves over time and starts with essentially the kind of random mutation of ideas that works on the genetic level in evolution. They call it mmetics when it's ideas rather than genes. the society which just ends up developing this idea that actually I can't quite explain why but I I just have this drive towards building a society and engaging in legal justice and moral systems and kind of they're just more likely to survive. So we end up with this with this sense this this drive within us that we can't explain and yet we have. So imagine for the majority of our evolutionary history what it was like every single day you woke up and you did not know if you were going to have a roof over your head. You didn't know if you were going to have food to eat. You had to go out and you had to hunt it. You had to go and find it. Every single day the game reset. And so I would imagine that those lives were probably quite meaningful. At least in the sense that I don't think there would have been many existential crisises on a dayto-day because the purpose was quite clear. And like Pascal's gambler, they had a task that they think will fulfill them when they get it and they don't know whether it's going to be fulfilled. So what's happened today? Well, now we've been given the money
without the game. We've got houses, we've got food, we can go next door and get some water, get some food from all over the all over the planet, you know, like that's that's it that you've got the money without the game. So what do people do in the modern situation when they find that their life is a bit meaningless? They start intentionally doing things which are difficult. They start doing ice baths. They start exercising. They start going into a room just to physically exert themselves in order to sort of build muscle and whatnot like on purpose for its own sake. Why? Because today we've got the money without the game. So people are going out and seeking the game without the money. They're going and doing the ice baths in the gym. Whereas the truly meaningful life is one in which you are playing the game in the service of getting the goal. That is why I think that you know literally just seeking out those things I think that there's a reason why they have a psychological impact. It's not as simple as just like oh well if you go to the gym you know it it releases endorphins and and makes you feel good. It's like let's think a bit deeper than that. what's actually going on. People are seeking out the game without without the money. Crucially, I've talked about this as as a deathdenying pursuit, right? The idea that the things that you engage in here, at least in terms of grand projects like religion and society, are even if just subconsciously an exercise in the denial of death. What would that mean? It means that if you encounter other communities, if you encounter other traditions who just just by their mere existence threatens the truth of your claims, those traditions subconsciously represent death. They represent nihilism. So what happens in a society that develops the kind of telecommunication technology whereby every single day you open your phone and you are addicted to a process of scrolling through every seven seconds a new person with new ideas with different beliefs from all over the world. Do you think that might have something to do with the meaning crisis that we find ourselves in? We're told that what's happened is that people stop believing in God and now they're all depressed and upset and nihilistic. That's far too
simple. You don't think it might have something to do with the fundamentally revolutionary change to our society that has been brought about specifically by telecommunication by the ability to oftenimes unintentionally and non-consensually be confronted with traditions and people from halfway across the world that just remind you every single day zing zing zing every single day that your truth is not the only truth. that the transcendence that you've placed your trust in is completely subjective and personal and that someone over there >> believes something totally different and seems to be living just the same kind of happy life. >> That I think is why people are struggling so much. It's not just because they're atheists. Now >> I have a lot to say about this. I'll try to keep it compact. By the way, just we're aware of all kinds of different options for us spiritually. Yes. um that doesn't necessarily suggest that none of the options are actually accurate or that are okay. So making an implication there and this is what creates kind of the angst because all we have is our own personal subjective point of view. >> I think that's why people experience that. Now of course as a matter of truth you could say for example yourself you could say yes I'm constantly confronted by different religious traditions but I believe that Christianity is true. who I think has the best evidence. >> This is even true in even in the scientific realm. You're all kinds of different ideas, but no one wants to say just because there are so many different ideas to explain things that nobody can be correct >> which is why what I'm saying is is insensitive to the truth or falsity of any of the traditions. What I'm saying is >> okay that's good because I want to go to that next >> as an explanation as for the the psychological >> phenomenon the the the literal feeling that people have because likewise you would say that there is a meaning crisis maybe you would say that lots of people the statistics we just heard you would say lots of people you know don't feel meaning in their life and you'd want to
offer an explanation for why that's the case you think their lives are meaningful right you think that all of those people who say my life has no meaning they're wrong their lives actually do have meaning >> is that what you think >> well this was the subject objective response. They feel like they don't have meaning, >> but they were made for a purpose. If they're not in in touch with that meaning and purpose, then they're going to feel bereft. >> They believe there really is a purpose for their life, but subjectively they haven't either found it or they don't feel it. What I'm doing is I'm offering a psychological explanation for why they don't feel it, which is completely insensitive to whether or not there's a truth of the matter. >> I'm so glad you put it that way. Uh because this is exactly my point. I don't want anybody to miss it. We're really offering two different pictures of reality here. Okay. People have to ask themselves two questions, I think. One is they reflect on their own personal awareness of the need for meaning and significance. >> Does it seem to them that this is just a psychological thing that people can satisfy in all kinds of different ways depending on the individual or does it seem to them I'm asking these questions because I suspect there is a truth about life that might be discovered. Okay, that's the first question. And that and I think most people's awareness of this is that there's something transcendent, something bigger than them. Okay, and any kind of naturalistic explanation is not going to ultimately satisfy that. The other thing is is there any reason to believe that there is a transcendent reality that God exists that souls exist that that there is an objective morality that guides our life and if we're living virtuously that's going to be satisfying even if we don't believe in God or not. Those are the two things at stake here, you know. And now this description, the story of reality I just described that I hold to it seems to me completely coherent. Maybe not true, but it certainly is coherent that if there is a God who made us for himself and places eternity in our hearts, that we're going
to yearn for that and made the way for us to live and then we're going to find good ways to live as opposed to unsatisfying ways to live. That makes sense. Doesn't make any sense to me at all to say that my molecules are moving in a certain way to create in my conscious mind, which Darwinism would cannot offer an explanation for. It hasn't. That's why Daniel Dennett said consciousness is an illusion, you know, because he couldn't do anything with it. Thomas Nagel wrote his book Mind the Cosmos. You're familiar with this, I'm sure. You know, why the Neodyarian materialistic view of the world is almost certainly false. And he's an atheist for goodness sake, because he can't explain consciousness, not in a Darwinian way. So how is it that this mystery of consciousness which contains propositional thoughts, ideas and purposes, >> if consciousness can't be explained at Darwinian way, how can some characterization of molecules in motion >> accomplish that same end? That's my concern. This is why I'm not convinced about at all about the naturalist one and this one seems so much more plausible. >> What you're raising is the is the problem of consciousness which is I think a new question but an important one. I wanted to point out earlier that that when I gave an explanation as to why people feel a lack of meaning and you said that has no bearing on truth. I think that's >> you admitted that too at the end there. I appreciate that. >> I don't admit it. I I assert it. Of course that's the case. In >> affirmed you weren't making the case >> in the same way that if somebody says that like if you're a Christian and you say the reason everyone's so depressed is because society has become atheistic. Somebody could say well yeah I mean that might be the case but that doesn't mean atheism is false. It might be that it is true and just depressing. Right? Of course, like the the question if we're discussing >> there are alternate explanations. >> If you want to know why somebody feels a particular way psychologically, you can offer an explanation which has absolutely nothing to do with the truth or falsity of a worldview. You can then
separately discuss the truth or falsity of a worldview which you've then gone on to do with specific reference to the problem of consciousness. >> It thinks it has absolutely nothing or it can be experienced apart from the issue of worldview. I'm saying that if you're if you're literally just trying I mean if the question I'm asked is why do people perceive a lack of meaning in their life that's just a question about their psychological constitution that's just that's literally a question about why they feel a particular way >> so if a person was a total nealist didn't believe in anything uh was important and then they were depressed and even suicidal would you say there wasn't a link between that worldview and their feelings >> yes there is but what I'm saying is that the link between that worldview and their feeling has nothing to do with the truth of the Okay, you see what I'm saying? It doesn't nihilism can be true. Nihilism can be false. Nihilism can be an in unintelligible concept. It can still be the case that that person's conviction is making them depressed. Right? In the same way that somebody could be be a Christian and that makes them really happy. That doesn't mean Christianity is true. Someone can become a Christian and become really depressed. That doesn't mean that Christianity is false. What I'm trying to point out is it is just trivially true. >> So So I I still want to try to understand a little bit about what you're saying. >> Okay. >> Because I don't fully follow. >> Fine. Um, and I think that the reason I'm I feel way more confident in what you're saying is because >> Christ is pulling at your >> 100%. Yeah. >> So, so I think Christ we both talk to Christ. So, like we're good on that. Like I I know where he's coming from. So, couple of things that I'm >> I talk to Christ too, you know. >> Awesome. Does he talk back? >> He does not talk back. And >> yeah, that's that's tricky. We can talk about how how to get you there. >> One person said just read the gospels aloud. >> So So >> I've done that a few times. So, a couple
of things that I'm I'm curious about. One is so I'm noticing that you're I'm trying to understand where so I I love the way you're sallying forth >> to grapple with this problem of purpose. You do a beautiful job of sort of talking about like okay what's the truth >> and then there's this psychological perspective and I I want to just try to understand this. So, are you of the mind that from a psychological perspective, you can wake up one day and feel like you have purpose, but that doesn't necessarily talk about purpose transcendentally. >> Capital P. >> I'm saying that doesn't talk about the truth of your belief. The >> Okay. >> So, for example, you could you could you could believe that your children are about to die >> and that suddenly your life feels really meaningless and and really purposeless. It could be completely false. You could have been like misled. Someone could lie to you. But like what I'm saying is is the psychological explanation for why you feel a particular way has nothing to do with the truth of the thing that you believe that's making you feel that way. >> Gotcha. Okay. So what I'm curious about is when you are exploring purpose >> are you exploring it from are you trying to find the answer at the top like what is the truth of purpose or are you focused on the subjective experience of purpose? >> Depends on the context. If you're asking I mean we were talking literally about a psychological explanation for why people feel a particular way you know is it due to a decline in religion that kind of stuff in that case it's subjective it's individuals yeah >> yeah so so do you think that the top one can be answered >> what the top one is in like there being >> they're being purpose right so that's not subjective at all >> so what does that mean there being purpose because for me that looks like some kind of reason to act or to be that is not contingent on some other fact. Just to be clear, to make it clear for the listener, I think you hear what I'm saying. But like suppose you woke up and you were a Christian and that brought you meaning. What I'm saying is that
subjective sense of meaning that you get from Christianity has no bearing on the truth or falsity of Christianity. >> Gotcha. Right. Right. So, so what I'm curious about is in your opinion, and if you don't have one, that's totally fine. um you know do you think that so sure there's a subjective experience which doesn't speak to truth right it's just a subjective experience do you think that there is some way to grapple with that truth >> well the truth of Christianity or something >> the truth the truth of of purpose >> but we're shifting here right because what I'm saying is >> let let me shift then I don't want to do that so then I'm gonna go back >> this is why I maybe I'm not understanding your question what all I am saying yeah is that if you feel if you feel a subjective sense of purpose from proposition P like the fact that you feel purpose from that does not have any proposition P and then you just ask but but is there a way to discuss whether P is true >> well yeah like so if proposition P is Christianity then yeah we can talk about the historical argument for the resurrection of Jesus or something gotcha gotcha okay I'm not I'm not trying to reach into some yeah >> mystical capital P purpose realm >> gotcha so right so and I I think that's so helpful thank you so Okay. Okay. So, that's really helpful for me because then you I want to go back to something you said earlier about, you know, cell phones and we're scrolling on cell phones and things like that and we have this like like this worldview and then if we encounter a worldview that is different from ours that could put us into some form of crisis or difficulty and we're getting bombarded by all of these things. >> And so what that means is that the individual when they wake up in the morning and they scroll through their phone, right? We're not talking about whether the proposition P is true or not. Their subjective experiences like I have no meaning and I have no purpose in life, >> right? And and so you posited one mechanism which I think is a completely valid mechanism is a philosophical
mechanism, but we have a lot of neuroscience mechanisms that support what you're saying. So just and this is where I I I think that we kind of I'm going to sort of restate that what my experience of this stuff has been because I'm I'm not a philosopher is I I don't really know too well how to contend with whether proposition P is true or not. That's why I was asking and and it's not that you weren't being clear, it's that I'm just ignorant of how philosophy works. >> Um and so that's why I was kind of asking like you know can you do that? Mh. >> So that's where also where like I'm kind of coming from is that we have this crisis that has high suicidality, high addiction rates. People left the church in big ways. And then we're sort of left with like, okay, how do we navigate this? And that's where I think if we look at a lot of this, the influences on society, we see that there's profound neurological influences. And what I sort of found is when I was working especially with like patients with trauma that there is a set of things that is happening in the world around them that induce certain changes to their how they experience the world. So a really good example of this is if you want to find your purpose in life you should reduce your level of alexathyia. So alexathyia is the inability to tell what you you're emotionally feeling. Mhm. >> And if we look at the influence of things like cell phones, what they're doing is they're suppressing the parts of our brain that have that experience negative emotions. Sometimes they provoke negative emotions, sometimes they suppress negative emotions. And so if you start to be able to feel more, right? So the this is literally shutting down the parts of our brain that h that give us an internal sense of what we feel. And so as you shut down your ability to detect what you are feeling on the inside that correlates with your not having a detection of purpose on the inside. So I think that you know this is you you asked the question why is this happening? I think we're disabling and I was working with people with trauma and and sort of sort of figured out a sequence of things that is based on the
literature that involves things like reducing your alexathyia. Another big part is managing your ego. So I think this relationship with God thing is a really really really great example of like if you ask what is the mechanism of a relationship with God. So we as human beings tend to be like I'm here but then as you relate to other people around you your sense of identity changes and when you relate to something that is transcendent I know that that's a scary word and I don't know exactly what that word means but as you relate to something that is really big up here that has noticeable effects on your default mode network your sense of self. And as your default mode network longer becomes hyperactive, the more hyperactive your default mode network is, the more likely I think you are to be like nihilistic, to have a pessimistic worldview, as we start to make those changes, then people start to feel a sense of purpose. They start to feel a sense of connection. And then the last kind of really interesting data which we can go into is psychedelics which is really really fascinating because this allows us to test subjective experience and the effect of subject subjective experience on a person. >> Is this an opportunity please? >> I'm just concerned that you might have overstated something maybe reflecting back something you thought I was saying and I was making the case about the genetic fallacy and just because a person has a motivation to believe something doesn't necessarily mean that that thing is true or have a subjective experience. I think it goes a little further than that though. Uh if you went to the doctor and you weren't feeling well and the doctor gave you a pill and then you went home and you took the pill then you felt better. I think it would be appropriate for you to say, "Well, that pill, taking that pill, going to that doctor had something to do with my experience that I'm having right now." >> Oh yeah. I think this is why I think it might have intent unintentionally been an overstatement on your part because I think >> just like your friend Stephen who in Dubai all of a sudden became a Christian and everything changed. Okay. >> Um,
>> well, the you you I guess you could say the change of life isn't maybe knockdown, dragged down proof that what he believes now is actually true. Big P, big T. >> That like Jesus rose from the dead. >> It seems to be, pardon me, >> that like Jesus rose from the dead. It's got no bearing on whether that's true or not. >> Well, I'm speaking of a different thing right now. I'm thinking about the experience now with God that he's having. >> If you if he's having this changed life, this this is evidential. This is this lends credibility to the belief system that he's now adopted because it created this particular significant change in his life. It may not be proof and that word is really an oozy goosey word how to pin down but nevertheless it still seems to be evidential. It is it it speaks to the legitimacy and accuracy and truthfulness of the belief system that produced this change life. That's what I'm saying. It's only evidence that belief in that thing makes someone feel more fulfilled. That's the only thing it's evidence of. >> Okay. So, this is where we differ. Just like >> I'm with him on this one. >> Okay. Just because uh just because a certain you're saying just because they believe it, this makes them better. It doesn't mean that the belief is actually sound. >> Greg, I've got a good way of coming at this then. So, >> this is where we differ. That's right. If I had five friends and they all picked five different religions and they all felt the same thing that my friend did in Dubai where they all felt better for it. Does is that evidential that all five religions are true? >> Well, see, I don't actually think it works that way. You can speculate and say and offer that illustration. Um, but I don't think it actually works that way. I I think that universally the experience of Christians is very very >> uh quantifiable in terms of transformed lives and this is one of the reasons that these transformed lives lend credibility to the belief system itself. >> So in that scenario where one of my friends turns to Islam, one of my
friends turns to Christianity etc etc. The only experience that's evidential of truth is the Christians. Well, I think you have to look at every individual thing. All right? And um here's my suspicion, and I haven't quantified this across the board. All right? Different people have different experiences by engaging different religious uh belief traditions, whatever. But in so far as anybody's life is significantly altered by that thing, this to me is evidence that something is going on here than merely the belief. If it's just the belief, you're back to uh to marks again and the opiate of the people, you know, that would be Carl, not Groucho, although that's not anybody knows who those two people are anymore. It sounds as though, you know, if if I if I lied to somebody in a cruel prank and I told them that say say they're really struggling with money, they're really really suffering for it and they feel and they have these psychological effects of feeling that life is meaningless. They want to kill themselves, whatever it is, cuz they just they cannot keep living and I tell them, "Good news. Um, you've won the lottery. You've won a million pounds." And suddenly the weight is lifted. The joy is brought. Of course, money isn't sufficient for bringing about meaning in life, but this person is >> But I've lied to them. Like the the fact that they feel this immense sense of meaning from a belief that they've adopted has it bears absolutely no evidence. >> No, in that case whether it's true that they've won a million pounds. >> I'm just saying that to divorce all results from belief systems is a mistake. There can be a there can be a connection there. Just because you can mislead somebody by telling them a lie and they can experience something emotionally doesn't mean that the other person who's experiencing something transcendent in their emotions. And by the way for Christians it's not just a high because Christianity is not a continuous high. Even people who are suffering terribly as Christians in persecution read Fox's books of martyrs book of martyrs still have this strong sense of value, purpose and security. Even so, I'm just saying there's an evidential relationship between those.
It's not enough to just simply dismiss it because you can tell a lie and someone could have the same kind of feeling. >> I'm even happy to say that like I don't know if this is true, but suppose it were just the case that only Christianity brought about this positive effect. Suppose we just discovered that everybody who claimed to feel meaning, it would just didn't compare. >> That's not what I'm saying. >> But suppose that were the case. Even if there was something really special about Christianity that gave some evidential credence to something specific about Christianity that's true about Christianity that it particularly infuses life with meaning. I still think it just has nothing to do with the truth of Christianity as a worldview. >> I mean, Christianity hinges on the historical fact of the resurrection of Jesus. Right. Correct. And so the best way of explaining this is to say that if if your friend from Dubai starts going to church and they start feeling really like meaning like start experiencing a lot of meaning in their life that has absolutely no evidential bearing on whether Jesus rose from the dead. And if Christianity as a proposition essentially is the resurrection of Jesus and this feeling that your friend had has no evidential bearing on the resurrection of Jesus then the feeling that your friend had had no evidential bearing on Christianity. Well, it turns out that Christianity has multiple factors of of uh support and evidence. Crucial obviously the crux one might say is the resurrection of Christ, the death and resurrection because of the theological significance of that is in the whole system. All right? But there are lots of other things too that have bearing and actually I think there are people who have become who have become Christians without having a robust understanding even of the resurrection or that. So um it's even though theologically that is the crux I agree um it doesn't mean that for subjectively every person who enters in a relationship with Christ has all of that in place immediately. >> I'm really interested to understand for my friend in Dubai >> Yeah. >> If he came to you and he was your friend
in Dubai >> and he said my life is lacking meaning >> I can't get out of bed anymore. >> What would you prescribe him? What would you recommend? What would you suggest as he's your friend? It's hard to know without knowing that friend, but if it seemed to me like going to church or reading the gospels might provide that for him, then I'd probably recommend that he did that. But I think that literally the subjective feeling of meaning is is usually tied up in the identification of something that transcends your individual self. >> Yeah. Why would you? I think any whatever is the most plausible course of action for that person to engage in something like that would be what I would recommend for them. If they're maybe that maybe they're not particularly interested in religion, I'd recommend that they read some philosophy of mind and try to understand the nature of consciousness. And they might start I might recommend depending on who they are that they take a psychedelic drug and try to experience something which cannot be put into words because a lot of the time when you experience something like an ego death and you might realize that the the individuated self is an illusion and that these cliches that keep cropping up when someone does psychedelics and I actually think that the problem of consciousness is absolutely crucial to this. uh if if I mean I think the most plausible account of consciousness implies that consciousness is something which is sort of received by the biological organism rather than produced by it. Because I agree with you that you can't just put a bunch of molecules together and get consciousness. That doesn't make any sense whatsoever. But it's interesting that some of our best scientific evidence is is suggesting the fact not that the brain produces consciousness, but that the brain inhibits and focuses and organizes consciousness. it does not produce it. >> Yeah. So I I I I love your answer. So you you were saying, you know, depending on the person, you can do different things. You can read philosophy of >> I would recommend them to do that. In other words, you know, look at that depending on who they are. >> You know, read the gospels. So I I think
what's what's interesting is that when you you know, when when Steven gives the concrete example of like if my friend comes to you who's had this religious awakening or prior to religious awakening, what would you recommend to them? And I think what's really interesting is basically all of the answers that you said I think >> can map on to mechanism and I just love to talk about that for a second. So the first thing is you know you asked me at the beginning am I religious? I I think here's my understanding of and we were talking a little bit about >> you know people can have the subjective feeling of religion. What is the relationship to to that thing being true? So here's what I've sort of observed. I don't know if y'all have ever been to like a really great cathedral. >> Oh yeah. But like you know uh if you go to a great cathedral you don't have to be Christian to be awe inspired by what you see. >> Sure. >> So when I look at the project of religion which is a little bit different from spirituality I I one of the things that I've observed is that religion is a series of structures to evoke a personal experience. So the whole point of reading the gospels is fingers crossed and we'll get to how to optimize that. Fingers crossed if you read the gospels enough or you go to church enough or you pray enough, if you keep on talking to Christ, one day he'll start talking back. But I think the really interesting thing is if you struggle with purpose, you can read the gospels. If you go into religion and I think what's changed now is that we have so much science to understand the mechanism through which religious practices evoke subjective experience. So I can go to church until for my whole life but until I have that relationship with God that is a subjective experience that is evoked by the sort of structure of the religious practice. >> So that is absolutely one thing you can do. I think the cool thing is that the problem with reading the gospels as as I can clearly see that you've done and and you know I I see the striving for religion in you like you're like you you want to have that right like you want to know like what are these people actually
kind of talking about. I could be wrong there but I I see this beautiful striving that you're like you're trying really hard to figure this stuff out which is just awesome to see. I think though that if we we kind of look at it and you mentioned kind of psychedelics as well and I think psychedelics is is really interesting because we know that so if you take someone who has treatment refractory depression or someone who has PTSD and you give them a psychedelic the psychedelic is not healing what is healing is specifically whether they have an ego death experience >> so if I see colors and things like that >> that doesn't solve things but the ego death experience is what correlates with clinical improvement soy Psychedelics are a good way to evoke um a subjective experience, right? So we we know that there are a couple of pieces and when I worked with people so one of the things that we know is that when you experience trauma, it shatters your meaning of life. >> Yes. >> And so what so working a lot with people with trauma and and this is something that I kind of laid out uh in terms of like making a guide about it. But what I realized is that there's a set of things that you can do relatively sequentially to get your meaning back. And so I think the cool thing about like you know reading the gospels or psychedelics or things like that is those each have some fingers crossed change in you. >> But the cool thing is like if you start with something called alexathyia. So as long as you are like using a bunch of substances um as long as you are not able to detect what is going on inside you that is a fundamental prerequisite of the subjective experience of meaning. >> The second step to that is to go through some stuff around ego. So this is like the other like big thing that we try to focus on is like when your default mode network is hyperactive. This is the part of your brain that gives you a sense of who you are. Hyperactive default mode networks lead to depression. Hyperactive default mode networks also lead to some degree of like existential depression. >> And this is where so many of my patients get tripped up when they start reading philosophy. And this isn't against philosophy, but remember this is
happening in a subjective mind. If you're not careful, what we know is that philosophy can turn into intellectualizing. that there is a psychological defense where you start looking at theoretical stuff and it sort of shapes the way that your mind functions and it starts to become maladaptive. >> What does that mean in simple terms? >> So people if you have a problem in life, you can think about it a lot. You can read about it a lot. There are a lot of people that I've worked with that just go on watching podcasts like chain watching podcasts and reading books and things like that, right? But their life never changes. >> Yes. So this is where so there's a certain amount of like you know learning how to ground yourself in your experience which involves reducing alexia which involves dis dissolving your ego and this is another really really important thing that I think we find in people who have purpose because if we go back to the earlier example of the person who 30 days after they die the world ends that person if they decide to still write the book I think that there is a certain ego involved in that, right? I'm doing it for the sake of the work. It's not for the benefit of humanity. It's not for some transcendent purpose. It's not for something that goes beyond my death. Actually, it's the opposite. I am do this doing this thing here and now just for its own sake. >> Mhm. >> And so, preparing for this podcast, I actually texted and called a couple of my former patients. These are people that I haven't seen in 3 to 5 years. And I just asked them. I was like, "Hey, bro. Do you have purpose? Tell me what it is." And I was stunned by how their answers are not about what happens after they die. >> They're very like, I'm just here for the the flow of it, right? My purpose in life is to experience what life has to offer. >> Mhm. >> That's it. It's not about something beyond you. And I think this is where you're spot on, Alex, that a lot of people deal with the fear of death by wanting to live past it. But that is actually that's the default mechanism
that we use. But that is actually ego-driven, right? I want to exist. >> Yes. >> Beyond when I die. And so that gives people some sense of purpose. But I think the deepest sense of purpose actually comes without that comes from being able to make paper clips every day and being content with that exercise. >> You you're describing Seisphus being happy is what you're doing. >> Yeah. So Seisphus can be happy. >> Yeah. I mean that that and and that's explains Cisphus for those that don't know about the guy pushing the rock up the hill. >> Kimu who is an existentialist even though he doesn't call himself an existentialist. Um he founds this school known as absurdism. Um which is a word I used earlier too. And he he tries to describe the absurdest condition of one in which you have all of these desires about the world but the world literally just can't fulfill them. You're looking for meaning. it's not there. It literally that your your desire and the real world are in conflict. And he calls this the realization of this absurdity. And he writes this this short treaty called the myth of Seisphus, which is based on an actual ancient myth of Seisphus who is condemned by the gods as punishment to roll a boulder up a hill. And when it gets to the top, it rolls back down again. And he goes back down and he pushes the boulder up to the top of the hill. And he does that over and over again for eternity. The real torture of this is not so much the suffering of the pushing of the boulder. There's that, but the suffering in the knowledge that it's meaningless. And that that describes the absurdest condition. Um, and Alberu tries to respond to this by imagining Sophus being happy and essentially as an act of rebellion against this condition, just getting on with it anyway and being okay with it. I've never been fulfilled by this. I I've I've sort of always thought that this may literally and I I understand that there are people who could do that. There are people who could write the book and I I thought of Cisphus when you said the person who writes the book anyway because it almost feels like an act of rebellion because it's not you didn't just say they still write the
book. You said they write the book anyway. They do it despite they do it almost in protest of this condition. Some people can do that but I think that that that is >> probably a sort of psychological cope. Um no it's it's not it's not a cope. It's a mechanism. >> Well, I'm saying I think it's a cope. I think that I think that that it's not grounded in in anything rational. >> I don't know if it's grounded in anything rational. It's absolutely grounded in something empirical. >> Sure. But like again, you can empirically like explain exactly why somebody's brain is doing what it's doing, but that doesn't mean that that there's any rationality or truth in the thing that their brain believes. >> Sure. Right. But but I think this goes back to the issue of whether there's capital P. But I I think that you can you can observe the world >> and you can make observations and you can I don't know what your relation to scientific observations and truth is whether those things are connected or not. But I I think that we know actually there there there are multiple psychological mechanisms some of which are copes >> and some of which are not copes. >> I suppose I mean like a philosophical dope. I mean like it's it's not I think it's untrue. I think that the person who um is content in such a condition is almost by definition delusory. >> What does delusury mean? >> Uh like under the influence of a delusion. I think that it it is not a happiness inducing condition to be sisphus rolling his boulder up the mountain. >> Yeah. So so this is where I I I think the data is actually against that. So what the data shows is that it is your attitude towards the circumstances of your life that determines your happiness or your lack of happiness. >> Well, someone can be in a happy delusion. In fact, that's why most people suffer from delusions because it makes them happy. >> That's not why most people suffer from delusions. >> So do but you understand what I'm saying that like like >> Yeah, I understand what you're saying. I just I just think that it's
>> you can't empirically show that something is not a delusion because it makes people happy. >> Yeah. So, so you can absolutely differentiate between a psychological cope >> and an attitude towards life that is not a cope. And the reason you can differentiate that is because of what is underneath. And people can be delusional, but they're not necessarily delusional to make themselves happy. In fact, quite the opposite. So, we have diagnosis like schizophrenia of which one of them is having delusions. And those delusions, generally speaking, the more schizophrenic and the stronger your delusions are, the more that inversely correlates with your happiness. >> To be clear, I'm talking about like a philosophical delusion. >> The question I want to get an answer to is this idea of the person who writes the book or pushes the boulder up the hill and can that person be have a purposeful life? >> Absolutely. So, so this is where this is what's so confusing for people is that people think so what Alex is saying I think is a really really common representation of what people think about purpose. My purpose is to make something that is greater from than me. My purpose is to have some meaning or impact in the world around me. What we know is there's a a a great example of this called self-determination theory which is that if you ask people if you look at people who have purpose what you find is it's not about anything transcendent >> have purpose or have a sense of purpose. have a sense of purpose. >> Okay, we're asking them subjectively, right? So if you if we're like like you know and that's what I think >> and these people are less likely to be addicted to things, are more resilient, tend to be subjectively happier as well. So we're talking about subjective, right? >> What you find is that they have three things. The first is that they have some degree of self-direction. >> So this is like I choose to do something. They're not just taking it from life. They are making choices. And this is where people also get confused because they think like which choice is right. That kind of thinking is actually
irrelevant. There isn't a right choice or a wrong choice. What correlates with your sense of direction is whether you make it or not. So you actually need to get away from the concept of right and wrong. The second thing is that they need a stretching of their competence. So if you just take a bunch of people who are not being pushed and finding themselves grow then their sense of direction or purpose will decrease. And the third thing is a sense of relatedness. So there is something where I have to know who I am and have other people see that part of me. And if you cultivate these three variables, then your purpose will empirically and by empirical what I mean is that we can measurably we can literally measure people's subjective experience in an objective way. And so like these kinds of things I think can end up improving your purpose. >> What are you measuring when when you're looking for >> Alex just I just would love to get your answer to this idea. Can you do you think the person who is pushing the boulder up the hill or is writing the book even though the world's about to end can still genuinely live a subjectively and by subjective I mean in their in their opinion >> um purposefully purposeful life. >> Yes. Yeah. Absolutely. I think Seisphus can be happy but I think that's not the attitude that I would have and I don't for myself find it satisfying any analogy which is sufficiently similar to the sysphus condition that is and the attempted solution is well just imagine sisphus happy um that's how he literally ends the myth of sophus one must imagine sisphus happy and I can imagine him and say you know good for him um but >> do you think you would be happier if you believed in Greg's views of the world >> almost certainly. Um, but not because of Greg's views, but because of the the confidence and satisfaction that they bring. I think I'd feel just as much meaning in my life if I was a convicted Muslim or were I uh a Jane or something like that, I think I would find that fulfillment. >> So, the content of the theology has no bearing in your mind on the way a person experiences their life. >> Of course it does. Can you explain specific terms content of the theology?
>> Well, the content well you talk about different religions and there's these different religions are in they they cannot all be true as Alex has pointed out. They have different content. They say different things about human human beings. For example, um the the u the view that human beings are just uh an illusion. The reality is illusion maya that kind of thing. Well, that seems to me to convey a certain understanding to human beings. about themselves and about the world. If you have a view that human beings are significant individuals, this is going to convey a whole different experience that they have. So, in other words, the theology that they believe is true is going to affect their feelings and their experience. This is what I was getting back at uh a little bit ago when I talked about the person whose life has been changed by becoming a Christian. And uh these aren't just what you explained to your friend. These are not things that just happen here and there, but there seems to be a very very broad experience of this. Um, and a change that doesn't depend on circumstances, okay? It's because they adopt a understanding of the the world that I think is an accurate understanding. And this is why their emotions and their experience follows along because they're choosing an accurate understanding of the world. When you look at Jesus in the Gospels, I I think it's so interesting to me that people read the Gospels to be uplifted by the reading of it. It seems that misses the point that Jesus is talking about the way the world is. He's teaching about the nature of reality. He was a Torah observant Jew. He wasn't a Hindu. He wasn't a Buddhist. He was a Jew. And he spoke in the context of that. Okay. So, just to simply read the Gospels as if we're going to read the uh some nice things that people said to make me feel better is missing Jesus' point when he's trying to describe the nature of reality. I don't think that's how the gospel should be read. But I do think I mean I I have a question for you on that. This a personal question more than anything. So I find myself in the same position as Alex where I think I'd be happier all things considered if I had an anchoring in a religion. I think that's like a subjectively true that I'd be happier.
>> Mhm. >> Um probably just because it would close a gap of some sort. It would it would anchor me in some way. >> Answer a question. It would answer a question and then with it would give me more of a structure to my decision making and >> you know it would mean that when I have moments of suffering I'd have a solution to that moment of suffering. So if my parents end up dying someday which I'm sure they will >> I will believe that they are still alive and they are somewhere and they're fine which will ease my suffering. >> So I agree with Alex in that regard. The problem I have is in order to adopt that view I need some kind of I need to believe it. It's true. like people can't aren't very good at >> lying to themselves and also when you talk about my friend in Dubai has had this experience he now feels better he could have well felt better I believe if he had you know believed that Islam was true and become a Muslim >> so so it's the feeling itself people can get in a lot of ways I know people that actually would tell you that they they feel better now that they're out of the cult and they're agnostic >> and the cult the cult made them feel terrible now they're agnostic they feel better does that mean agnosticism >> is truth >> so the the presumption that you made is a presumption we have to keep that in mind I mean the the people that I have talked to who were former Muslims and are now Christians very devout Muslims they did not have the experience of satisfaction and fullness and connection with God with in Islam that they do in Christianity okay we want to be careful that we know there are people who do >> yeah there's people that would have gone the other way and they'll be in the comment section right now saying, "Well, I went from Christianity to Islam." >> Okay. Well, sure. I'm just telling you what I what I know of those people. Okay? And uh it I think it's a mistake to say, "Well, everybody has their own religion. They have their so experience with their religion." Because I don't think that's the case. I'm not saying there aren't satisfied Muslims. That's not what I'm saying. Or Buddhists or Hindus or whatever. I'm But what I'm
saying is the the there is an evidential element to the changed life. Okay? And it may not be decisive. There may be other things that are involved. Okay. Um I do think that for many Christians, I think you've made this point in the past too. It's the experience with God that makes the difference. But it's not that the other evidences for the existence of God, maybe philosophical type of evidence haven't made a difference because I've talked to lots of people where they have made the difference moving them in that direction. >> The point there that it's evidential, that's a presumption. What I mean by evidential is that there is uh information that can be brought to bear that seems to be evidence um indicating that the belief system is true. It's not >> is that a presumption? >> I don't know why you would call it a presumption >> as in the the evidence that evidence that Christianity is true from the increased sense of purpose that people get from becoming a Christian. >> I think that's one of the evidence. It's a subjective evidence. Yeah. So it's evidence of the truth of Christianity. >> Well, I wouldn't build the whole thing, >> but it's evidence. It's contributing evidence to the actual truth of >> think the story of reality is simply that God made us to be with him >> and then we find the way that God intends for us to connect with him principally through forgiveness and be restored to our relationship with the father. And then that gives us when we do that a deep sense of satisfaction. I do think that's evidential. >> You know, in Alex Field, he could explain that through neuroscience, right? Serotonin, dopamine, endorphins. >> Yeah. So, can I go back to something real quick? So, you know, I was thinking about the sisphus example. Yes. >> And I was just thinking to myself, >> you know, so many people go to the gym to do futile physical activity, >> but not on its own for eternity with no sense in which it's improving their life, right? Imagine going to the gym and not only is it not making you healthier, it's actually just making you fatter and you have to do it forever for the rest of eternity for no reason with no end.
>> And then somebody says, "Well, all you've got to do is imagine that person being happy." >> Yeah. So, that's kind of interesting because then that presumes that the attitude through which you approach the action is what determines it. >> Determines what? >> Determines whether you're happy or not. Right? So every time you eat, >> y >> you buy yourself a trip to the toilet. This is something you can never escape. Sure. >> It is true for all time. And yet, how do you feel about going to the toilet? >> I'm maybe I'm misunderstanding what you're getting. >> So So So I I I think it's it's interesting, right? Because you're the problem of Seisphus is in the way that he views it. And this is exactly why I think the paperclip example is like actually such a good one because I think what we find when we look at some of these things like radical acceptance, dialectical behavioral therapy, sort of the ways in which people become happy despite the fact that there are painful things in life. It is an attitudinal shift. >> Totally. I I think I think one of the reasons why it might seem like we keep talking across purposes is because I think you're you are offering an explanation for why people feel a particular way. And I'm trying to see whether those those feelings are, shall we say, philosophically validated, whether they are those those feelings are are sensitive to truth. If the way you feel about the world is accurate. So I can I can perfectly understand that it's possible for Sephus to be happy. What I'm saying is that I think that the philosophical underpinning that would be required for him to be content in that condition is unsatisfying, at least to me. So as a as a >> what what so what is a what is a philosophical truth? >> It doesn't have to I mean maybe I shouldn't say philosophical truth but I mean to say I mean to separate it from what you might describe as like a neurological truth which is to say it could be true that your brain believes this or believes that based on this or that condition. I'm saying that totally.
But what I'm interested in is the thing that it believes. Is it true or false? You know it could be in the same way that you know believing in Christianity can make you happy. It can make you sad and you can you can scan someone's brain. You can put them in an MRI scanner and scan their brain when they at the moment they convert to Christianity and see that it starts going haywire. >> But the brain MRI is not going to show any beliefs. It's just nothing to do with the truth. >> Neurological activity beliefs aren't but beliefs aren't in the brain. >> Yeah, we we're we're going to get to that in >> I kind of I kind of agree. So, Alex, I think this is what I I I thank you so much for pointing out how we're kind of talking across each other because I I think this is the really weird thing and I'm going to say something and then as we talk about consciousness and what we just talked about, I'm going to torpedo it. >> But I I think what we sort of find is that from a practical sense and this could be where like philosophy I I don't know what the how the word practical ties together with philosophy because I tend to think of philosophy as sort of practical. We can go into that in a second. But I I think from the perspective of finding purpose. >> Mhm. >> Now, I'm not talking about purpose as a capital P truth, right? A capital T truth. >> Finding purpose. What it may not be philosophically satisfying to you, but what we sort of know from empirical evidence of people who are purposeless and people who are purposeful is that the the subjective feeling of purpose is comes out of a number of different things like like I mentioned like kind of autonomy being able to detect your emotions also a sense of like narrative identity. So having a purpose in life requires a you. And one of the reasons that no one feels like they are going somewhere in life is because they don't really have a clear sense of who they are. >> And so I think that it's a great kind of catch that we're sort of talking across
purposes because I I don't know the thing that you find philosophic not philosophically true maybe neurologically true but isn't philosophically true. >> I don't know how to approach that. I mean, I think I sort of do because if we talk about consciousness and subjective experience and how your friend was transformed and by the way, he may not be transformed. So there's speaking of coping, there's a chance that when someone, you know, drastically joins a religion and like this is great. That is like the mother of all copes, right? So sometimes they find they adopt they it's not identity formation, it's actually identification where like I'm going to join this team and now I'm on this team and now that I have this team, now I know who I am. Now I have a purpose. Like everything kind of gets laid out. But oftentimes, this is also why religion is not like 100% at giving people happiness and and things like that because there is an internal subjective experience of a relationship with God or something like that, which I think we can segue to consciousness. That's ultimately what determines whether you you feel really good about it. And then the other really interesting thing is through some of those subjective experiences, I think we the people who have these subjective experiences believe that it gives them access to truth with a higher like the Gnostics and and and folks like that. >> Mhm. >> I did something at 24 years old that has had a profound impact on my life. I set myself the challenge of posting every single day on my social media channels. And at the time I was doing it to grow my following. But it had this profound impact on my life. And two remarkable things happened when I did that. I managed to learn faster because every single day I'm capturing what is happening to me and trying to distill it down into something that I can share with the world. But more remarkably, it led me to building a following of many millions of people. And that's the basis that I use to launch the diary of a SEO. And that's why I want to tell you about our sponsor today, Adobe Express. They are the platform that I use to make all the posts across my LinkedIn and across
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Okay. Okay. And where exactly do you draw that line? And I'm not >> that isn't an area that I go deep in. But I do think that there was a an original progenitor to the human race as we understand it right now. >> Sure. >> That has the image of God in man >> and violated God's commands, rebelled against God, and that had an impact on the world. Okay. And that is why >> so therefore you're going to have some people aren't going to be, >> you know, fulfilling all of their the ultimate purposes that God has for them in this world. Just to be clear, children >> get cancer. >> Sure. >> Because say 2 million years ago roughly the start of the human species. >> I'm not going to set a date on it. >> Somebody rebelled against God's >> commands and that is the explanation for >> this is a fair question and you know some of these details I haven't worked out. What about earthquakes and tsunamis and all those kinds of things? Okay. Um clearly there is an impact of human rebellion upon the earth. Okay. what the extent of that impact is, I'm not entirely sure. But this is why I use the word broken because it's a rather broad term rather than trying to identify every instance of things that seem anomalous to a good world, not the way it should be, so to speak. Okay. I think that's an explanation for these things even though we can't necessarily itemize each individual particular instance and how it falls short. Alex, I want to put the same question to you, which is do you think that you were born with a purpose that was endowed for your life? >> No, not not in the literal sense. I think that there are that I was born with literal like proclivities built into my my consciousness and my DNA. Um >> almost want to do tendencies. Yeah, tendency is a great word. Yeah. For example, my tendency to to eat food. I I I don't think I learned that. I think I was born with it. But it's like I would use the language of when you say if you said do you think that you were you know you were given hunger from birth I'd be like no in a poetic sense maybe but what I mean say is I was born with this thing called hunger which I didn't learn which was just a part of my makeup. I think
the same thing is true for many motivations of life such as the sort of meaning that you that you might report feeling. I think it's there from from child birth. >> Same question for you Alec. Do you think that we each have a specific purpose or is it self-chosen? >> I think it's both. So I'm going to introduce two concepts that we haven't talked about yet. Dharma and karma. And um I think these are concepts that are sometimes hard to understand. I'm going to do my best to kind of speedrun them. So dharma is the Sanskrit word that kind of gets translated as duty. Uh the way that I would describe dharma, the reason I think it's so important is right now if we look at the world, people are like not having a good time. And often times what they do is they're stuck between this choice of doing what they want and doing what they should. So doing what they want is maybe dopamineergic is maybe fun in some way. Doing what they should is like painful in some way. So for me what I think dharma is dharma is like sort of duty. But I think the key thing that helps people once they find their dharma is it's what allows you to choose the negative thing. It it's what allows you to choose the hard thing. So if someone points a gun at me and I look at that gun, that gun means pain, suffering, death, you know, my life will will will end and then I will have nothing to leave behind me. So my purpose will end. So I I try to move away from that thing. But if someone points the gun at my child because I have this overwhelming sense of of love and joy or whatever, I step into the path of that thing. So I think once we understand what our duty is, that gives us a sense of tethering. It gives us a sense of direction. Um I think what confuses a lot of people is that they think duty is like some transcendental that's like a big thing like duty with a capital D like I was born on this earth to do these like particular big tasks like I need to say cure cancer or something like that. Oftentimes dharma is really small. So the way >> duty is not transcendent and it's not tied to some moral transcendent thing. >> I I think I don't know about moral. So this is where I think like I >> you said should.
So that's usually a moral term, right? >> In the west, right? So I think there's a whole different set of axioms. I'm using dharma and that's what people will like put morality onto dharma where I I don't think that that's actually fair. >> So so I going back to I have a duty just to give another example. Um and y'all can decide whether this is moral or not, but when I'm sort of working in the emergency room and you know a patient walks in, I have a duty to that patient. So what a lot of people don't understand about dharma is that it is very environmentally determined. So your dharma will depend somewhat on you know the the family that you have the responsibilities that you have. If you have children you have a dharma to those people. So I think that's one part of what we would call purpose. I think the other part of purpose and I think this gets really closer to the more western conception is karma. So going back to your your question about you know if a child with with cancer uh dies at the age of one is their purpose fulfilled arguably yes because that could have been their purpose in this life right so their purpose could have been so there's a really interesting story about you know many years ago there was a there were a group of angels this I'm just going to use the western terminology devas who disturbed Shiva in his meditation and so he cursed them and he said I'm going to the curse that you guys are going to do is y'all are going to be born on the earth for one lifetime of a human. And then the day of us were like, "Oh my god, like this is terrible. Like we're going to be cursed to be born on the earth and the earth is full of suffering and cisphus and there's no meaning with a capital M." So then they go to Shiva's daughter and they ask her, "Hey, can you help us out?" Like, "Can you please go talk to your dad? Can you please get him to change his sentence?" And she says that Shiva is never going to change his sentence. That's impossible to do. He's also kind of this embodiment of karma and things like that. But so he says, "But I can help y'all out. What I can do is I'm going to be born with y'all." And then there's this other story in the Mahabharat where basically she has seven children and then she drowns them the day after they're born. And so she says, "The
technical situation is you're going to be born for one lifetime. I can make a lifetime happen in a moment." Now, I don't know if that's true. I don't know if that's moral. I don't know if it's mythology >> but a potential explanation for why children get cancer. >> It's a potential explanation for why children get cancer. Now I think the the karma thing is when you said is your purpose in life predetermined. So I think that you inherit a certain amount of circumstances and that part of your purpose will be in relation to the circumstances that you inherit. But the other thing about karma which I think a lot of people misunderstand is they think that it means destiny. I think all it means is Newton's third law which is every action has an equal and opposite reaction. That while you may inherit a set of circumstances the way that you act is sewing seeds for your future life. So this is where like you know I I know I'm introducing a bunch of concepts and it's interesting. I you know we we started a a membership program here at Healthy Gamer and part of the reason we did that is because a lot of these concepts if you turn them into like 50-minute YouTube videos people just end up with more questions than answers. So we go into a lot of depth and I think it requires some depth because I'm sure everybody who's listening has a ton of questions. But in order to succinctly answer your question, I would say that yeah, you were born for I don't know about a specific reason, but there's a set of different things which only you can do like you are a unique set of genetics. You are a unique set of experiences. You are a unique set of psychology. And this process it in psychiatry is something that we call meaning making helps a lot when people have trauma. Right? So to help someone understand why did this terrible thing happen to you and once you make meaning from it that helps you adaptively >> but I think that it's also not like predestined necessarily. You can procrastinate on fulfilling your karmmas and then they'll just keep coming back. >> So Dr. K, I still have a question about this. You you talk about duty and I'd asked about morality there and you you
kind of begged off on that. Well, not really. But then you use the word obligation in the emergency room. And it sounds to me when you talk about those things, you are actually invoking moral categories. Things you ought to do. You have an obligation to do. You have a duty to do. Maybe the right thing. You didn't use this phrase, but it sounds like you're saying this is the right thing to do, the virtuous thing to do as opposed to the wrong thing to do. So, how how am I to understand those phrases if they are not really invoking genuine moral categories? So when you say moral categories, are you referring to a transcendental right and wrong? >> I'm talking about ethical principles, ethical rights and wrong if you want. They are transcendent because they're not simply in the molecules as it were. They're above us transcend. So yes, in that sense. Okay. >> Yeah. And uh has and there are consequences to our behaviors one way or another. And the consequences it's not just you know utilitarian. It's not just, well, I if I put toast in too long, it'll burn the toast, but you're you ought to do the things that you just described. You ought to help that person. Okay. I think it's a fairly common sensible word, a moral category, virtue, vice kind of thing. I I think whether it's common sensical depends on what's common, right? So, I I think that this is where these concepts I don't think are onetoone. So I think doing your dharma is basically the way I would describe your dharma is when I throw a ball in the air, it comes down. >> Okay. >> Right. So dharma is kind of doing what is the second part of what you've kind of signed up for. So when you say you ought to help the person in the emergency room, all you mean is you're not morally compelled to do that in in terms of a virtue, but there is a a consequence for you to do that as opposed to doing the opposite. >> Yes. And I think there is a layer of morality, but that is not within dharma. So for example, there are yamas and nyamas, which are things like truthfulness, a himsa, which means non-violence. So there's a set of different things that we would generally speaking call morality. And doing those
things is usually in accordance with dharma. But you know the mahabharat is a great case of someone saying I don't want to kill my cousins and I don't want to kill my teacher and Krishna saying you absolutely should because it is in accordance with dharma. So I think dharma often times gets like translated over to morality but I think you lose something in translation. >> Greg, can I ask you do you think you have you can have a fulfilling life without having a transcendent purpose >> in some measure? in some measure. What I described earlier is if God made us for a purpose and made the world for human flourishing and I think we get a basic description of that in the beginning of our story for example then people who don't even believe in God or even about even anything religious at all if they if they fall within the pattern of the things that God has created for flourishing they're going to flourish in some significant measure. You mentioned a few moments ago about having children and this is somewhat of a universal experience. Now you made a kind of a naturalistic characterization of why we feel that way. Um my sense is that God made us for that purpose. Be fruitful, multiply, subdue. And subdue doesn't mean rape the earth. It means to work productively what God has given us to serve. Now somebody can get married and stay married and have children and fulfill that purpose there and be very satisfied in doing it as opposed to all kinds of other var variations that it's just going to mess up their life. and they're going to experience satisfaction and fulfillment in it. But that's because they're in a certain sense they're doing the things that God has made human beings to do so that they would flourish. It's just like you can think of it in very mechanistic terms. You have a vehicle that meant to operate a certain way and if you do the things properly for that vehicle, it's going to run well and do >> so. So, I can have a I can have a grand feeling of purpose if I do many of the the things that are considered virtuous within scripture without needing to believe. >> Yeah, you could still be virtuous. Certainly, you can do those things. My argument, and this is what I was getting at a little earlier, uh Dr. Kay, is that
if if there is no God establishing a right and wrong, then there is no right and wrong because there is no law that we're we're we're conforming ourselves to. We are just doing stuff. All right. Now, >> if you believe the sort of evolutionary perspective on this >> taken as a whole, I don't not the way that uh Alex has taken. It's a grand explanation of pretty much everything. >> It's not an explanation of everything. It's an explanation of the variance of life on Earth >> because evolution does I was thinking about my dog. I was thinking about Pablo and I was thinking, why does he have sex with other dogs? Why does he why does he protect his puppies? >> Yeah. >> You know, why does he do these things that somewhat in uh Dr. K's example there, he he takes care of things. takes care of me when I'm not in the house. If someone comes in and my girlfriend's there, he takes care of my girlfriend. He barks only when she's she's at home alone. So, he seems to be expressing some form of morality. He seems to understand his own sort of idea of right and wrong. But I has that >> well, I wouldn't characterize it that that way as if he's thinking I ought to do this and if I don't do that, then I'm doing something wrong. I think animals have instincts that they're in imbued with that can be influenced by natural factors to some degree, I guess. Um, but they are made for purposes. And this is the reason that many of the creatures act the way they do is because of these very sophisticated instincts that allow them to get along in life and do well and survive and reproduce. >> But I don't I don't have any reason to think that they're Yeah. survive and reproduce. Of course, >> but I don't have any reason to think that they're thinking I'm doing the moral thing. >> And if they didn't do the thing that we would be uh it would be appropriate to accuse them of doing something immoral, this or whatever. History's almost shown that even in times where where we look back and go that was not the moral thing like you know Nazis in in World War II. >> Yeah. >> Um they acted in a way that was helped them survive in the context they're in.
So the Nazi that you know would go to the concentration camp then come home and be really nice to his family. He thought he was doing the right thing. >> This is why one of the reasons I think this is the evolutionary explanation is inadequate. Okay. because it seems that there are lots of things that people do that seem to be good for them or for their tribe that characteristically we'll look at and we'll assess it and the assessment would is that that is wrong it's evil it's wicked and I think that our assessments are reliable in that regard okay that we have moral intuitions that allow us to see things that are real about that and these things are relatively universal I mean it doesn't matter where you live or when you live people are asking the question about the problem of evil in the world okay and I think it's because of of what evil was seems to change over time because me I mean I wouldn't be sat at this table many a couple hundred years ago because I'm black and everybody at the time thought that that was the right thing they didn't think that was an evil thing at the time >> well everybody at the time didn't think that you know there are going to be social mores and have that and that are going to change over time and do people do respond in different ways but just because you have variations in the way people believe about morality doesn't mean that there's there isn't a morality that's a sound morality And Lewis's CS Lewis has done a study of this looked at the kinds of things that seem to transcend culture in terms of assessments, moral assessments that seem to be true about every culture. A lot of times the differences are not differences in moral facts, but they are uh like the morality is actually changed, but a difference in perception. Okay. So what uh what counts as uh heroism in some cases would not count as heroism in other cases even though heroism is considered a noble kind of thing. I've been waiting for an opportunity to rewind to the fact that we just brushed over two of what I think are the best available at least first that came to mind explanations as to why children get cancer. And I just wondered as as a as a question whether you consider whether whether your explanation sounds to you
as your explanation sounds to you as I think both of them sound to me and I don't know how they sound to you Stephen but the idea that >> the thing that we are most fundamentally confronted with I think on an existential level is suffering >> and there's our own suffering and then there's the suffering of others and the seemingly meaningless suffering of a child who's undergoing cancer and does not survive And I'm told that in the face of such existential tragedy, turn to religion to give us a sort of sense of fulfillment and a sense of explanation. But when asked about the mechanism of how, I'm told it's because at some undisclosed number of years ago, somebody commit a sin against God and that's why your child has now died of cancer. There are millions of people who listen to this show. there will be people listening to this whose children have died of cancer. I wonder if that brings them any kind of consolation. Similarly, the idea that, you know, maybe it's some disgruntled angels who didn't want to come down to earth for too long and so if anything, you're actually doing them a favor by killing them of cancer. I don't know if that's bringing the kind of they're looking for. >> What's your answer to that? >> I don't think I have one, but I don't like people professing that they do have an answer, but when it comes down to it, >> actually saying something which I think will provide the opposite effect, which and I don't mean this personally. I mean as as a point of religious explanation. The idea that this is going to bring >> everyone's going to get a chance to respond to this. So >> the idea that this even approximates an explanation as to why this happens. I would ask you to consider what you find more likely if we assume that we are essentially existing here as accidental accidental organisms just competing in a struggle for survival with no endowed meaning or supervision. What might we expect to find? And I would ask what you would expect to find if we were created with purpose by a loving God who wants us all to come into communion with him. But for some reason thinks it's necessary that we exist in this veil of
tears in this material world first. What would you expect to find? >> I don't think and then look at what you do find. >> Look at what you do find in the natural world. Even if you just take into consideration nonhuman animal suffering just an unfathomable amount of negative experience, >> right? >> There's seemingly no reason. Not to mention the fact that children are getting cancer as you say and as you've already alluded to there are evils that humans commit like the Holocaust. But there are evils which they don't like earthquakes and tsunamis and the like. >> I don't think we would expect to see any of this if we assume that hypothesis. But if we assume that we are just accidentally existing organisms in a in a struggle for survival, not only do we explain this, but we also come to expect it. So I think it provides a much better explanation. That is not to say justification. The idea we were talking about evolution. You said that the problem that you have with the Darwinian worldview is that it seems to say that it seems to favor survival of the fittest. And yet there are things which evolution seems to point to that we would morally condemn. Well, of course, because evolution by natural selection is an explanation for how things got the way they were. It's in no way a justification for behaviors. It it doesn't even function that way. No scientific theory of why things happen are any kind of justification any more than Newton's laws of gravity are a justification a moral justification for the motion of the planets. That's of course it's not the case. It's just an explanation. But but I just really want to drive home this point. >> Mhm. >> That it has to do more. If you want religious traditions to do what you claim that they do, which is provide existential comfort for people who are suffering, you have to do more in the face of children dying of cancer than some reference to mythical human beings who existed or Well, in in a way that's completely unintelligible. >> There's a lot there. Okay. I don't expect it's could be comfort to anybody to say who's suffering from whatever to
say that there was a fall. Okay. The fall is just the explanation for what went wrong and why there is wrong in the world. Like I said earlier, doesn't matter where you live or when you live, everybody knows something's wrong. And the way they express that concern about something wrong is in moral terms. The world is not the way it ought to be. should be different there and then when you give examples of it sometimes there's natural evil but generally it's examples of moral evil what we would call moral evil okay things that people shouldn't do okay >> that's why I particularly avoided those >> no right you didn't include any examples and but you the implication is and this is where you know Richard Dawkins's famous statement that this is exactly the kind of world we'd expect >> if there was at the basis you know no design no justice, no evil, no good, nothing but blind, pitless, indifferent. So you >> Well, I actually think this isn't the world that we find, the one he just described. Yes, it's a world filled with suffering, and there's a way of explaining that which you just did. There's also another way of explaining it that has a solution. Okay. Um, >> what is that explanation? >> Pardon me, that God is in the process of solving the problem of evil over time. >> I mean, the explanation for why the evil's there in the first place. You said the fool, and I I don't mean to interrupt, but you said it. You've referenced the fool twice now and the last time I tried this you it seemed like you sort of said that you don't really know but if the fool is >> I wasn't I wasn't giving particular details about the ancestry of human evolution >> historically what is the fool >> the fall is when our first parents >> characteristically known as Adam and Eve in the story and the account of reality >> um rebelled against God and when they rebelled against God they disobeyed him is what's important uh he had given them a restriction they disobeyed that and when they disob obeyed that they broke their relationship with God through rebellion. They broke their relationship with each other. They broke their relationship with the environment. All of that had these kind of cosmic
effects. There's a solution though. That's just the first threeand finish the thought. Okay. The the principal issue is rebellion or disobedience. Okay. There are different ways it's characterized, but that's the point in my view. The disobedience. Okay. >> Of of what though? >> Pardon me. >> Disobedience of of what? Like what was it? >> God told them not to do one thing. Don't eat from the the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and they disobeyed. >> Do you interpret that literally? >> Pardon? >> Like an actual tree and an actual fruit. >> I do take that as a straightforward account, but that's not the important part. I don't want to get >> So children get cancer because somebody ate So children get cancer because a few million years ago someone ate a fruit. >> Let me just back up and give you the entire account. This would be this would be I think more helpful. >> I'm not trying to be difficult by the way. I just really I don't want to just brush over these points when we reference. I mean people listening might be like I've never heard of Adam and Eve and they they'll need to know what >> the point I'm making is that there was a disobedience by human beings that had an impact on their relationship with God which they were created for and had an impact on the rest of the world and since then pro that problem of evil broadly grit since then the world's been broken and God has a plan for bringing that back together not only for making the world whole again but also for bringing human beings back in proper relationship with him when they're in rebellion with him. And this is where Jesus comes in. Now, I I I've written a piece called the story of reality, a book that's meant to characterize that in fairly clear terms in more general terms. It isn't meant to answer all of these questions because some of them frankly are imponderables, but the larger picture can be understood and is in the story. It's in the account of reality in the scriptures, the Hebrew scriptures and in the Christian scriptures. They form a unit. Okay? And these are the things that Jesus spoke to and Jesus took these things seriously
based on what he had to say about these particular things. Okay. So because we broadly speaking now because we live in a broken world there is an answer that we have to that we have a poss possible answer. You know it was uh Bertrren Russell who famously said how are you going to talk about God when you're kneeling at the bed of a dying child which I think is very emotionally compelling. But I listened to philosopher William Craig who you also know I think >> who said what is Bert and Russell the atheist going to say when he's kneeling at the bed of a dying child. >> Tough luck too bad. That's just the way it goes. There is no answer that he has. >> Dr. K, can you come in with your response as well? >> Sure. First of all, Alex, I want to thank you for bringing up and being a bit bulldogish. I mean that in a good way. You grabbed something. and you were like, "This is not okay." >> Well, we forget that people are listening to this whose children have died of cancer. >> I I I totally get that. >> I think we just need to keep it in mind, you know, >> 100%. So, so I'm really glad you said that because I realize that I offered a terrible example. And I say this as someone I can remember the day I was a third-year medical student on my first pediatric rotation. I was working in the ICU overnight and there was a nine-year-old child who had I think lymphoma and I watched and was with their parents as that child moved towards death. I have worked in offices where people will come into my my uh office and they'll say, you know, they'll they'll ask me about karma and they'll be like, I was 9 years old when I was sexually assaulted. Are you telling me that this is like part of purpose or whatever? I also remember when I was in India, one of my best friends, the first time I went to India, I spent about seven years studying to become a monk. I discovered a lot of really cool stuff like meditation, had some transcendental experiences, altered my worldview. And one of my best friends who is also a very accomplished meditator, I we kind of got to talking
about religion and I was like, you know, what do you think about like Hinduism and some of these concepts? And he said, I can't accept any religion that says if you were raped, it's your fault. Yes. So that stuck with me. And so for a long time, at the very beginning, Stephen asked me a question. Am I Hindu? I mean, am I religious? And I I guess I would say yes. So that thought really stuck with me. I think for a long time I was an atheist. I think I'm still an atheist. I think there are a couple of other things that are a little bit unusual. So like people think like in the west we think that atheism, polytheism and monotheism are contradictions. We don't really think that in Hinduism like those things can coexist. Mhm. >> So, and what I'm really grateful for you for is because I think when I'm so glad you said that because I think when I offered the example that I offered, it's so interesting because I was thinking about why I mentioned that we have a membership. And the reason I mentioned it is because this is this is one of those things that I have lectured about for four to six hours. And if you listen to that lecture, then you will understand the context that I'm coming from. But without that context and if you sort of assume there's so many axioms about morality and deserving >> that that that example without the appropriate context sounds awful. It's like your kid died at the age of one. Oh, there's some greater purpose. You just don't know what it is. you. Yeah. Right. >> That is not comforting at all. So here's where I am now. I I really think this is I think Garma is good in the sense that it it helps people. I I also think it's true. But here's kind of where I am now. So that was sort of my journey. I realized it was out of order. Transcendental experience. Garma seems awful. There's this concept of deserving. Then many years later through practice with people who have been sexually assaulted and and watching children die in the pediatric ICU grappling with these problems. Not just like there are people out there. It's like you're in the room with these people when their child is dying. What do you say to them? >> And even more so now as a psychiatrist
with end of life care and things like that. So I think the first thing to understand or first question that I have for you is when I say the word karma, what does that mean to you? >> I don't know. >> Okay. >> I don't know what you mean you mean by that. >> So So I I think the first thing to understand about garma is it's just the principle of cause and effect. >> Yeah. So when a child dies of cancer, what would you say is the cause of their death? >> Well, I I I don't know about the science of cancer very much, but I would suppose it's the cancer. >> Perfect. Right. So that is in accordance with the law of Gharma. Now, what is the reason they got cancer? >> I don't know. >> Okay. >> I mean, what pick any reason you like. >> There could be a genetic mutation, random chance, things like that. >> So what I think that all karma is is action and reaction. That's it. So if you understand the doctrine of karma, what it helps you do is see the way that causes and effects link to each other. It does not have anything to do with deserving more so than if I have a genetic mutation and I wind up with cancer. That is an action that has an effect. Th this is why I was reluctant to engage with moralities because I think there are certain assumptions that I think come from this kind of Abrahamic or Judeo-Christian worldview that get injected into these concepts like karma and dharma which is why I hate translating them because anytime I translate something it's going to be filled in. So you really have to understand karma. But I would say all karma is devoid it of remove it denote it of all morality remove it of all deserve beyond simple Newtonian mechanics and that actions have consequences. >> Now the reason that this is helpful okay now I'm realize I'm making a functional claim here not a claim about >> philosophical truth because I don't know what else to call it. >> I do think it's philosophically true but that's not what I'm talking about right here. um is that when you're sitting
with a human being because your your your primary concern is when a child with cancer dies or is dying, how do you deal? How do you There are people who are suffering. If we're not careful, we're going to hurt them. Right. That's what you're saying. >> Um that's one thing I'm saying. Yeah. Right. So, so I I think what I sort of >> there's how it makes people feel, but there's also the literal explanation for why they suffer. You know, it's it's one thing to say that, you know, this this religious uh narrative will bring you some comfort, but it's another thing as well. I think that's something you need to keep in mind. But you're saying more than that as a religious person, you're not just saying that this narrative will bring you comfort. You're saying this is why it's happening. This is why your child has cancer. >> So, so what I would say, so here's my kind of uh response to that. So the first is I think that when I sit with people who were sexually used at the age of nine, didn't do anything to deserve it, you know, people will say like, oh, like you have to be careful what you wear and stuff like that. I mean, I you know, I have patients that were in onesies and overalls and all kinds of stuff. >> Nine. >> Huh. >> At the age of nine. >> Yeah. People will say all kinds of stuff. So um and and what I find with working with them and there's plenty of data to back this up is that there's a certain amount of meaning making >> that is necessary to comfort those people to heal from that thing. And the meaning making if we're talking about empirically making meaning out of things that are bad is one of the ways that you alleviate suffering. Mhm. >> So one of the things that I find is helpful as an option for that meaning making is understanding the doctrine of dharma. And when I share it with people doesn't work for everybody. So from a clinical standpoint I'm not saying you should believe in the doctrine of karma. I'm just and I I'm not saying you should believe in Christianity or anything like that. The important thing is this is what the science shows is you should make a concerted effort to make meaning.
And because of my background, because of my expertise, helping people understand things from a karmic perspective, I would say is helpful about 80 to 90% of the time. >> But there's a very important caveat there from a data standpoint is that there is a huge selection bias to who comes into my office. There's a good chance that these people are already open to that concept and are interested in learning more. So I make no claims about that concept being superior to anything else. Mhm. >> But I think what we know from psychiatry is that it's not so clear which one is the best, but that you just have some way of like making sense of what happens to you. >> Mhm. >> And that's just one thing that I think is an option. And I happen to believe in the principle of cause and effect, which is all karma is. There's no morality tied to it. >> It sounds like you're saying that it's just something that it just happens. >> What do you mean it just happens? >> It just happens. No, absolutely not. I'm saying the exact opposite. So, it just happens does not imply a cause. >> No, it I mean it it just happens as the result of some series of causes. Like, why do children get cancer? It's just the result of a series of causes. Yes, >> that's it. >> Yes. >> There's no redemption. There's no meaning. There's no intention. It's just it just happens. >> And that's fine because I I I believe that's the case. I think that's true. >> No. No. I I mean I I think that we have overwhelming evidence overwhelming that if you have a BA negative mutation on both sides that you have a 98 to 99% chance of getting breast cancer that having this mutation here warrants a prophylactic double mastctomy which means removing both breasts before the cancer even shows up. >> But I think the reason why maybe I'm wrong about this but I think the reason you brought this up Stephen was not because you were interested when you said like I don't think you worded it like this but you know why does a child get cancer? Why would young Steven have gotten cancer? I don't think you mean in
a scientific sense. I don't think you mean literally explain to me the process by which cancer develops in my brain gives me leukemia. I think you mean why does this happen if being supervised? I mean, you asked it to to Greg in the context of religious supervision of the universe. And I think the irony is that we're in a context of a discussion where usually the boots on the other foot and I'm sort of being told that as a as a non-religious person, as an atheist agnostic, I don't have a satisfying explanation. You know, what am I going to say at the at the foottool of of somebody who's who's dying of cancer? But it sounds to me at least today like we don't have a very plausible alternative in Christianity. For example, I did have a few questions which maybe I'll be permitted the time to to ask and I don't I don't want to bang on about this, but it's important because this is ultimately you're here to represent your view and a worldview more broadly and this is to me the question is the question of suffering and you've explained your your your views about the the fool and I wanted to let you put them in full before I asked a few questions. But the first question that jumps out at me is the question of prehuman suffering. We're not the first species to inhabit this planet. And before we existed, billions of years, I don't know if you believe that the earth is 4 and a half billion years old, but but billions of years, hundreds of millions of years at least of animal suffering. >> Yeah. >> Like, and that is experienced. They they like if and and you could say that it somehow is less like relevant or doesn't matter as much, but if if you saw me right now step on a dog's tail and watch it squeal, you'd tell me to stop because you know that absent >> just the effect that that has on our human situation, that's bad for the dog. That kind of stuff was going on for hundreds of million years before humans were around. That means before the fool. >> That's true. >> The second question, the second question I have, >> let's do one at a time. >> Uh and I don't entirely know how to
answer that. Um part of the problem comes when you create a world in a certain way that has um certain cause and effect kind of things. So pain is there for a reason. Pain is there so that you can avoid something that's harmful to the body. When you start feeling pain, you withdraw from it. Okay? In a very simplistic sense. It also has a downside and the downside is that pain is painful and sometimes dying is very painful too. So there's a trade-off there. Now I haven't worked all those details out. Okay. Uh but what I look at is a larger picture because I can't refine all of those things for my own thinking. The larger picture is we both we all live in the same world that is filled with pain and suffering. So then the question is who has the best explanation at large about how that works? No explanation. Well, maybe some are are going to go very granular and get the here's why your baby is suffering in this moment for this thing. We're not going to be able to do that. But we can understand why the world is broken. Now, if you if you don't hold that the world was made for something better, then the world we see right now is not broken. It's just the way it is. There is no moral assessment whatsoever that we can make that would make any sense. But we constantly make moral assessments, which is why you're bringing this issue up about suffering. >> I've been very careful to avoid moral language precisely this reason. Let me explain how what I'm it seems to me that you are bringing kind of smuggling in moral categories with the suffering issue because if I said I don't care about the suffering of millions of years of organisms that had experienced pain that kind of casts me in a kind of a negative moral light. You don't have to say that. It does seem to me that you're smuggling in the notion that suffering is bad morally. >> I know that people often do that. I'm specifically avoiding that because I've had this conversation a hundred thousand times and that's that's the accusation that that gets brought up and some people do do that but I'm specifically you can rewind the tape I make great pains I don't say the problem of evil for example I say the problem of suffering okay >> if you said that you didn't care about
suffering I would say that you're probably just being inconsistent with your Christian worldview for example I wouldn't say that you're doing anything immoral in the context of >> accept the qualification >> what I'm saying >> is that if Christianity were true we would not expect the kind of suffering that is present in the natural world I'm Not saying that on my worldview that suffering is wrong and must be fixed and there's some moral element. I'm not saying that at all. All I'm saying is that it is unexpected if Christianity were true that that suffering would be as it is. >> Well, the way >> in particular the non-human animals. >> No, I understand that. Okay. And the way I'm the way I'm looking at it, >> do you understand that I'm not smuggling in those moral moral because you said that I'm smuggling in moral terminology. >> Can I buy that? It's okay. I'm not doing that. >> Did you have a second question? I did which is that if the fool is the explanation for shall we say the the moral evils that people commit like the Holocaust the reason why people have a proclivity to commit the Holocaust is because of the betrayal of God's trust few million years ago whenever it was you think it was um if if Adam and Eve's transgression is the explanation for why humans have a sinful nature and act upon sin >> then why did Eve act upon the sin before the fall had happened. >> Mhm. >> Eve must have had a proclivity to sin in order to in order to betray God in the first place. And so I don't think it suffices to say that the explanation for why we have human beings with a proclivity to sin like Adolf Hitler >> is because of the fool if the fool is a result of a proclivity to sin from Eve. >> Well, the nature of freedom in my understanding, my view is that it can initiate things. Okay? You don't have to have in a certain sense deterministic element in your in your soul that forces you to act a certain way. Why did Adam and Eve Eve in this case act the way she did? Because she was capable of initiating a free action free action in terms of rebellion. Okay, that's the nature of freedom. Okay, I can't get
into her mind. And I think sometimes asking questions like this, why did she under those circumstances do what she did? I can't answer that. Do you think she she did something immoral? >> Yeah, she disobeyed God. >> And what did she eat from the tree of the >> I'm not sure. >> She ate from the tree of the knowledge and good and evil. So, she ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Implying that before she ate of it, she didn't have a knowledge of good and evil. How could she have done something immoral before she ate it? >> Can I ask you a question? Hold on. No, I this goes to a connection to my view. So, I just need to clarify this. >> You understand what I'm saying? Right. Like, >> yeah, I understand. I'm entirely sure. If she hasn't eaten from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, she must have known good and evil. So how does she know that it's evil? If she hasn't yet eaten from the knowledge of good and evil because the knowledge of good and the word knowledge often times in the Hebrew is talking about experience. Okay, it is not talking about mental awareness. Okay, she wouldn't have been she wouldn't have not been able to even understand the command not to do something if she didn't have those moral categories. I think that's part of the image of God in man. Consequently, she knew she'd ought not do it, but she still chose, for whatever reason, to do that. And that act of disobedience created a big mess. >> What that means is that the fool does not explain the proclivity to sin because Eve already had it. It does not explain the existence of evil because knowledge of that already existed before she committed the fool. It also doesn't explain the origin of suffering because of course, Eve's punishment for eating from the tree of the >> Well, you're talking about suffering prior to human beings in animals. Okay, >> I'm talking about suffering in human beings. It does it does explain the fall of man because human beings made a choice that they could they they could have made differently but they didn't and their rebellion against God it had a consequence I don't think it could be >> and this is why the rest of the world
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meaning and come to some kind of spiritual enlightenment and then teach that to your children and that's then their starting point. For them, it resets. It's new. So I think that every individual has to do it on their own for themselves, right? And we're all doing that together as it were going around the world. So the way that I'm approaching this, we were going to talk about consciousness, which we didn't. And perhaps it's a good job that we didn't because it's it's just such a big topic. But my views on consciousness are crucial to my uh to my sense of sort of what it's all about as it were because the greatest mystery that we are confronted with every single day if you just take a moment to remember it is that we are conscious is that we are experiencing things from a first person perspective that I have thoughts which are inaccessible to you and you have thoughts which are inaccessible to me. It's extremely strange. So there's a view that I'm quite attracted to uh in the philosophy of mind called pansychism which literally means sort of like the view that consciousness is everywhere or in everything. It's not it doesn't mean that everything is conscious. It doesn't mean this pen is conscious. What it means is that the stuff that the universe is made out of so the fundamental matter of the universe has at least mental properties or might be mental properties. Because when you say for example, you know, we're in a world of like molecules in motion, right? >> I understand that sentiment. But if you ask a scientist, what is stuff actually made out of? Ultimately speaking, they will not be able to tell you. >> For you personally, what makes your life full of purpose and meaning? >> I can't just jump. I can just jump there, but it won't make much sense because what I would say is something like a recognition of the of the illusion of divisible selves, which doesn't make a ton of sense. >> I can explain >> unless you unless you lay the groundwork, which can be can be explained in many different ways and in fact is something which most uh like the Vic tradition, it's one of the reasons I'm so attracted to it and particularly
the the Apananishads is because they seem to embody this idea. They they they're constantly banging on about how the individual self, the individuated person is an illusion and there is one ultimate self. They call it Ant-Man. Um, >> but are you going to have kids? >> I don't know. >> Do you want to have kids? >> I hope so. Yeah. >> So, you do want to have kids? >> Oh, yeah. >> Why? >> I'm not sure. >> I don't know. I it just feels it feels as though I've got it's a bit like asking you know there's a there's a literal explanation if if you ask me am I going to have dinner today I'll say yes if you say why I could say well because I'm hungry but if you ask me like but but like why like why why do you care about being hungry why do you care about satisfying it >> well I would say I'm agnostic and I'll say I want to have kids because I think it will bring a lot of joy to my life I think I'll enjoy the challenge it's proven to be >> for your sake >> yes >> so it's not for their sake I think everything kind of immoral to >> No, no, no, no, no, no. I think everything everyone does at some you can look at the neurological level is for their sake. The reason why people why Dr. K works on that ward and saves the life. It's ultimately because it's >> so then >> in a in a way I agree with you but if if it is true that there is this sort of thing called consciousness that the universe is made out of and brains are kind of complex organizations of consciousness then when you ask me like you know why what's wrong with harming another person on this on this worldview on this materialistic worldview well I think the material of the universe is consciousness and I think that when I harm someone else it could literally in a fundamental sense be a be a case of self harm by by the way Can I just say because it sounds a little bit insane um without the space to explain the pansy worldview it sounds absolutely mental but there are some there are some really interesting clues here can I give you one clue this is really really
fascinating about the fact that the brain as Aldis Huxley said it was a tool focusing the mind aldus Huxley writes in the in the doors of perception essential reading to anybody interested in consciousness by the way um Aldis Huxley in the 20th century takes a psychedelic drug and he writes about his experience and he writes about it beautifully and one of the things he realizes is that his mind has been opened and he thinks okay well if my mind has been opened during this experience then that means that in normal waking hours something must be closing my mind what could be closing my mind answer the brain he concludes that the brain is a tool for focusing the mind so the psychedelic experience this is before we've done any scientific experiments on this you can scan people's brains in like an M MRI scanner, right? Okay. So, when you take a psychedelic drug, your experience just blows up, right? You start seeing colors you didn't know existed. You start experiencing things as if they were new. It's like the experience is unimaginable. So, we've taken people and we've measured their brain activity and their and their brain activity is at a certain level. And then you give them a psychedelic drug and you put them in the MRI scanner and their brain activity goes down. brain activity goes down as the mental experience expands and goes up which for the person who experiences the psychedelic drug they will report this as a feeling that they just get from the experience. the scientist who measures the brain activity, the sages writing, the the Apananishads, the Buddhist monk after a series of long meditation will all say the same thing which is that in some inexplicable way. Consciousness is more foundational than the brain is and the brain is focusing consciousness and in some sense that means that our individuated selves are essentially illusory. I'm gonna do my best >> in the same way the distinction between objects are a loser >> to support what you're saying. I I totally empathize with having fallen into this mistake of invoking karma and not having the bandwidth to explain what I mean, >> opening myself up to misinterpretation. That's also why I completely understand
what you said a moment ago, which is >> so so I think the funny thing about this is if we look at the quantification of meaning. I think everything that I said about self-determination theory, you know, make choices in life doesn't matter what they are. We get so caught up about making the right choice. Where does the concept of right or wrong come from? It comes from like the social conditioning around us. When I was 9 years old, my grandmother's like, "Oh, you're going to be great doctor one day. Great doctor, great doctor, great doctor." And so then I went to medical school. I was premed and I promptly failed out because the reason I wanted to be a doctor is because I thought it was going to be cool and I was going to go to Harvard by the way. I was going to be the best doctor, not just a doctor. And that didn't really align with my motivational system at all. It was coming from the ego. And so I kind of failed out and then seven years later started med school a few years later at that. Wound up ironically training at Harvard and being faculty there. And so going back to karma for a second, I I I share this example because a lot of times when we look at things that we think are bad and I'm not saying that cancer applies here clearly, but this is what the meaning making the practical functional work of when someone comes into my office who was the result who was sexually abused or something like that. How do we help that person? We make meaning. So for me this was I used to think that that there is no scenario in which a 2.5 GPA is better than a 4.0 GPA. that in school getting Fs is in no way better than getting A's. Now years later I realize that all of those experiences of suffering, of struggling, of having no meaning in life, playing video games for 20 hours a day, joining a fraternity when I was a freshman, which is lots of great times, you know, made me the person that I am. And though even if you look at the brand of Dr. K, the whole point was I was a college dropout and then ended up as faculty at Harvard Medical School. Amazing, right? So in this context that a lot of times that if we sort of the more we are zoomed into our life, the less we will see this broader perspective. And this is really
fascinating if you look at the work of Victor Frankle because Vic Victor Frankle was a neurologist, went through the Holocaust, became a psychologist and then he sort of literally his work is something called logootherapy, which is how do we consistently help people make meaning in life? And he designed a system of therapy. And the first part of it is de-individuation. Is the ability of zooming out from your thing. When someone feels like my life is falling apart, there's no point anymore. Why? Because I just got dumped and she's never going to talk to me again. >> Zoom out a little bit. This is not the end of the world. Your life is bigger than this one thing. So the more that we zoom out from a mechanistic perspective, >> the more meaning we find in life. And what is the ultimate zooming out? Relationship with God. because now we're way out here, right? This isn't about you. This isn't about someone dying of cancer. This is about something that goes way bigger than you. So, what I would say is you can do all the scientific stuff. It'll get you to 8 out of 10, maybe nine out of 10. But, and this is what's so crazy, the scientific stuff I am incredibly confident I can defend. >> I can point to studies. We can talk about psychedelics, the default mode network, self-determination theory, logootherapy. There are tons of studies, radical acceptance, dialectical behavioral therapy, all of these things, acceptance and commitment therapy, all of these things have to do with making meaning in the world. But if you really want to find that meaning, you keep on asking this question. I mean, you selected that question because you're looking for it, right? And you won't let him get away with some philosophical explanation. You're like, "No, you tell me when you wake up. Where is it? Show me where it is. Show me how to get it." because you don't understand his because you've never had a direct experience of mine. And so you're like, "Bro, you don't know God. How do you find it?" The desperation of like, "No, no, no slipping away, Alex. No random stories and ending up in a not random, sorry. No stories that end up in a delightful way." Right? So, how do you find that that last chunk that last way
that last step of the way there is through the direct experience of Brahman. So when he says pansychism in the Hindu system, we believe that consciousness is the foundational element of the universe. >> Atman is Brahman. >> Atman is not Brah well sort of yes and no. Atman is individual soul. Brahman is the cosmic soul. The cosmic consciousness that the fundamental thing that is out there is transcendent. And having a relationship that with that thing is how we get meaning. This is how we get a 9 out of 10 or a 10 out of 10 meaning because this guy has done something where he had this experience where he's been talking to God but one day someone answered the phone >> and when you have that transcendent experience when you have this direct experience of the Brahman and this is why I've been avoiding saying it because it's completely undefensible it is what I believe is philosophically true it is what I believe is absolutely true >> and it is not transmissible it can only be witnessed. >> Exactly. That's that's the most important point is that and it's why I say that this is something that everybody has to start a fresh because if there is an answer to this question, it is something that you >> that you cannot syllogize. By the way, this isn't just some like you know Hindu thing like Christians say the same thing about their religious experiences. The >> the ineffable quality William James famously tried to identify the characteristic aspects of religious experience and one of the most important was the ineffability. the inability to explain is what that means. Like the inability to put into words and to explain and to say what it's like and interestingly some of my favorite examples of this throughout history have been some of the most important Christian thinkers of all time who've essentially abandoned the project of communicating ideas to other people. I mentioned Bla1 Pascal earlier. He famously had his night of fire where he has a religious experience and he's one of the greatest writers in Christian history and he has this experience of God and he writes in his diary and later
has it etched into his jacket fire he writes >> not the God of the philosophers the God of Abraham the God of Isaac the God of Jacob because he realizes that he's experienced something which is not this abstract first cause design of the universe it's not that it's something more deeply personal Thomas Aquinus undoubtedly the greatest metaphysician of Christian history writes the Suma Theologica which is to this day one of the most celebrated works of Christian metaphysics trying to you know explain and analyze the nature of God. It's where we get his famous five ways of showing the existence of God and all of this kind of stuff and it's it's really long and still still studied in depth to this day. He left it unfinished when he died. Why? Because one day he was performing the Eucharist and he had a religious experience. He believed that he experienced the presence of God and he stopped writing it and he was he was practically begged by a friend and patron like Thomas you've you've you've got to you've got to finish the book and he wrote back and said I can write no more after what I've seen it's like straw compared to the experience I've had. But quite clearly when you look at people who actually report the stuff that people want which is the certainty the experience where they say I've I've met God and I know what that feels like. The number one characteristic of such experiences is that they are not transmissible is that you cannot write it down and give that experience to somebody else. >> So here's the beautiful thing. You can't down you can't write down the experience but you can absolutely write down the process >> of finding that experience. >> Yes. So I'm with you. That is an individual journey. >> And I think this is where something really interesting. I don't know if this is like accurate or not, but I sort of noticed that all of our most common religions have spiritual traditions that are not necessarily the same as the religion. >> Yeah. >> So in Hinduism, it's really interesting because we have priests and then we have swamies. A priest is not a yogi. So the person who does the practice of the
religion is not the same as the person who sits in the Himalayas and meditates for 12 hours a day. And even if we look at like Christianity, you know, I I know. So I I read a Gnostic text for the first time. >> Which one? >> Um, Thunder Perfect Mind. >> And what I realized is, oh, I know exactly what this is. I I I read some stuff about it and people were like, oh, it's talking about this. I'm like, no, it's not. Thunder Perfect Mind is a series of meditation techniques. That's what it is, right? That that's what it's a series of meditations. And if you do these meditations and there's all kinds of stuff and I I think you know Sufiism was there, Cabala is there in Judaism, there's the Gnostic tradition. Every religion has this spiritual component which sometimes comes down to going to church, witnessing God. But you know, the whole thing is like you got to have fingers crossed, which is part part of the way why why it's designed because there's no definitive way to do it. You have to have God's grace to get it. >> There's a certain amount of surrender. There's a certain amount of ego that you have to get rid of in order to open yourself up to God. But there are a series of practices that you can do that will cultivate the right setting for God to pick up the phone. >> These are things that we will sort of use psychedelics. >> It's a very good evidence for the use of psychedelics. I was about to say. >> Yeah. So psychedelics will do this kind of thing where it it takes you to that state to a certain degree, but there's way way way further to go than what psychedelics can do. I I would say psychedelics take you to a helicopter to about 6,000 ft. You can go to 20,000 ft, 30,000 ft. Have experiences of Brahman. And this is where all of these like weird esoteric practices from the the science of yoga kind of like now that we have so much like mc mindfulness everywhere where everyone's got apps and stuff like that. We've lost a lot of the most important stuff that if you want to have a transcendent experience, there are things you have to do with your diet. There are things that you have to do with your respiratory rate. You have to set up your body's capacity to handle
metabolic acidosis because Yeah. >> And you've done this yourself. >> I will not answer that question. >> You can you can answer the question whether you've done it or not. >> I can I will not. >> Why? >> Uh the cost to my shaky is too high. >> So I I asked you this question before. Do you remember? >> What did I say? You told me that you have seen things and gone to a place. But when I asked you what you saw, you told me you wouldn't tell me. >> Yeah. >> But you're happy to say that you have done this. >> No, I didn't say that I have done this. >> That's what you said to me last time. >> Oh, yeah. Well, maybe I made a mistake. I mean, sort of. So, if that's what I said last time, that's my answer then. My answer today is I will not talk. I will not answer that question. >> And the reason you won't answer the question is because >> the depletion of the shaky is too high. >> And what does that mean? Okay. So, okay. So, >> it sounds like I'm locked out the house like I can't >> there are many reasons but okay. So, pansychism there's this idea that >> there's this weird collective consciousness that's the basic unit. I think we can easily call it God a relationship with that thing. So, I'm down here it's up there. So the key thing is if we look at psychedelic usage, if we look at dark night of the soul, if we look at these moments of rapture where you go into church and one of two things is happening. Either your psychological defense mechanisms are creating the ultimate cope and you're saying now I'm healed even though you're not or you actually have a direct experience of God and you are transformed. What is the nature of that transformation? It is the loss of ego. That is the most conserved thing. We surrender before God. Before God, we are nothing. Right? Doesn't matter which religion you talk to. This is all this is where I think that there's like evidence of truth with a capital T because human beings from all over the planet have done these explorations using the technology of our mind and our
consciousness and we arrive at very similar conclusions. So the beautiful thing is that when so when our ego is active in the most powerful way, it becomes narcissism also becomes things like depression. still actually a very ego. I'm terrible. I'm pathetic. I'm worthless. The world would be better off without me. The focus is on me, me, me, me, me. It's hyperactive default mode network. >> Mhm. >> So, in order to connect to the divine, you need to dissolve your ego as much as possible. >> So, the reason you won't tell me is because >> if I say it, my ego will increase. You also will not what what'll happen is you'll get an idea of it, right? The more I talk about it, the more that your mind will create a map without experience. So I do not discuss my experiences in meditation. What I will absolutely say though and this is what I love about it. Alex said this is the one thing we cannot stand on the shoulders of giants. You have to walk this whole journey by yourself. No one else can walk it for you. So I won't tell you how far I've gone. Maybe I'm a maybe I'm just, you know, talking Who knows? But what I will tell you is that you don't need the answer from me. Why are you asking me? Because you want to know then you walk it. >> If you see the Buddha, kill him. That's the meaning of this or the one interpretive meaning of this of this Buddhist Cohen is is stop looking for gurus and start looking inside yourself. >> Do you think I could then sit here and say what your experience is not true? And I >> absolutely. >> Yeah. >> Of course. >> And I could and I could pick it apart and stuff like that. >> Absolutely. So So this is the thing that I >> Is there any value in that >> from what? for me doing that to you. >> Of course, there's value for you if you wanted to. If you want to pick me apart, if you want to continue to live the life that you you live, if you want to continue to get five out of 10 meaning cuz you've accomplished a lot, if accomp you have a a lot of stuff, I mean, so
many videos that you have left, so many people that you help, millions of people across the globe, >> right? >> I say this because that's what's happening here. >> What >> that Alex is picking apart. >> Fine. So, so I have no problem with picking things apart. If you want to pick things apart, pick things apart. But be very clear about what picking things apart does. >> What does it do? >> So, it's it's a great question. I have a different way of answering it. So, when I listen to philosophers like these guys were just in it about evil and if if if evil was created when Eve ate the apple, was she evil when she made the apple? Right? It's so great. It's picking things apart. So, it's so interesting because as a psychiatrist, my training is actually the exact opposite. What I've trained myself to do is to twist and turn in mental gymnastics to understand somebody else's view. When a patient walks into my office and they say, "I'm suicidal," I don't want to pick their view apart. No, you have so much to live for. It doesn't work. I try to understand them. So, there is value to picking things apart in terms of political debate, in terms of you're arguing with your wife whether you should buy a car or lease a car. There are all kinds of values to picking things apart. But the question is, what do you want? Now, I think if you take Alex's road, which I think is going to change real quick if it hasn't. >> Why? Be honest. >> I think he he's going to go down the road of nosis if he isn't already. >> Nosis. What What is Nosis? >> Knowledge, >> Alex. >> Nosis is a it's a Greek term. Nosis means knowledge. Um but it's attached to I guess a kind of an ancient school of philosophy which believes that uh truth is is obtained from looking inward. >> Do you mean narcissism? >> Not not narcissism. So I I think if if you want to, Alex, it's not a philosophy. It's a practice. >> But what what do you mean when you say I mean Stephen asked you said I'm going to
go down a >> I think you got to walk down the Gnostic road. Dude, >> would you tell us what you didn't just say? You said you thought I was going to do that. What? What? What does it mean >> that I think you're going to do that? Or the the path of >> what is the thing that you think I'm going to? >> Yeah. I think you're going to have to start practicing Gnostic stuff. >> What's Gnostic stuff? >> What does that mean? >> So, Thunder Perfect Mind is a series of meditations. >> If you look at that and you do what it tells you to do, you will understand what the Gnostics understood. You have to walk that path that they walked. But doing so does not involve the philosophy of Nosis, >> right? that the part of Nosis I don't know what the philos I mean I get what you're saying from a philosophical perspective but the gnostics were p practitioners as far as I understand I read one gnostic text and I was like oh this is like a this is like a meditation as far as >> so what is it that makes you think why do you look at me and say that's I mean you've read one gnostic text >> I have an intuition >> so but I wonder what what you mean >> it's not explainable >> but but you have an intuition >> based on pattern recognition >> sure >> that an individual like Alex, >> I don't know. No, not pattern recognition. This is indefensible. >> Okay. >> I get told a lot by a lot of different people that I'm quite clearly on a particular road. Christians Christians very often >> say that it seems as though I'm on the verge of Christian conversion. And I think that's often just a result of having nice conversations with them where I don't jump down their throat and say, "Actually, there's some uh there's some truth in this or actually there are some good arguments of the resurrection of Jesus or this kind of stuff." And suddenly I have people saying, you know, he's so close. >> Is that kind of annoying? Clearly a man searching for meaning.
>> Something about tell us what Nosis is. You said it's a series of practices, but like what? So is, you know, so is vegetarianism. So like >> So I I think nosis from what reading one text, I'm not a gnostic expert. >> Okay. >> So there's a set of practices that if you do them have a high probabilistic chance of having a direct experience of God. >> Like what? So m chanting is a simple example but there are things that you can do to increase the likelihood of having a transcendent experience of chanting. So for example if you adopt siddhasan so siddhasan is a particular yoga posture where um your left heel is placed against the perennium of your >> body. So the perennium is the the taint the area between the anus and the scrotum. So if you also do certain bron practices, so these will do things that induce a very very very low respiratory rate and one of the things that we know about transcendental experiences is that high levels of CO2 tend to make actually we don't know this but this is kind of the best hypothesis that I've read that I happen to think is true that if we alter the neurons of our brain chemistry we can evoke transcendental experiences. So if you look at some of these esoteric traditions, what'll happen is is you have all of these different practices and as you do these practices, I think you are very clearly refining your physiology and your neurology to induce certain states. And let's remember that psychedelics don't create anything. >> Yes, >> psychedelics simply activate the circuitry that is already there >> or deactivate. Huh? >> Or deactivate >> or deactivate, right? >> But yeah, that's that's a crucial point to make. I I'd love to understand why you think he's going to go down that path. >> Let's call it intuition, >> but I I need something a little bit more than that. So, you're saying >> Okay. So, I I'll give you more. So, in um the system of So, can I answer truthfully or defensively? Truthfully, which ones do you guys want? >> Truthfully, truthfully. >> So, in the system of Kundalini yoga, there are seven chakras. So 21 years ago
20 almost 22 I went to a teacher who taught me the first of a kundalini practice which is based on the agna chakra. So the agna chakra is your third eye chakra and gives you it is the chakra that governs understanding. So if you want to understand things then agna chakra practices are the right thing to do. So many years ago, back in a former life when I was uh still an academic at at Harvard, I was trying to develop an evidence-based meditation program for different diagnosis. And part of what I leaned into and initial results were good, but never really, you know, then I started doing this. But so as one example, there's this chakra called the mooladhara chakra, which is our root chakra. So the muladhara chakra governs our primal impulses in life. So I looked at my patients with addictions and I was like okay these people have a problem with impulse control and they want something and they can't restrain themselves from getting it. So I wondered can I teach them mooladharak chakra practices to sort of basically like reduce their flow of wanting the basic things and I found that that was efficacious. Now meditation works for addictions then but the question is can we do a specific meditation for a specific mental illness. So there are there's one study for example that looks at anahhat or heart chakra meditation specifically for depression because it cultivates like compassion and self-love and stuff like that and they found it's a very small study hopefully the the we'll do more research in this but they found that the effect was superior to other forms of meditation. So hypothetically, theoretically, there are specific meditation practices which work in different ways and I teach a lot of this stuff in in Dr. K's guide to meditation and stuff. But so there are these specific practices. So I specifically did a a practice based on agnakra stuff like intuition, right? So then like something weird happens which is when I sit with people, I have intuitions about them. Now is this real? Is this fake? is a delusional I don't know. You could argue that I'm just a really good psychiatrist with really good cold reading, right? But I this is a I I don't So if you want to know the real answer, like I'm not a great psychiatrist. People think I'm so
brilliant as I'm not. I'm cheating. I'm using a a layer of information that I don't think most people have access to. Which I know is a completely undefensible claim. Except if you do agna chakra practices too, you will see what I'm talking about. >> Alex, if I were to ask you that if someone's listening now and they feel lost in their life, is there any advice that you could give them or a simple action that they could take that would help them to find to remove the feeling of feeling lost in life. Hm. It's always difficult because it's such an individual thing that it's difficult to give uh advice writ large. Um also because I'm no paradigm of meaning and purpose in life and not some fountain of wisdom from which people can drink. Um so I wouldn't presume to do so. But if a friend So if they came to me as I'm the guy on the camera with the microphones and stuff, so what do I do? I would say >> probably the reason a lot of people click this video. >> Yeah. I I would say that firstly stop doing that. Like don't stop clicking the video everybody. Like and subscribe. >> But stop thinking you're going to find some kind of teacher or guru who is going to give you the answer. Instead, the most valuable form of person to listen to, I think, and I found is somebody who's quite clearly also trying to do the same thing. There are people out there who think they've achieved certain things. They've they found meaning. They've understood the truth and you can learn a lot from them trying to explain their worldview to them. Um I don't claim to be such a person. So the only thing I can do is say like I'm actually doing this at the same time as you. So I can't give you advice from experience. I can't say here's what to do to find meaning. Here's what I did. What I can say is here are some things that I'm trying. For example, I'm really interested by this question of consciousness and what it means to say that reality is fundamentally mental and that we've made a mistake in thinking that complexity produces consciousness and rather complexity allows consciousness to do particular things like memory and emotion and stuff like
that. That's really exciting and there are some implications of seeing the world in that way. Implications about the the unity of experience. >> But you're saying pursue answers. Yes, pursue answers, but also try to try to try to experience it as you get like I I kind of depends who it is and I don't like to say on camera exactly, but psychedelics can be really really useful for a lot of people. They can if if you are not in the right mindset, as they say, if you're a bit disintegrated, if if like it can the reason I don't like to advise it is because it can bring about a very bad experience for a lot of people. >> But you're saying within the right certain setting, >> something like that might be what I'd recommend. It depends who I'm talking to, but there are friends in my life, for example, who I would say don't take psychedelics. You know, I'd like I from from from my experience, I just don't think it seems like the right thing to do. But there are other friends who I would say if you did in the right circumstance, I think this could this could blow open. >> Would you categorize yourself as being lost and directionless? >> To some degree, of course. Yeah. To to to some degree, everybody is. Um lost. Lost is is quite a heavy word. Like when people say, "I'm lost." By volunteering that information, they they tend to be implying that it's a strong enough feeling that they're troubled by it and want to make it. >> Are you happy? >> That's why people say it. But when when you ask >> Well, there are different questions here, right? Like, am I happy right now? Sure. Like tomorrow, maybe not across life. >> If you had to rate your contentment in life out of 10, I'll do the same. >> It's not It's not a very easy thing to quantify. Yeah, but I give do you think but I asked I've asked hundreds of people 400 people this question or everyone in the podcast has been I asked Dr. Okay, this question jump in and let me just finish this train of thought. So I can say to you for example, yeah, I'm like a five out of 10 contentment. >> Is that is that true?
>> Like maybe. Yeah, >> let's I'll give you a simple way to quantify. >> I I literally can't quantify. And the reason >> I'll give I'll give you a way to quantify. I'll give you the yard stick. So if you think about how old are you? >> 26. >> 26. So you think about this 26 years. >> Mhm. Has there been months of your life where consistently you've felt really fulfilled and positive for month, you know, weeks, months in a row? >> Um, probably. Yeah, I think so. >> Memory memory's difficult to >> When was the last time for a full month, for a full 30 days, you felt >> really good on average? >> Out of 10, what what counts? >> Really good on average. >> I don't know. It might have been usually when I have some kind of project. I as I said I think meaning is is intimately tied up to having a task to fulfill. So when I've been touring for the purpose of filming podcasts and doing talks and stuff like I feel pretty content because I wake up and I know what my task is for the day and I get it done. So on a on like a subjective psychological level those are probably the times when I wake up with the most let's say drive the feeling that I've got a task to fulfill. And are there days where you feel are there there weeks sometimes or months where you feel the opposite which might be characterized in a clinical context as depression? That's interesting. >> Can I ask why you you were interested in my in in my answers to those questions? >> I was trying to see how similar we we are. >> That's really it cuz we're both we both sit in the same agnostic camp, >> but actually we're we're very very different um in terms of our I wake up in the morning and I wake up this morning and I'm very happy and I feel very very driven and I couldn't wake I was actually the night before I couldn't wake up. I was annoyed I had to sleep because I couldn't wait to get up in the morning. And that's typically my experience. I'm like, I can't wait to get the sleep done with because I can't wait to get back to life. >> So, what's it all for? >> I don't really This sounds crazy. And it
also somewhat links to what you're saying about at the very beginning about people being really obsessed with not dying. >> I don't really care. I'm just having a great time. >> But that's and I love having these conversations because I get to I get to learn more about different people's strategies to having a great time and to making their lives more meaningful and more exciting on a daily basis. But is that that sounds quite nihilistic in a way because it you sound like Cohellet in the book of Ecclesiastes who's sort of eating and drinking and being merry who one day might look at it and realize that although you feel in the moment this is all very good it's it's all he and realize that there needs to be something more and I wonder if the same thing will happen if the if the north star that you have for your life and your projects and your career is that you just sort of feel good while you're doing it. you. And why isn't that good enough reason? Because because in your presumption there, you're saying because someday I might get hit by this bus of realizing that it was worth nothing. But for the for the 70 years up until I die, >> Yeah. >> I'm going to wake up in the morning, feel good. I'm going to love spending time with my girlfriend and my dog. >> Mhm. >> And whatever neurochemicals in my brain are going to reinforce me to keep doing that. And >> does it bring meaning? >> Yeah. >> What does that mean to you? Cuz because and the reason I asked that is because conceivably you can imagine someone who's happy but their life isn't meaningful and you can imagine someone who's suffering but their life is meaningful like a victim of the Holocaust or something right >> parents as well. >> And so you've got the happiness part but you also think that you've got sort of meaning and where's the what is that meaning and where's that coming from? >> So meaning for me is something that I create by the decisions that I take. And this might go down to what you were saying about having certain tendencies. I have certain tendencies. I have nature
and nurture acting against me to make certain things feel meaningful to me. >> Um, and one of those things is this pursuit of more information. I do it when you go and I get some free time tonight. I'll be on YouTube learning about humanoid robots or I might stumble across a video, one of your videos, which I've watched many times and I've watched your videos many times and I've watched your videos many times. Not because I necessarily believe I'm ever going to get to the final answer, because it's the the the doing itself that I find so enjoyable. And actually, I could kind of relate to the guy that knows the world's going to end but writes the book. >> Yeah. >> Because it's the it's the writing of the book that I love. >> So here here's what I think is beautiful. So I think if you guys go back and you watch this, every scientific principle is what Steven is doing. So self-determination theory, right? So he's self-directed. He stretches his capacities. He relates to other people. And I think this is it's it's a really brilliant example of sort of like this problem of finding like meaning with a capital M. And relates to this kind of idea of, you know, if you're feeling directionless in life, I don't know that you need to figure it out with a capital M. And if we listen to some of your questions, right, is it enough for you? And then Stephen's like, why wouldn't like, you know, why do you assume that you need? So there's sort of this very natural like reaction and then he's kind of like no I'm actually pretty content. And I think that my favorite thing about your answer is that getting as far as you have I think you've got your instinctual answer of five out of 10 is still correct because this is as far as you go and I think you feel this hunger for like something else and that thing is going to be big, right? And I I think that's that's what maybe Greg can help us out with, right? because and I think that's that's it's it's a it's a beautiful way of embodying I think how we find meaning in life. There's a bunch of psychological stuff that you can do, but it appears that doing some of this weird transcendental like you got to like find it in sort of this big way.
>> And I think you're a perfect embodiment of how far you can go. Let me offer a clarification based on the questions you're asking Alex because I feel in many ways very sympathetic to Alex as he described his subjective states. You know, are you happy? Are you fulfilled? Do you have meaning in your life? And I guess it I think the tendency sometimes is to talk to somebody who is uh very confident of their understanding of the big picture. >> Um and think that everything is going wonderful for them. You know, you look at their life say well everything is just great. Are you happy? I'm happy all the time. I have the truth kind of thing. But that's not exactly how it works. >> I'm fully convinced of the truth of the Christian worldview, God's existence, Jesus, all the things that relate to that human beings made in the image of God. I think it's the best explanation all things considered for the way things are. Nevertheless, I'm still a fallen human being learning to be virtuous with God's help. I am still living in a world that is fallen and broken, and I have to live with all the contingencies of a fallen world. So if you were to ask me the question that you asked Alex, I would have the same difficulty answering that Alex did because it's so variated one's life. When I wake up in the morning, do you feel good? Sometimes, sometimes not. Am I confident that no matter what happens in my life, the good, the bad, whatever, that there is a foundation there that gives me stability? Yes. Because I think that foundation, God, eternal mind exists and I'm in proper relationship with him. But part of the reality is this is a veil of tears. You know, how did Job Job put it? Something about the uh about the sparks flying upward. You know, it's like life is difficult. Uh actually, I like the saying life is hard and then you die. You know, it gives me a perspective on things. Jesus himself said in this world you'll have tribulation. >> Are you happy? >> That's the experience. But the underlying is be of good cheer. Jesus said because I have overcome the world. >> Are you happy? >> Well, we're back to that question again. I don't know how you characterize it. >> You said earlier on that you felt there
was a certain path that Alex was going to go down, but Greg >> not going to go going to go down >> should >> or something. >> It's ready for him. >> Okay. It's ready for him. But you didn't say that about Greg. >> Yeah. >> And so when you look at these two individuals Yeah. >> and you think about contentment and happiness >> and whatever that word is, >> can you can you feel with your intuition that >> sort of So first thing is this is where I know it's gonna sound insane. tanking my brand right now because I used to be believable I guess but um so first thing about intuition right if we look at intuition technically I can't activate it right when you have an intuition it comes >> it happens >> it happens so that's what's so frustrating about this is everyone thinks like okay if you do agna chakra sadena which is this weird third eye stuff then you can do this thing I can't do anything I am before god and when god chooses to let me know something. That's when I get it. Now, if I had to answer, I think I am not surprised about the difference in baseline contentment between these two people. Right? So, if you were to ask why do I relate to Greg in this way? Now, whether this is at a conscious level, neurological level, whether those whether there's truly a spiritual level or not, right? So, am I just reading into him, doing pattern recognition based on what he says and stuff like that? But that's not what my lived experience of of it is. I know this man has seen God. >> And it's it's not is it his behavior, his body language, his No, >> I mean, I don't think so. Right. So, so I I've met some people who have very unhappy lives who still have that foundation of spiritual contentment and some people who have very unhappy I can have unhappy life with spiritual contentment or spiritual contentment with a happy life or be have a great life and have no spiritual contentment. I think all all of those variables.
>> What about me? >> Yeah. >> What's your intuition about me? >> I think you're getting there way faster. You've changed from the last time I talked to you. I I think you're getting there and I I think you're going to get there. >> Oh, thank God. Where am I going to go? >> There being contentment, there being what? >> There. So, so this is this there is it's not something that can be put into words. I'm just going to call it there. >> If someone's listening right now and they feel stuck in their life, which is what I asked Alex, what is something that they can do tomorrow, a small step that they can take to become unstuck in your worldview? >> Yeah. So I I would start by sort you know Alex offered a beautiful answer and I I think he kind of mentioned that I wouldn't be arrogant enough to give people things because you know give people an answer because everyone's an individual and stuff like that and and so the funny thing is I I have a super concrete answer. I think the difference in sort of the way that I perceive it is I don't think you have to be someone great to do that. And that's I think precisely what sort of science tells us, right? like is that you don't have to be some enlightened being and I don't claim to be that I'm not a guru or anything like that >> you know so I I think it starts with understanding first and foremost that purpose how do you know whether you have purpose something within you tells you right you can have everyone in the rest of the world telling you oh you're doing great you're going to get married in a month you know there's a baby on the way you have a career you have all this stuff you should feel fulfilled so the first thing to understand is it is an internal feeling and then the question becomes how do we create how do we find that feeling? So this is where things that get in the way at the top of the list right now which Alex alluded to is technology. So unless you can feel what is going on inside you, you will never feel purpose. What are the things that get in the way of feeling? So when you feel bad, what do you reach for? Right? How do you manage those negative
feelings? And it's not about making the feelings go away or not making them go away. It is simply about stopping the process of severing yourself. That process is I I think alexathyia is what what I kind of refer to it as. That's colorblindness of your internal emotional state. Like I have a whole lecture about it, you know. So first thing you have to do is learn how to feel again. Because if you look at most people who are mean whose life has no meaning, what they're actually doing is trying to create a life that is running away from bad feelings. So I don't like the way I my boss yelled at me. I'm going to go to the bathroom. I'm going to pull out Reddit. I'm going to scroll on it. Whatever. Right? They're running away from the way that they feel. And it's not about good or bad. Just you have to reconnect with yourself. >> Second thing is focus on your ego and as best as possible probably for most people dissolving parts of your ego. And ego is anytime you say I am dot dot dot. It is what's that dot dot dot. So if I say I'm a doctor, that's part of my ego. I'm a man, that's part of my ego. So a lot of times what gets in the way of us finding purpose is what we believe we are. Right? So I I may think to myself, I am a doctor, I am this or I'm all all those I'm a loser, I'm an incel, right? So it's all of these identifications that get us away from purpose. Third thing to do is find your narrative sense of identity. So there's some ego dissolution practices like shunya meditation and stuff. And then third thing is we want to develop a story for ourselves. This is when people have purpose in life. What does that presume? That presumes that there's a temporal quality, that there's a directional quality. Does that make sense? Like purpose or direction is like literally moving from A to Z. So there's time and then there's like a particular distance that involves going through the most important emotional experiences of your life and stringing them together as a sense of who you are. And then I think the last most important step is recognizing that everything that has happened to you, I don't know if it's karma, I don't know if it's the will of God, whatever it has happened to you. It's made you in this way. But it does not determine your
future. Your future is determined by how you act in the now. And this is where I would lean into I would just go back and listen to the way that Steven talks about his life and try to do the same thing. So try to decide what your make a choice for today. Stretch your capacity and try to connect with another person. The last thing is if all of that stuff doesn't isn't sufficient or you want more, I would say engage in some kind of spiritual practice or go to church. Both work equally I don't know about equally well, but I think they're both options. So do the thing that appeals to you more. >> And the same question for you, Greg. for someone that's stuck, what do they do tomorrow to take an action to become unstuck in in your view? >> Well, there's a lot of practical things that have already been shared that I think are helpful. So, I have a very simple suggestion. Okay. Um, I have represented a particular view of the Christian worldview. didn't get into a lot of detail, but a lot of people have prayed a very simple prayer that has helped them at whatever junction they're at trying to figure things out. And this kind of goes to a point that Alex made earlier and it was a prayer that I turns out I prayed in 1973. I was in the army and I was in the middle of nowhere and I just prayed this prayer. And the prayer was very simple. God, if you're real, in the way that my brother, the Christian, was explaining to me, if you're real, I want to know it. Show yourself to me. That was it. There was no coconuts falling from the tree, no lightning or anything like that. It was just a man praying. Maybe the first real prayer that I'd ever prayed. But I do know that after that, things became more obvious to me. It's the best way I can explain it. Though I'm a Christian apologist, I make the case for the truth of Christianity. It wasn't any particular argument in that that persuaded me. It was more the experiential thing and not even a pizzazz thing just a deep awareness that this was true and this has set my course. Uh since then I there are a lot of people who prayed that simple prayer. It's a genuine prayer that people can pray and I've heard many people tell me that this is what happened to them even apart from my suggestion to it. So if people are
looking for ultimate purpose in their life, if they're looking for to do meaningful things, lots of suggestions on the table. If they're looking to integrate meaningful things into the ultimate purpose, I think that's the prayer they need to pray. I want to give you an opportunity, Alex, to um to give us deliver your sort of closing thoughts and reflections and and arguments. Well, um I want to re-emphasize that this topic of meaning and and purpose is difficult to even define, let alone communicate to another person. I think it's individual. Even if there is an objective meaning, even if God exists and Christianity is true, it's not going to be enough to just tell somebody about Christianity. They're going to have to live it, right? So, it's not going to be enough to just sit around reading. I also understand the sort of allergic reaction some people have to philosophy and you hinted at it earlier this idea that philosophy is just >> mind games >> literally philosophical like mass debating if you like you know we're just literally sat like throwing concepts at each other. Uh but on meaning and purpose, you're unlikely to find the best advice from someone who's never gotten out of that armchair. And even the person who has and claims to have experienced it for themselves and and knows what the truth is. I think anybody who says to you with a straight face, I know what the meaning in life is, is either lying or will instantly tell you that they're not going to be able to convey that information, at least not very easily. So, it's going to be difficult. And don't trust anyone who says you can do it in five easy steps on a podcast or something because I think we've got a bit of an endemic of that at the moment. People sort of just saying that they've sort of discovered this this path or this truth. And if only people would understand that the Stoics were right all along. Even though I don't care about any of their any of their philosophical views, just their ethical views. I don't even know what they thought about the nature of matter and stuff. Doesn't matter that that's why they thought the way that
they did ethically. you know, just become a stoic and everything will get better. Um, but I do recognize some of that and people saying do just become a Christian and it will get better too. Um, it's always got to be a bit more nuanced than that. So, >> Dr. K, your closing thoughts and arguments on this today's discussion, >> you know, to to kind of push back a little bit against uh what Alex said. So, I'm I'm with you that there's an endemic of five easy tips and and you know, as someone who is guilty of doing that and what I'll do is I'll I'll see especially so I I saw a recent study that showed that 95% of Tik Toks about ADHD are incorrect. And so there's there's absolutely an oversimplification that's going on. I think at the same time though we have such an amazing amount of knowledge as human beings. We have such amazing access to knowledge that human beings have. So the human race has so much knowledge and we have the greatest amount of access to it. And so while I don't think it is like as simple as one of the most shocking things as a psychiatrist you know who works with people is how little it takes to make a big change. Big questions and big changes don't always need big effort or big answers. It's it's such an interesting thing like you know when I talk to people who struggle with addiction for 14 years it seems to be a small thing that just clicks. And so I I I think the key thing for people is don't assume that just because you have a big problem, it requires a lot of effort. >> And and you know, I remember my daughter was trying to close a box, right? So there's like a box and she's trying to slam the lid, but the lid is not like oriented correctly. Does that make sense? So it kind of gets tilted and then no matter how hard she pushes, it doesn't close. And so in her mind, this is a problem that requires pounds and pounds. I need to be a full-g grown adult. No, you're just not doing it in the right way. Right? If if you understand a little bit how it works, if you sort of orient yourself properly and and I do think that I've seen time and time again, you know, that that in terms of an individual perspective, if you feel purposelessness, there's a reason
for that, right? We know that there's systemic factors. People are going to church less, people are using technology more. All of the way that the world has has been changed affects you once it crosses the barrier. The world is out there and then it crosses the barrier into us and then affects us. And that if you understand that process and if you change a couple of things and sometimes it's amazing how small they are, right? Like just waking up and making a decision for yourself, pushing yourself a little bit more. relatedness is the hard one because that requires another human being. But like it's amazing how much you can do with very little. >> Thank you. And Greg to close off your closing thoughts and perspectives. >> I thought I'd just given them a few moments ago, but um I guess the distinction that I I guess I want to emphasize is when it comes to purpose and meaning, I think actually meaning precedes purpose. You have to know who you are and why you're here. If you're here for any reason, before the purpose matches. Now, it turns out that there is no big picture. It's just you, then the purpose is going to reflect your individual desires at any given time and pursue that as long as you want. But if there is a grand purpose, that's the thing to discover. I'm convinced there is. And I think this is why we have this hunger for answering these kinds of questions. And uh there's a lot of variables that are involved here. But there and I mentioned before the things that stand out for me is we have this internal sense that I think is there because we are a spiritual being. People say, "Well, I'm a religious. I'm spiritual, but I'm not religious." And I said, "Of course you're spiritual. God made you that way so that you could know him." There is that element. This is subjective. Okay? I think we're all aware of it. And then there is objective things that we can appeal to. You mentioned earlier the resurrection of Christ, the existence of the world, the order that the world is in, the existence of morality, the existence of free will, all kinds of other things that are part of the package of the Christian worldview that are well explained by that worldview. And one of
the reasons that I'm a Christian is because I think it's the all things considered, it's the best explanation for the way things are. Not because all of the questions are answered for me. You embrace some issues that haven't thought about that. It's a mystery some of these things but life is filled with mysteries. All right. And this seems to be one mystery the big picture that is resolved by Christianity by the Christian understanding of reality. I call it the story of reality. >> Thank you so much for all being here today. It's truly fascinating discussion and it's it has actually pushed me forward. I shan share how it's pushed me forward but it's certainly pushed me forward in a number of ways and it's helped me to understand you all. I'm big fans of all of yours. Um, you all make a lot of great content on YouTube in various ways. Alex, I've watched your channel so many times. I've watched so many of your videos for so long because you help you kind of represent one part of my perspective and curiosity and you're a very um intelligent, thoughtful, philosophical uh master of of playing with ideas and you've really done your homework. So, it's fascinating to watch your YouTube channel. I highly recommend people >> That is quite the accolade. That's very kind. >> No, but it is that'll go on the front of my book. >> Good. Yeah. Yeah. and your book is on the way, which we're very excited about. >> One day, who knows? Who knows when, but it will come eventually. >> We'll keep doing what you're doing because, you know, you're you're a vessel for for for people. And um who knows where that vessel ends up going, but it's a very we all hope. >> And thank you, Dr. K. You're a master of what you do. And actually, when you talked about your your chakra, the one the one the intuition one, I was sat here giggling because I've never felt so naked in front of someone in my entire life as I do in front of you. And I can only attest to the the great work that you do as a result of that bizarre intuition. I think I told you the f I think I told other people after the first time I met you that I think you have a magic power and it's quite unnerving to be around someone that I
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