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the jurgen experience it's uh it's a strange time when it comes to the the reality of the differences between genders it's a very strange time because it doesn't it doesn't like no one's ever said like men are better than women or women are better than men we're just different things and transgender people are different as well it's all we're all just different we should be accepting of each other and loving of each other and give each other equal rights and laws and and respect but when it comes to athletics there's a reason why men don't compete against women and i had this bizarre conversation with this guy once who uh has this tv show where he kind of debunks things but when i got him alone to talk about these things like without a team of writers when you you leave someone to just their opinions and he had these sort of very progressive talking points that he would kind of blurt out but then when i started challenging him on these and going deep he realized he didn't even really think about this he just wanted to appear that he was progressive which i am i am a progressive person i know i look like a meathead but i'm very progressive yeah i just look at reality though i grew up with martial arts and with fighting and i know there's a [ __ ] radical difference between males and females it's radical it's not it's not small it's not subtle it's radical you mean in physical strength physical strength and violence and psychology and attitude and in competitiveness it's radical there's a radical difference and also there's a spectrum and some people are far more feminine than they are masculine and they happen to have penises and some women are far more masculine than their feminine they have to have vaginas but it doesn't change the norm it doesn't change and it certainly doesn't
change in the on the high ends of these spectrums you look at the high spectrum ultra female versus ultra male you're looking at two radically different things yeah yeah and i like really like what you said about i i'm getting emotional again um i like what you said about just accepting and understanding each other yes that to me you don't have to accept bad behavior you don't have to accept hurtful behavior but it does help us to really work hard to understand it so and those are the extremes of behavior um but you're right we're different and i think it's interesting and it's exciting the way that we're different the ways that we're different and testosterone really does help to explain so many of those differences so understanding that hormone helps us understand each other and i want it it helped me even though i have been teaching about this stuff for ages writing the book and especially reading about the transgender experiences help me to have sort of this epiphany so you can see how emotional i am right i'm like ultra emotional my husband is a british philosopher and he is not uh he doesn't get angry he doesn't uh really express a lot a huge range of emotion he's a wonderful guy and i love him but i've always kind of picked on him and thought there was something wrong with him for not being more emotional not being able to have these long conversations about emotions and psychology and what happened in his childhood to make him like that and i have a temper he doesn't have a temper i cry during lecture and can't even and cry at home and you know can barely control that my epiphany was i'm not better than he is because i'm so in touch with my emotions i have issues like he probably has issues too
but he doesn't have to come to be closer to me in my way of being in the world i need to work on accepting who he is he's an awesome guy and i was always trying to get him to be more like me and i think women really want men if they're in heterosexual relationships to be more like them emotionally but i had this epiphany like no it's working out and our marriage would be better if i just shut up about some of the getting him to be more emotional all the time i need to take the gifts that he's giving me and i have to look at myself and where my emotionality which i'm you know getting emotional again um but that was all through learning about like learning more about this hormone and what it does it's just who he is as a man it's not that all men are that way but it did help me just the understanding helps us to accept each other and that's sort of one larger point in the book that i don't try to make so explicitly but i hope that um and again i don't mean we have to accept bad behavior but we can try to understand these extremes of male behavior that are disturbing and more disturbing than extremes of female behavior you know i can cry and have a fit but i'm not raping anybody um well because that's an extreme that's a bad extreme of male behavior that we need to understand but let's understand like where that's coming from instead of shutting down the conversation or shaming men for just being men who are all men are being blamed for the extremes of male behavior they that's ridiculous in my view catch new episodes of the joe rogan experience for free only on spotify watch back catalog jre videos on spotify including clips easily seamlessly switch between video and audio experience on spotify you can listen to the jre in the background while using other apps and can download episodes to save on data cost all for free spotify is absolutely free
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