recently at my job we got a new supervisor one who happens to be retired army after 20 years he and I had a pretty heavy run-in – which resulted in getting HR involved the end result was that I would not be written up for what he claimed I was doing he tried to make an example out of me almost as soon as he got here assuming I was easy – he assumed I was an easy target anyways to the point even though he and I had a falling-out I’d still like to see the guy succeed at his job and become a great leader after listening to your podcast over the last month I’m making an effort to improve our relationship at this job instead of just avoiding the man I’ve reached I’ve recently purchased your book extreme ownership how would you suggest I present this book to my new supervisor and read or to read without him feeling as if I’m belittling him as to say he needs work on his leadership I think he could benefit from it greatly good question yeah it’s actually a question I’ve answered on here before but I’ll answer it again because I even learned when I repeat sure this is my latest version of what I tell people in the situation yeah updated version sir cuz you get better at things you figure out better ways to overcome challenges especially when you’re presented with the same challenge over and over again which I kind of am yeah some challenges like this one so here’s what here’s what you do you give it to him and you say you know hey boss or hey person hey I got this book and I’m trying to really emulate the principles that are in this book it really hit me and I would I was wondering if I could ask you a favor if you could just look through this book kind of see what the principles are and then if you see me falling out of line with the principles that are in this book let me know so I can fix them basic things like if I’m not taking ownership of problems if I’m if I’m not keeping things simple if I’m not supporting other people around me covering and moving for them just let me know that’s all I’m asking because I’m really trying to do a better job could you do that for me so then the person says well yeah okay fine you know and then they read the book and when they read the book sure there’s a chance that they’ll be thinking like oh this book is about everyone else and it’s not about me right all right that’s possible there is also a chance a higher chance that they read the book and go move I make a lot of excuses and I blame other people all the time I’m probably not doing a great job as a leader and that might be subconscious I see that sometimes now where people are subconsciously making adjustments because they don’t want to admit that they’re the person that’s that that the problem they don’t want to admit that they’re the problem so they make these little adjustments kind of subconsciously other people will tell me that the boss is like changing oh yeah they’re they’re changing their game they won’t admit it but they are changing their game so that’s what you hope for is that they do they go through that trance that transformation from you know not taking ownership and treating people bad and not trying to build relationships and all that stuff that makes them into a bad leader into taking ownership building relationships covering moving keeping things simple all the stuff that makes you a good leader that’s what the hope is now there’s also a chance that this person’s gonna hold a grudge mmm right we we got a deal with that and I’ll Tarrant Lee talking to someone that had stepped on the toes of another business another division inside their business another sales division and you know salespeople are sort of known for being a protective and aggressively protective of their territory well this guy kind of stepped into their territory a little bit cause cause some bad bad vibes giant rift knees you don’t know what should I do you know I I feel like all this animosity now and it’s one of those times where I just said to myself well what would I actually do if I was in that situation how would I try and get this problem solved well what I would do is walk up to the person who I stepped into their territory and cause problems and I’d say hey hey I want to tell you I totally was out of line when I stepped in your territory that that was completely my fault and you know I was just got target fixation which is bad I didn’t talk to you which is bad I stepped into your world which is bad and I left the disaster and I I’m sorry that’s that all that stuff everything that I just said all my fault and I want to let you know that I completely recognized it and number one anything I can do to try and redeem that and make it up and make you realize that and anything I can do to support and help you move forward I don’t I will not let that happen again I just want to let you know that so boom just step up be humble apologize and say hey can you what kind of you to help you what can I do support you that’s where I would go with these with this question and then it’s sort of an addition to that question yeah yeah it’s kind of like you know when you when you give your boss the book right and be like hey this is what I’m doing is that kind of like when you when you get you know like it’s on my hands bad bad breath and then you put in gum you know you eat some gum and you say hey you want some gum yeah yeah it’s very similar you just break out the gum you know I always like to do this you know just to make sure I was like to have a piece of gum just to make sure you know yeah not funny or you want one yeah yeah you could have yeah you might want to take two
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