how do self awareness self assessment and self-improvement begin and how do they continue over time well they’re all tied together and it starts with being self-aware with being able to detach because if you if you can’t detach from yourself then you can’t see yourself and so people ask well then how do you detach from yourself how do you learn to do that and a good drill for this is try to imagine the way other people see you and what other people are thinking of you and one place where this happens and it definitely happened to me is when I started getting put in charge of things I started thinking about other people’s perspectives what are they seeing if you’re in charge then what are your subordinates see you do what are your subordinates here you say what kind of representation are they receiving in if you work for someone else it’s the same questions what does the boss see me do what does the boss hear me say what kind of representation am i making of myself to my boss and then you start thinking about what are your friends and family think what do they see what do they hear and so the question becomes how well do you represent yourself what shortfalls do you have now when you first start looking it’s like you’re looking at an overgrown lawn there are some big obvious problems so you do a broad just kind of general cut of the grass you fix some of the big easy problems that are obvious or once you’ve done that you’ve gotten rid of some of those big obvious problems you notice some more detailed problems say then you handle them and once you’ve got those handled you see even smaller and more detailed issues so you start trying to fix them and that’s what you do with yourself you continually detach and then you look and then you refine and then you detach and then you look and then you refine and then you detach and you look and then you refine that’s what you do that’s how you get better and that process doesn’t stop it can’t stop because if you stop refining then and then the weeds grow back and the next thing you know you can’t see yourself anymore and you can’t see yourself anymore when you stop looking at you yourself then you accept you accept anything and that’s wrong don’t accept the faults don’t give yourself the benefit of the doubt you’ve got to be your own harshest critic and hold the line and don’t let go
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