how do you apply the principle of building a relationship with your boss when your boss doesn’t value relationships for example he consistently avoids interactions that don’t lead directly to a deliverable on a current objective he avoids all other interactions such as those that are for the purpose of building relationships and chemistry within the team okay what would I do in that situation well then obviously what I would do is I would build a relationship based on deliverable current objectives right if that’s what he’s into I’m gonna make that happen like I’m gonna be the guy that he thinks can get this to happen and that’s what our relationship is gonna be based on and I’m fine with that when he wants to talk about work I’ll talk about work I had bosses like that had plenty bosses like that and what do you do when you have bosses like that and play the game like okay we’re gonna let’s just make this happen let’s do this now let me say this because he isn’t personable this means that you have to be more personable not so much with him but with the rest of the team because there’s a lacking element within the team that you as a good team player and team member and leader whether you’re in a positional leadership or just a human leader you can improve the team by building some of that human connection that Bond’s the team more so even though my boss is in personable and it’s just about the business and just about the current objective that’s fine with me I’m gonna do my best to support him and make him realize that I’m gonna con the guy that’s gonna make those objectives work and I’m gonna build the human connection with the rest of the team which will make our team stronger now I am NOT going to offend my boss by being the guy that is more popular than him some people have some some people that have the attitude that this individuals talking about would you call this person just just like 100 percent work focused if I got a guy that it’s 100 percent work focused sometimes that kind of boss finds the person that wants to annoying yeah right annoying which is possible so you don’t want it you don’t want to be you don’t want to annoy the boss and he thinks all this all this guy joggle he just wants to build friends he’s not here to work no you got to be careful about that and the weird thing is honestly I’m very work focused I’m very work focused and I have to like I don’t really have to do anymore but I used to think I’d have to consciously think about okay on top actually I still do have to do it sometimes you know like I have to consciously think about like okay I also need to like be nice and build relationship with the person that I’ve don’t normally interact with right so you you do have to do that so form the relationship with the rest of the team the good relationship and then form the best relationship that you can with the boss and that is gonna help the whole team that’s it it’s as simple as that and I’ll say one more thing about this you don’t get to pick your leader generally you don’t get to pick your leader but you can pick the relationship that you have with your leader so if what your leaders into let’s get in the game let’s build a good relationship a once again if someone’s out there thinking oh so you just want me to kiss ass what I’m saying is not that I want you to kiss ass I’m saying I want you to win that’s what I’m saying because the better relationship you build with your boss the more influence you have over them the better chance you have of getting promoted the better chance we have of accomplishing the mission and taking care of your team that’s that’s the way it works now I don’t want to get promoted so I can get more money for myself no I wanna get promoted so I can do the mission so I can take care of my team that’s why I want to get promoted mmm if it was just about like taking care of myself I wouldn’t go work for this guy I’m gonna find another job and pick a different boss because you do get to pick your boss you can quit your job mmm quit your day job so that’s what you do you build that relationship see hard as it is get something yeah that’s a good point with the deep within kind of the details of it where you can’t just start trying to chat the guy up or not he doesn’t like that ya know one does actually yeah and if you’re a social person but you’re let’s say you’re just focused on something you know and I don’t know you folks and your friend calls you and you’re like oh they called me might be important yeah and they’re telling you about you know the episode of whatever last night and you’re like Brad I’m working right now but I don’t watch TV yeah oh me again oh yeah now you’re going to step further than I had in mind but I’m just saying that that’s annoying no matter who you are so if you’re thinking you know this boss is like he’d he doesn’t like to quote unquote build build relationships and like all the stuff is only then you’re gonna you really run that risk of annoying yes you got a big step back toccata me thank God isn’t dichotomy but there’s little and usually it has to do with time too you know so if you go in and you just go just little digs of like relationship building stuff but not don’t take don’t go in there be like hey did you catch the game last night do that I don’t wanna tar-like wrong I don’t care I can stuff but you know I don’t know nice tie boom out you know next question the guy that’s a high-level worker does not want to hear about his tie he does not care about his time yeah but actually no he’s a lot of people but yeah and I don’t know I haven’t been in the corporate scenario I think my whole life but a long thing about your shirt but no yeah leadership yes I’m cut for sure and the point is there’s things you can say that don’t take up his time and necessarily his full attention to annoy him that you can say or do something I don’t know what that is cuz I don’t I don’t I don’t work with you guys
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