I’m a young warehouse manager that takes ownership for anything and everything that goes wrong this seems to offend my coworkers how can I fix it okay classic dichotomy leadership question right there you’ve gone too far that’s what’s happened you’ve gone too far so what you have to be do what you have to do is don’t be offensive when you take ownership when you take ownership you can’t be offensive when you take ownership some people get offended by that so when you say hey you know what this is mine I got this that bothers some people when you say you know what this is my fault now I’m gonna fix it that even that offends some people what the tone just a tone yeah I’m like no this is a my fault I got this and you do that three day three times four times five times and awesome because I want everything is his fault not he’s gotta fix everything they he doesn’t think I can fix it right you can offend people with everything with all kinds of stuff you have to work very hard to offend people mm-hm I mean there’s people get offended when you say something nice to him you know what I mean if you know what I mean oh yeah I was watching uh I met I met the universe and the yoga dude that does like yoga videos he’s got red hair his name is Spears yeah I met him just randomly getting off the plane but he’s he what I as its peers or Sears Sears I think it’s yours maybe what I say Spears yeah yeah yeah yeah very funny guy very cool guy and I was once I met him I was laughing I was checking out a couple of videos but one of them was you know how to be offended yeah and all things it’s it’s it’s hilarious because that’s exactly what people the people who some people can get offended by anything yeah so that’s what you got to watch out for even when you’re taking ownership people can actually be offended by that if you go too far so instead of old fertile II stepping up and taking ownership in this particular case and you can tell but what what’s going on here my brother here young warehouse manager he’s fired up he wants to make things happen he wants to get after it and so what does he do he’s like oh I read extreme ownership I’m gonna take ownership of everything and that’s a great attitude to have except for you can offend people when you go too far cuz you got to read the second book that I got so that you could you can balance that out a little bit so instead of saying like hey this is mine I’m gonna take ownership of this and make it happen instead you you know you look and so you say hey you know what do you want me to take care of this oh hey you know what that’s probably in my department you want me to take care of that so that way get away or like hey it seems like this should be something I should take care of you want me to handle that instead of me me me me I got asked a question the other day at a QA in the court the question started off with the the person started the question with I’ve got the moat I’ve got the question that everyone in here needs answered so out of the gate I was like okay so we have a situation here right because that immediately tells you that in that person’s head they’ve got they’ve got the question that everyone needs answer so there’s already an ego scenario happening like out of the gate so same thing here you don’t know if you’re gonna touch someone’s egos right and so when you say look this is my deal and I’m gonna fix it like some people will take offense that so again you soften those a little bit try and give credit up the chain of command right try and give it credit down the chain of command instead of all take ownership it’s like hey we got what if you say we when when credit gets dulled out get past that credit on pass it to your peers passage your subordinates pass it to your boss so that’s it take ownership what you need to do at this point young man is take ownership of being offensive and when you do that you’re gonna be less offensive you’re gonna be more covert hey guess what remember I said earlier like you don’t get to pick the boss you you don’t get to pick your boss you but you get to pick the relationship you have a go you don’t to pick your your Pierce you don’t get to pick your support us you get your team okay hey can you pick them yes you can quit your job can you hire the right people yes you can but look what you got is what you got you gotta work with it you know everyone man I wish everyone was more fired up like I am like that’s not gonna go well you know is it it’s great that you wish that that’s not gonna go well what you have to do is you gotta you got it you got him here’s another one this is similar right Millennials well hey one of the things that what a thing this is a very simple you know I’ve done the Millennium questions a thousand times and you know the Vietnam veterans that Vietnam draftees compared to the like hey we can talk about that again we don’t need to but if you’ve got up if you’re in charge of Millennials and you think to yourself Millennials thinks everything’s they think everything centers around them what do you do as a leader yeah you know what I do as leader I make everything center around them and they perform and then they get after it and as they grow up they learned that everything doesn’t sit around them but I bring them there why because I form a relationship why because I listen to him why because I understand mm-hmm so you don’t get the team that you want you don’t get the boss that you want what you do is you play the game up and down the chain of command and form relationships up and down the chain of command that you want hmm what relationships do you want from up the chain of command you want them to listen to you you want them to give you what you need to do you want them to get out of your way and let you do the mission what about down the chain of command you want them to support what’s happening you want them to get after their job you want them to step up and lead that’s what you want hmm if you have an antagonistic relationship because your Millennials think everything’s about them well then guess what you’re not gonna be able to have any influence on them any real influence you can have the imposed will on them mm-hmm but the imposed will is a is a paper tiger right it’s not real it only lasts when you’re there and guess what they’re doing they’re looking for another job so take ownership of being offensive and be less offensive and more Cofer and can you know what young warehouse manager keep getting after it and it will pay off and the fact that your des fired up and you’re crushing it crush it with a little bit more tact and you’re gonna one day you’re gonna be making it happen yeah only got time for one more question yeah to add though a little tip I think that I think you taught this to actually I realized this when I embraced extreme ownership you can’t say hey I’m gonna take extreme ownership of this like it’s one of those things it’s like just like taking the high ground right get in like a thing with somebody yeah you can’t say I’m gonna take the high ground and then it doesn’t work like that like it really just gave up the high ground when you announced that you were taking the high ground gave it up exactly right same thing with extreme Watership like in my situation so if you’re a very good point at court and the thing is I get it man when you’re like you know I’m taking and he even said I take ownership of anything and everything that goes wrong anything like straight up he’s your guy right so it might indicate he’s doing this but he could be going hey guys no worries I’m taking extreme ownership of this situate you know like if you say that kind of stuff yeah I could see a somebody what’s odd and this is a very good thing to understand about human nature everyone’s jealous of you everyone’s jealous of each other everyone’s jealous of everyone else no one wants you to win right it’s just like so when this guy is stepping up until the crowd starts to pick at him they start to pick at him and they want to make him they want to pull them apart that’s generally what the crowd wants to do to you when you step up when you elevate yourself generally wants to pick at you and pull you down obviously think you yeah exactly exactly so if you’re aware of that then you can combat it by when instead of elevating yourself in a overt manner wherever and see you saying I’m gonna take ownership this right now and get it soft no use if I can say hey you know what this is probably my fault do you do you want me to let me let me try and take some time to get it fixed everyone goes they are actually kind of happy they’re like yeah it was your fault they kind of they’re kind of like it’s okay with them where as opposed to I’m gonna take ownership there’s this is dichotomy leadership you’re red extreme ownership awesome you gotta read dichotomies you
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