I’m about to accept a position across the country after changing the IT field I work in I’ve just been accepted for my first job and in this type of position with the amount of responsibility I’ll have and I’m not or I’m having some issues and some have it hesitation zon if I’ll be good enough have you ever been in a position before where you tried to bite off more than you can chew professionally how do you approach it and is there ever a time where you think it’s best to bow out and quit and if so how do you know when that point is so actually most people get hired into leadership positions they haven’t been in before The Seagull teams is all about that you get promoted you do that leadership job and just as you’re getting the hang of it you get promoted again so there’s nothing abnormal about feeling that you aren’t quite ready for a leadership position and the reason that some people fail when they get to these positions that they’re not ready for is because they’re nervous that they’re gonna show that and so they try to hide it they’re afraid to ask questions they’re afraid to say they don’t know so they end up looking scared and stupid hmm which equates to looking incompetent and I mean even just with the beloved captain they they actually kicked off there’s a reason this guy included those statements in there that he asked questions and asked for guidance and admitted his mistakes there’s a reason that he was beloved that is one of the reasons and so so so that’s what you gotta do is be okay with it don’t try and hide it now to bow out and quit I have not done that but there’s no reason to because if I don’t know how to do something I have no problem asking for help up and down the chain of command up and down the chain of command nothing wrong with that and I’ve said this before that what what you’re feeling person that asks this question what you’re feeling that you weren’t good enough and that you don’t want to blow it those are actually signs of humility and it’s okay those are good I felt those feelings my whole career and I still feel them now and when I was in the SEAL Teams I would over prepare for things and it wasn’t because I thought I was gonna dominate it was cuz I thought I was gonna fall short it even I was telling you I prepared for the podcast all yesterday I thought I was good literally had printed out my notes woke up this morning worked out and I was like no I’m not ready I over prepare for this why because in my mind I’m feeling that I’m gonna blow it yeah I don’t like that bro there’s the thing it’s like a for-real thing it’s called impostor syndrome you ever heard of that no but it’s this and I think you know what I think I think everyone has it in whether bit or or a lot it’s where you it’s basically you feel this you feel like I’m like on the inside like I’m really not this good you can be like champion of the world on the inside you’re like it’s just a matter of time before they find me out you know I don’t know I don’t deserve to be here whatever that I wish more people would have that because there’s a lot of people that I know that have been leadership positions that feel that they have the divine right yeah to be there a lot of times if they’ll have it they’ll behave in that all day yeah but you say you do that’s why they fail that’s so rehash as always bottom line be humble study and learn what you can ask questions and if you don’t know something admit it now I had to make this note and I’m cautious to even say this but I do have to say it asking questions doesn’t just mean putting your ignorance on clear display all the time okay when you ask questions make sure you are asking thoughtful meaningful questions if in fact if you can find out the answer on your own do that if it’s something that you can refer back to and you can look up and you can back you can check out the org chart you can see where that department is or you can find out who’s running that project without having to ask that question do that because contrary to popular belief there actually is in fact such a thing as a stupid question and you can get away with it sometimes so you don’t need to be hyper paranoid about it but you also part of leadership is confidence and up and down so you gotta have some confidence and you people have to have some confidence in you and if if you don’t know anything and you can’t figure it out for you can’t figure out some portions of that on your own that’s not a good sign because I just expect if you’re gonna be in charge of me that you couldn’t look that up you didn’t you didn’t review this before you came in here I know you don’t know my job but you should at least know what the requirements of my job are you should at least know what the outcomes at a strategic level of my job are right you see what I’m saying there’s a difference so you don’t have to go in there and be overly humble you don’t have to go in there and be overtly blank a wide-open with what you with what you don’t know mm-hmm because again I was cautious to make this note because this doesn’t I will you should feel comfortable enough saying hey I don’t know how to do this or hey can you explain that the way that works to me can you explain what this project you know what this project entails there’s nothing wrong with that there’s nothing wrong with that but if you go into a room and you accidentally ask a question of something that everybody legitimately should know you’re gonna look stupid right that’s a mistake that’s a mistake yeah and so don’t do that it’s okay be humble ask questions but ask thoughtful questions meaningful questions that you don’t know because it’s would be pretty difficult for you to know the answer yeah yeah it’s I mean it kind of seems obvious when you say it out loud where you’re not gonna know everything know so that makes sense but bro you got it no song she’s gotta be there for a reason you can’t be like hey I don’t know nothing I shouldn’t be hearing and that’s another thing from the beloved captain where he says for a few days he didn’t do anything yeah guess what if you can observe for a few days you’re probably gonna answer a bunch of questions just for the observation of taking notes and getting back and maybe conferring with your trusted agent or your senior enlisted guy or your your superintendent you can confer directly with them and keep that build that relationship yeah while you’re garnering information mm-hmm yeah don’t be that guy try not to yesterday
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