don’t get your expectations too high yeah which is which is what we have to watch out for because we meet you know jessica julia and she’s good looking and she’s nice to you and so you take that trajectory of the first two data points that are both pointing up and you just turn that into freaking an angel yeah you know what i’m saying with a future with a future with kids like the whole nine yards you have two data points yeah one she’s cute two she’s nice to you at that moment you take those two data points and run freaking buck wild yeah for a female you take a dude he’s a handsome dude and he’s nice to you there’s two data points and you’re going thinking that this is it this is this is the one do not do that gather more data you can you observe yeah right if you’re looking if you if you’re walking up to a um a cave and you thought there was a lion in there right are you gonna do you want to gather some data like you see some let’s see you see some lion scat outside right sir hell yeah let’s see you see some lion prince outside you got two data points could there’s there’s seems like there’s a lion in there do you go running into the cave looking for the lion no you don’t so let’s not do that here let’s stay outside the cave gather more data points without running into the cave is my recommendation here’s another thing and this is kind of along the same lines people aren’t who you want them to be they are who they are and you can’t confuse those things and you can’t think that you’re going to take someone who is the way they are and change them in to who you want them to be now how do we not get hurt i’ll tell you how you don’t get hurt when you stay outside collecting data points you don’t over commit when the lion comes out or the lioness comes out with its mouth dripping with blood and you see it from 200 yards away through your binoculars you go oh cool good to see that now i didn’t lose my larynx you know what i’m saying sure now i didn’t get my head slashed apart so when you see when you get to see someone when you get more data and you realize that someone isn’t who you thought they were you go oh cool i’m glad i didn’t invest a bunch of time money commitment effort into this relationship when all that would have happened is i would have gotten my heart ripped out and eaten yeah walk away don’t look back don’t be a jerk about it but say hey jessica it was awesome to know you i really appreciate it look you know i’ll see you out sometime then walk away and don’t look back what we do is we look back what we do is not we just look back we start walking back we crawl back we see if they’re looking we try and get their attention it’s a freaking disaster walk away don’t look back sounds like a song you might be writing but you’re well here’s the thing this very well could be a woman by the way a female yes and i i’m kind of talking from the male perspective yeah because i’m a male yeah yeah and as i was wondering like well you know what’s different for it’s not it’s actually not i don’t think it’s any different yeah i think it’s the same a woman should do the same thing look if the relationship is worth it and it’s meant to be and i hate to say that because it sounds super cheesy but if it’s meant to be it you’ll be good and that’s like a big thing that goes along with your data point theory hypothesis whatever is like you know because the big thing and let’s face it we we know a lot of navy seals and there seems to be i don’t know one data point they’re going and here’s the thing no they they get a bunch the ones i’ve known anyway some of the other they get a bunch of data points and a lot of them are red flags but they seem to just you know bypass those red flags and just look at maybe the one or two good data points or whatever and then they base the future on that or whatever yeah well okay so here’s a good addition to my comment yeah gather more data points and read them and and utilize them in the calculus of your forward movement because you’re right i’ve seen some of my friends man you see mega red flag data points there’s one awesome data point which is oh she’s beautiful yeah oh yeah that’s the data point and then the other data point is she’s psychotic she is an alcoholic she is from uh uh insane background her environment is crazy and what’s the guy think yeah dude i’m little married oh yeah exciting you meet a hot girl mm-hmm and they’re super hot and they’re impressed that you’re a navy seal right we’re kind of going in the right direction hell yeah and kind of a big deal you know like i mean you know guys with jobs that they like regardless of sealed nut seal you can go you’re i don’t know stock broker and someone’s impressed with that oh you kind of want to get get you know you want to be around that that little environment right my wife i told my wife was in the navy when i met her which was true and she didn’t seem to be impressed with that at all maybe after a little while of knowing her i was like well i’m in the seal teams and she was like oh well and that’s what i found too and this is i don’t know i don’t know everybody you know and i can’t read minds to be honest with you we figured that out last broadcast but it did seem like how you throw the butt you constantly say you’re not a mind reader but you always throw a button but i see behavioral patterns but this is just in my experience and i don’t know everybody like i said i don’t know everybody i’m saying for what it’s worth this is my experience then my interpretation or misinterpretation i don’t know where girls or groups of girls like if they know what a navy seal is and they like it they’re impressed by it they’ll be around and girls who don’t know what navy seal is it’s like okay you’re military it’s either military non-military to them and they don’t know like probably your wife was they’re not impressed with it they’re just like whatever cool you have a job so that’s the the reason they’ll be out but the people who do know what it is the girls who do know whatever it is oh they love that thing they’re using the jargon or whatever and it seems like there’s little groups of them that’s what it seems like you’re correct there are yeah so i’m saying if you cut if i’m a navy seal and of course i love being a navy seal and i go and i come across one of these groups and i see one of the hottest one in the group and she’s impressed with my impressive job and she’s letting me know that’s a point pleasure for me so we have a data point one of the many yes sir a very pleasurable data positive a data point that gets calculated within 20 seconds oh yeah what do you do so that’s what i’m saying data point calculated check rock and roll yeah yeah maybe not maybe try to uh uh be on the lookout for those red flags yeah and look man i think i really kind of summed it up it’s like go slow man don’t over commit right go slow yeah go get crazy you know and and to your point which is difficult is that you’re like that kind of ruins it right because we like to be oh oh yeah jessica it does it’s like no dude she’s not so great she might be yeah but just take it easy dude i don’t know when yeah it’s the risky run for sure you know because the you know the the better it can be the worse it can be and then if you dumb it down to like hey i’m gonna take my time and detach and be like less emotional or whatever like don’t you kind of put a limit on the goodness of it it’s weird because it’s like you’re out at sea at a storm in a storm and you want to catch some of those big waves when you’re out there but you want to be safe when when you’re you don’t get smashed and drowned either sure which so it’s like this weird balancing act you gotta you gotta kind of have a big one too is people they try to force stuff to you know like oh i’m thirsty they and this person indicated their age like around 30 right where that’s kind of the time right where people are starting to be like oh i’m not in a relationship you know all this stuff and then they start actively searching for a future husband and wife you know a bad move that’s what i’m saying just actively searching is a bad sign and people can smell intent and now you’re on the whole totally wrong path don’t do that yeah we should have that’s a good good catch yeah so don’t force that kind of stuff don’t be like hey let’s meet my parents on like the second date or whatever the thing is everything we’re saying everything we’re saying is in support of that because if you’re out looking for if you’re out look going into the cave they are like what are you doing to my camera right now are you doing that what are you doing no one invited you in here no knock freaking no knocking rolling into the cave no so don’t go you know sit back use your binos your binoculars look at from a distance stay away by the way guess what’s going to happen they’re going to come out looking for you because they’re interested and now you have a little bit of a better advantage yeah right you’re not looking stupid no that’s bad to look stupid so i don’t know kind of gotta let it happen naturally you ever have a friend who tries to force it for like they try to accelerate the friendship like quicker yeah dude people don’t really do that with me yeah i could see how that can be for sure but you know guys people do that sometimes you know it’s like oh i’m new to the town or whatever hey you wanna anyway you gotta let that stuff develop naturally that’s what i’m saying i used to feel like you were kinda like that [Music] see what you’re doing right now this makes me not want to hang out with you kind of want to go home you
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